Hard time finding appropriate Mother's Day card...

[luvmyboys]

Anyone else have a weird/strained relationship with their mother, yet still want to find a card for M-day? It's so hard to find one that isn't mushy & full of "you're such a great mom," but also isn't a generic, "cold" card that just says "Happy Mother's Day."

Maybe I am just too picky, as I have an incredibly sensitive mom who reads into everything (gee, wonder where I got that part from). I spent an hour at Hallmark and came out w/ zip! Just a vent...

 

[beckmrk04]

Anyone else have a weird/strained relationship with their mother, yet still want to find a card for M-day? It's so hard to find one that isn't mushy & full of "you're such a great mom," but also isn't a generic, "cold" card that just says "Happy Mother's Day."

Maybe I am just too picky, as I have an incredibly sensitive mom who reads into everything (gee, wonder where I got that part from). I spent an hour at Hallmark and came out w/ zip! Just a vent...

Yes!!! I totally understand!

So- my solution is to get cards that make me sound great. As in, "You can't be all that bad, because I'm fantastic!"

Actually- this is what mine says this year:

"We thought about sending you a dignified elegant Mother's Day Card......


(open) But we were afraid if we did you might not know it was from US!"

 

[luvmyboys]

That is a good idea... I always have trouble getting my mom humorous cards though. She was born w/out a sense of humor! A real cold fish... & the meds don't help! I'm painting a lovely picture, aren't I?

 

[jonestavern]

DDad has been married 4 times in 25 years, this is after DSis & I were in our teens.
#1--Our Mom, easy, flowers, calls surprise visits & she was a good mother, made it easy
#2--very formal, would send her a generic 'across the miles' feel she would have preferred a discreet, cream colored, Crane paper note & no call. She did make an effort to be friendly to us.
#3--kind of a 'step mom'--she got wayward DDad turned around, somewhat easy, but geez, I would still be guilt ridden
#4--a piece of work, but she is Dad's wife, he's really getting on & feels hurt if we don't acknowledge numero 4. Solution: send her the generic 'across the miles' & feel like a horrendous hypocrit. I don't sign off 'love' just our names.
I know, I am a weenie

Seems the greeting card companies are missing the train on this one Needing a selection of non-commital Mother's/Father's Day cards

Jean

 

[diznygirl]

Anyone else have a weird/strained relationship with their mother, yet still want to find a card for M-day? It's so hard to find one that isn't mushy & full of "you're such a great mom," but also isn't a generic, "cold" card that just says "Happy Mother's Day."

Maybe I am just too picky, as I have an incredibly sensitive mom who reads into everything (gee, wonder where I got that part from). I spent an hour at Hallmark and came out w/ zip! Just a vent...

I totally understand! I really want to get one that says, "You've been like a mother to me..." but she probably wouldn't get the humor.

They need a category next to "Religious" and "Across the Miles" that says "Generic."

 

[beckmrk04]

I totally understand! I really want to get one that says, "You've been like a mother to me..." but she probably wouldn't get the humor.

They need a category next to "Religious" and "Across the Miles" that says "Generic."

Or a category that says "I didn't even want to get this card, but since I feel obligated..."

 

[diznygirl]

Or a category that says "I didn't even want to get this card, but since I feel obligated..."

"The guilt you will be subjected to will know no bounds....."



It helps to know I'm not alone. It's such a downer not to be able to get a card for "My Special Mother Who Has Meant So Much," ya know?

Luckily, my kids are still little and love me!

 

[Belle0101]

Glad I'm not alone too.

Real mom - stepped out of my life 15 - 16 years ago. I have a vauge idea of where she might be but she made it clear that she wanted no part of my life.

Step-mom #1 - I really really liked her. We'd go shopping, I'd go visit her even if my dad wasn't home. When she divorced my dad she divorced me too. I'd see her at the store or around town and she'd go the other way.

Step-mom #2 - other than my dad, we have nothing in common. She never had children, has a job / career that she enjoys, she drinks, smokes and likes to fish, watch Nascar. I don't drink, never smoked. And fishing? Nascar?Not for me.

I used to give her hanging baskets for Mother's day. Then I found out she "fogot" to water them and they died. Funny thing is she remembers to water her other plants.

And don't get me started on DH mom. I have a son from before my husband. She never acknowledges my son's or my birthday, ever. But she remembers DH and the son we have together. DH b'day is in Nov, DS that she remembers in Oct. She made a big deal in December about how she forgot their b'days and she was really sorry and here's your card and gift. Whatever.

 

[Marseeya]

You could always get a "generic" blank card and write in "Happy Mother's Day."

I don't like the real mushy cards either, and I have a hard time finding one that's happy and bright without being all "you are my everything."

 

[disykat]

My mom and I have a good relationship and I still have trouble! I want something simple like "I love you. Happy Mother's Day" not a load of mush. The jokes are getting old after 40 years and it's hard to find anything new and different.

I went to two stores and finally settled on a Peanuts card with Woodstock and his friends holding up letters that spell "I love you, MOM". It says "mere birds aren't enough to express my feelings" or something like that.

 

[tekmom]

I have this problem every year. My mother didn't raise me...grandparents did. She was very young when she had me and got married to another guy shortly after my birth, had kids with him and moved on. I lived only 2 hours away during my childhood, but she just couldn't be bothered. Now that I'm an adult with my own kids and live 1100 miles away, we speak by phone often. It's just weird. I found the 'simply stated' mother's day card in the hallmark section and that's what she gets.