H is back.

[DisneyLovingMama]

Pixie dust and lots of support, please. Evidently, there's nothing I can do.

 

[illini]

nothing you can do to keep him from coming back???

 

[Pop Daddy]

hit him in head with frying pan, then call it even

 

[princess pooh]

What do you mean there's nothing you can do?

 

[Serena]

Yeah, what do you mean?

 

[Caradana]

Hugely Confused ... ???

 

[DisneyLovingMama]

Evidently, he's tired of playing house. He's "sick" and not getting the care he usually gets, so he came home.

Since this is his home, too, and there's no restraining order (and no basis) for one, there's nothing I can do, according to my lawyer. Except keep on doing what I was doing to prepare and protect myself and the kids before he left.

DD is so happy he's here. I'm just sick to my stomach.

 

[Tjaleks]

Edited: Glad to hear that you are still holding your ground.

 

[Serena]

Yes, you cannot make him leave his home, neither can he make you leave. But are you willing to stay there?

 

[kasar]

I was going to suggest that you find another place to stay but then I remember hearing that you should try to NOT leave your home in a divorce situation because then you're accused of abandoning your home.

What nerve to come back because you would take care of him. I hope you're not!

 

[DisneyLovingMama]

Please reconsider this. I have been through this.

However, if you are going to take him back do not undo anything you have already done. (moving the money, changing the passwords on accounts, keep all the appt you made with an attorney, etc. )

Please take care and do what is right for you and your children. If having him back is it then so be it, but make sure you will be ok if something does happen in the future. Have a plan of action ready.

I'm not taking him back. He's coming on his own. Trust me, if I had a choice, he wouldn't be here.

 

[Pop Daddy]

go run your car into his

 

[Tjaleks]

I'm not taking him back. He's coming on his own. Trust me, if I had a choice, he wouldn't be here.

Glad to hear it. Our posts crossed.

 

[DisneyLovingMama]

Yes, you cannot make him leave his home, neither can he make you leave. But are you willing to stay there?

My lawyer strongly advises me to to suck it up.

 

[Serena]

Why?!

If you are willing to suck it up until next time, then fine. But we got the impression that you had had enough.

 

[DisneyLovingMama]

What nerve to come back because you would take care of him. I hope you're not!

Oh, hell know. I've never been chillier in my life. He was making noises about it earlier this week. I came home from work today and he was here (Lawyer also advised NOT to change the locks, which is how he could get here). He says he's dying and I made a vow to take care of him in sickness and health.

 

[Tjaleks]

He says he's dying and I made a vow to take care of him in sickness and health.

I guess I would focus on the "until death due us part".

 

[DisneyLovingMama]

Why?!

If you are willing to suck it up until next time, then fine. But we got the impression that you had had enough.

Sorry, I'm not doing to well taking in code. My lawyer is drawing up papers to serve to him. I was hoping for a quicker no-fault divorce. But, it looks like he won't agree to that. At-fault divorces seem to be much more time-consuming and costly. Regardless, I'm done. I want out. I just don't want ot leave the house, and my lawyer advises the same, for a number of reasons. One of htem being I really can't afford to live on my own and still pay 1/2 the mortgage.

So, to recap. He's home, but I'm not "taking him back." I've seen lawyers, got a counselor for my DD and am still following htrough on my plans. His return makes it more difficult, uncomfortable and agonizing, but does nothing ot change my mind. It only "cements" my decision.

 

[Tjaleks]

Sorry, I'm not doing to well taking in code. My lawyer is drawing up papers to serve to him. I was hoping for a quicker no-fault divorce. But, it looks like he won't agree to that. At-fault divorces seem to be much more time-consuming and costly. Regardless, I'm done. I want out. I just don't want ot leave the house, and my lawyer advises the same, for a number of reasons. One of htem being I really can't afford to live on my own and still pay 1/2 the mortgage.

So, to recap. He's home, but I'm not "taking him back." I've seen lawyers, got a counselor for my DD and am still following htrough on my plans. His return makes it more difficult, uncomfortable and agonizing, but does nothing ot change my mind. It only "cements" my decision.

Lots of ((((HUGS))))

 

[Gwene65]

Keep up the tough guy act, maybe he will get the hint and leave. What an (explenative word) to think you would take care of him b/c your vows said so. Your in the midst of a divorce you ****!

Just think, soon your life can resume some normalcy.