Girls Only Disneyland Trip ~ Old thread, link to new one in first post

[bumbershoot]

...not one person came to visit me. No flowers, no visits, no phone calls, no congrats......nothing. It made me feel terrible.

Hubby's calling the MIL to see if she's at all available this week (update=yes). I just re-re-re-read friend's email, and I wish I understood it more. She's considering this a trial run until she speaks with the surgeon...a couple years ago I would have understood it better, but I've lost my transplant-process-knowledge since she doesn't talk about it with me anymore b/c she thinks I'm always busy with E and she talks about it with her sister. (that is coming out as sour grapes and it isn't intended to sound that way! it's just the facts.)

 

[jordansmomma]

Molly~ I hope things work out for your friend. I agree with Capri, sometimes its better to just go and be there for your friend even if they don't ask for it. In the end she will remember you being there through this time with her.
Your friends is in my thoughts.

Capri~

Oh & thanks, he is a cutie!!
I hope the kids start feeling better soon!

Audra~ You went to Forks! How fun!! How was it?

 

[fairykin]

(This has nothing to do with you and your friend, but for some reason it reminded me that both times I went to the hospital to have a baby, not one person came to visit me. No flowers, no visits, no phone calls, no congrats......nothing. It made me feel terrible. Especially since I always visited my friends and brought flowers/balloons and gifts for the new baby when they were in the hospital having their babies.....and I even helped some of them through their labor. It still hurts me to think about it.)

What raTTy RaTkiN friends... after they dropped the ball the first time.. i would have called them up and said.. alright.. heads Up... i'm all FatNPregant and we both know this going to hurt reaLLy bad.. i want flowers and friends up that hospital!

Have anothAh baby and i'll send ya flowerS!

 

[audrabolster]

Audra~ You went to Forks! How fun!! How was it?

It was crazy, but a lot of fun! I did some blogs with photos!

http://dragonflycurls.livejournal.com/736305.html
http://dragonflycurls.livejournal.com/737347.html
http://dragonflycurls.livejournal.com/739668.html

 

[toocherie]

I haven't read back and this has nothing to do with DLR but I don't have a journal anymore, and I'm worried about my friend! My friend is on the liver transplant list, and I guess a liver became available over the night (sad for donor and family ) and she's on her way to the hospital to see if it's a match for her and if she's going to do it (she's not very sick right now, but she's been sick enough for over a year to be on the list...she's well enough that this is a decision, not a "do it now" situation).

In the last couple years we've drifted a bit...I used to be the go-to person but now that's changed b/c of her nice boyfriend...I *want* to drop E off at MIL's and go up to the hospital to be with her, but I don't think I'm needed...I'm just worried and want to help her...I'm sure if she wants me there she'll call.

She isn't the praying type, but I'm sure she wouldn't mind a couple spare glowy healing thoughts for her, should she go ahead with the transplant today...

I agree with Capri and Deb--you should go. I'm sending sparkly good thoughts (and prayers too) her way.

Of course! I'll be sending out lots of healing, healthy thoughts for her.....but I'll still keep her in my prayers too. It can't hurt, right?

Also, I think you should go be with her. Don't wait for her to call you.....just show up and be there with her. She may not ask for support, but I'm sure she needs it. And, it'll make her feel good.

(This has nothing to do with you and your friend, but for some reason it reminded me that both times I went to the hospital to have a baby, not one person came to visit me. No flowers, no visits, no phone calls, no congrats......nothing. It made me feel terrible. Especially since I always visited my friends and brought flowers/balloons and gifts for the new baby when they were in the hospital having their babies.....and I even helped some of them through their labor. It still hurts me to think about it.)

I would have sent you flowers and/or gone to see you!

What raTTy RaTkiN friends... after they dropped the ball the first time.. i would have called them up and said.. alright.. heads Up... i'm all FatNPregant and we both know this going to hurt reaLLy bad.. i want flowers and friends up that hospital!

Have anothAh baby and i'll send ya flowerS!

Amen, sistah!

 

[lulubelle]

Pixie Dust to Molly's friend (I wish I could babysit E )

And Capri, that is the saddest story ever! You poor thing, I so would have brought you flowers and would stop by to chit-chat and tell you how darling your new baby boy is. Especially because you are so sweet.

It's almost lunch time. I get a yummy Lean Cuisine and a side of cole slaw. Cabbage is my favorite food in the whole wide world. Oh, and a Diet Coke, of course. I keep telling you gals, I live quite the life, you know!

 

[disney-super-mom]

Capri~

This totally made me laugh. I have a huge smile on my face! You're so funny!

What raTTy RaTkiN friends... after they dropped the ball the first time.. i would have called them up and said.. alright.. heads Up... i'm all FatNPregant and we both know this going to hurt reaLLy bad.. i want flowers and friends up that hospital!

Have anothAh baby and i'll send ya flowerS!

I know, right?! I couldn't believe it. Nice friends huh?!

Uhhhhhh, I just don't think I have it in me to have another ankle biter though. I thought Molly voluteered for that job anyway. I have a feeling after so many of us send her flowers, her hospital room will be overflowing!

I would have sent you flowers and/or gone to see you!

Awwww, thanks Cheryl.

You're all such great friends.

Actually, I'm not really friends with any of my former girlfriends anymore. Our friendships seemed a little one sided to me, so I moved on.

 

[disney-super-mom]

Pixie Dust to Molly's friend (I wish I could babsit E)

And Capri, that is the saddest story ever! You poor thing, I so would have brought you flowers and would stop by to chit-chat and tell you how darling your new baby boy is. Especially because you are so sweet.

It's almost lunch time. I get a yummy Lean Cuisine and a side of cole slaw. Cabbage is my favorite food in the whole wide world. Oh, and a Diet Coke, of course. I keep telling you gals, I live quite the life, you know!

Thanks Linda. You're so sweet!

Enjoy your lunch. I actually like cabbage too. I know some people don't, but I've always enjoyed it, even as a child.

Yep, Lean Cuisine, cole slaw and a diet Coke sounds like quite the life.

Lots of Pixie dust for Molly's friend!

 

[LittleBlackRaincloud]

Capri, I totally get what you are saying about having a baby. I was on bedrest for weeks, and then had our littlest last Feb. We had just moved to Tucson in August, so really we didn't know anyone. Nathan hated the hospital and screamed the whole time he was there. DH hated the chair they had for him to sleep in, so even though we had childcare that first night, he didn't stay with me. I ended up being in the hospital for 5 days with no visitors. My own husband only visited me for about 30 minutes a day due to Nathan's behavior and lack of childcare. He did send me flowers on the 4th day because I got so upset. My mother didn't fly out because my father had cancer 2.5 years ago, and she still considers him 'sick'. (He hadn't had any treatments or issues for over a year at the time.) I'm still bitter about it, and probably always will be, but I've learned to let go most of the time. I'm working hard on it. We only got 3 gifts total for Nolan. Let's both have another baby, and be there for each other!

 

[bumbershoot]

Well, I'm ready, but I still haven't decided. I'm sure she's still meeting with the doctors...I'm hoping her sister can understand how to update facebook via the phone...

If she does have the surgery I do want to be there afterwards...I coudln't believe how many times the interns etc (it's a teaching hospital) almost messed up when she was drastically sick before (right before and after Robert and my wedding)...they were asking HER very important questions, and she had a morphine clicker that she was making full use of...but thought she could comprehend what they were saying and asking. I kept having to translate, or catch them before they left the room to tell them the answer when they had written down or understood the opposite. So I definitely want to be there, since it's the same hospital! And I'm sure they'd give the clicker for a liver transplant.



The funny thing is that she's being cagey on her facebook page, and her nephew wrote something that almost makes it sound like my friend is having a baby, LOL. Which isn't possible, really...she's had these problems since she was a kid, and it's gotten worse over time...she doesn't have a spleen and takes immunosuppressives...she wouldn't be able to take them if she got pg and then she'd probably get mortally sick...she's long since known she'd be child-free...but the way her nephew wrote what he wrote...I can tell it's making other facebook friends (who didn't get the email) a wee bit nervous!

 

[jordansmomma]

This totally made me laugh. I have a huge smile on my face! You're so funny!



I know, right?! I couldn't believe it. Nice friends huh?!

Uhhhhhh, I just don't think I have it in me to have another ankle biter though. I thought Molly voluteered for that job anyway. I have a feeling after so many of us send her flowers, her hospital room will be overflowing!



Awwww, thanks Cheryl.

You're all such great friends.

Actually, I'm not really friends with any of my former girlfriends anymore. Our friendships seemed a little one sided to me, so I moved on.

Well I am only 1.5 hrs away. We could always meet for dinner one night a month or something. Get some girl time in!!

I would almost think about another ankle biter with all of the flowers going around here today! But I am SOOO THANKFUL that Molly is going to take one for the TEAM on that!!!

I am glad you laughed!!

Pixie Dust to Molly's friend (I wish I could babsit E)

And Capri, that is the saddest story ever! You poor thing, I so would have brought you flowers and would stop by to chit-chat and tell you how darling your new baby boy is. Especially because you are so sweet.

It's almost lunch time. I get a yummy Lean Cuisine and a side of cole slaw. Cabbage is my favorite food in the whole wide world. Oh, and a Diet Coke, of course. I keep telling you gals, I live quite the life, you know!

I live cabbage also. I LOVE diet coke!!

 

[disney-super-mom]

Capri, I totally get what you are saying about having a baby. I was on bedrest for weeks, and then had our littlest last Feb. We had just moved to Tucson in August, so really we didn't know anyone. Nathan hated the hospital and screamed the whole time he was there. DH hated the chair they had for him to sleep in, so even though we had childcare that first night, he didn't stay with me. I ended up being in the hospital for 5 days with no visitors. My own husband only visited me for about 30 minutes a day due to Nathan's behavior and lack of childcare. He did send me flowers on the 4th day because I got so upset. My mother didn't fly out because my father had cancer 2.5 years ago, and she still considers him 'sick'. (He hadn't had any treatments or issues for over a year at the time.) I'm still bitter about it, and probably always will be, but I've learned to let go most of the time. I'm working hard on it. We only got 3 gifts total for Nolan. Let's both have another baby, and be there for each other!

Ohhhh Heather, I totally know what you went through. It's make you feel so bad, huh?......like no one cares about you at all......almost like you're abandoned in a way. I would've totally been there with you everyday, baring gifts, treats, good food, support, hugs, and a big smile.

As I said, I don't think I have it in me to have another baby, but if you have another one, I'm there babe!!!

 

[LittleBlackRaincloud]

Molly, I would go also. I have a wonderful friend in Indiana that I hardly ever talk to anymore, but when the chips get down, she's there. I know that, and I trust that about our friendship. I think your friend is lucky to have someone like you in her life. If she's into surgery soon though, it will be really really late by the time she gets out. I will send all healing vibes her way, and will throw in a few prayers for good measure.

 

[cheshiregirl]

Capri, I totally get what you are saying about having a baby. I was on bedrest for weeks, and then had our littlest last Feb. We had just moved to Tucson in August, so really we didn't know anyone. Nathan hated the hospital and screamed the whole time he was there. DH hated the chair they had for him to sleep in, so even though we had childcare that first night, he didn't stay with me. I ended up being in the hospital for 5 days with no visitors. My own husband only visited me for about 30 minutes a day due to Nathan's behavior and lack of childcare. He did send me flowers on the 4th day because I got so upset. My mother didn't fly out because my father had cancer 2.5 years ago, and she still considers him 'sick'. (He hadn't had any treatments or issues for over a year at the time.) I'm still bitter about it, and probably always will be, but I've learned to let go most of the time. I'm working hard on it. We only got 3 gifts total for Nolan. Let's both have another baby, and be there for each other!

I wanna join the club too!

I had Ty about a year afer we moved to Vegas and also had no visitors/flowers at the hospital. And, my baby shower was horrendously awful. Typically baby showers for my co-workers are held on campus in the late afternoon so that people can come to the party instead of working the last hour or two of the day, and they are usually co-ed although the guys are often uncomfortable with the whole thing but at least they show up.

My supervisor, however, as the main host of my baby shower was determined to have it off campus and ended up throwing it on a Friday night. I think that a total of 3 people who were not serving as the co-hosts of the event came. And, not a single person from my 15 person office that I officially work in came except for my supervisor. It was a miserable evening and I couldn't wait for it to be over!!! Here's to hoping that if I have another child (and I'm getting baby fever again much to Dave's dismay...) that things go VERY differently!

 

[CaliforniaDreamer]

Molly, I've dealt with a lot of hospital time, being the advocate, etc. I have a different opinion. I would not go unannounced, esp because you say that you, as the advocate, have been sort of replaced by her boyfriend (and sister?). You say you know she would call you if she needed you and she told you not to come. If you think she was just not wanting to bother you about coming, then you have to communicate with her and say that you really want to be there but is she worried it may be too many people?

You can also contact the sister or boyfriend and get a read on this as well.

I think this is a lot different than not being visited in the hospital after having a baby. Capri - big hug - that is so awful and having met you and seen how lovely and sweet you are, it is just head-shaking. Am going to PM you.

I haven't read back and this has nothing to do with DLR but I don't have a journal anymore, and I'm worried about my friend! My friend is on the liver transplant list, and I guess a liver became available over the night (sad for donor and family ) and she's on her way to the hospital to see if it's a match for her and if she's going to do it (she's not very sick right now, but she's been sick enough for over a year to be on the list...she's well enough that this is a decision, not a "do it now" situation).

In the last couple years we've drifted a bit...I used to be the go-to person but now that's changed b/c of her nice boyfriend...I *want* to drop E off at MIL's and go up to the hospital to be with her, but I don't think I'm needed...I'm just worried and want to help her...I'm sure if she wants me there she'll call.

She isn't the praying type, but I'm sure she wouldn't mind a couple spare glowy healing thoughts for her, should she go ahead with the transplant today...

Also, I think you should go be with her. Don't wait for her to call you.....just show up and be there with her. She may not ask for support, but I'm sure she needs it. And, it'll make her feel good.

(This has nothing to do with you and your friend, but for some reason it reminded me that both times I went to the hospital to have a baby, not one person came to visit me. No flowers, no visits, no phone calls, no congrats......nothing. It made me feel terrible. Especially since I always visited my friends and brought flowers/balloons and gifts for the new baby when they were in the hospital having their babies.....and I even helped some of them through their labor. It still hurts me to think about it.)

 

[jordansmomma]

It was crazy, but a lot of fun! I did some blogs with photos!

http://dragonflycurls.livejournal.com/736305.html
http://dragonflycurls.livejournal.com/737347.html
http://dragonflycurls.livejournal.com/739668.html

Thanks, I can't wait to go & check it out!

 

[LittleBlackRaincloud]

Jane and Capri-

I do want another baby. I'm waiting until we move next year though. I want to hav ea baby with my family around, so I know what that feels like!

Capri, I will sooooo take you up on your offer for good food. That was the worst of it. I was sooo sick, stuck in bed after a c-section. The little one nursing 24/7, and starving!!!

Have another baby Jane, now that you are more established hopefully your experience will be much better!

I don't know about you all, but I want a girl sooo bad. I'll take what God has planned for me though....

 

[Stacerita]

Oh and I keep reading about the place in Baker and keep forgetting to tell y'all. It's called the Mad Greek and they opened one in Vegas too.


Night!

I will have to try the one in Vegas next time. The one in Baker was odd. Great food though.

I've met a lot of good looking guys but 99.9% of the time they are real jerks!

Most of them are.

Yes it makes sense, and good to know. Maybe it will work out!

Did you see Stacie's brother??

Still talking about him??

That is so true. And that is why they are jerks........too full of themselves!

Jokingly we used to always say any girl who was with my brother always had one thing in common.....she loved him, and he loved himself.

Does the one in Vegas have the tastefull decor too?

The decor is hideous there. Looks like every greek family for miles cleaned out their garages and brought stuff over.

I have never had Greek food, when I think about it, I always think about My Big Fat Greek Wedding olives & wine.

You need to give it a try. Its good.

Jordan is the starting pitcher!! He found that out last night at baseball.
6 days until Kaeleb's birthday & still I have nothing planned! I am a terrible mom!! I wish I could think of something. His bday is the 1st day of Spring Break. So I am really hoping that he will be happy with the batting cages, bowling or just having some friends over at home. Well the friends who didn't go away for spring break that is.

Well I hope you ladies are have a fantasic day!!

Congrats to Jordan!

DBF and I stopepd here once on thw way to Vegas. I had a bean and cheese burrito and DBF had chili fries I think. Didn't try the Greek food.

Try the greek food.

I have not been on the Disboards for a while and I wanted to be apart of the first girls only trip but it didn't work out for me. I would love to be apart of this trip.

Hello and welcome!

I've never had Greek food either. One of many types of foods I've never tried. I need to expand my horizons - haha.

I have a group of friends and every few months we used to make it a point to take our kids/SO's to a new ethnic restraunt. Gave the kids chances to try all sorts of things. Give new things a chance.

She isn't the praying type, but I'm sure she wouldn't mind a couple spare glowy healing thoughts for her, should she go ahead with the transplant today...

I will send good thoughts.

I just got done with the last of my vacationing (my mother, brother and his girlfriend ended up visiting the weekend of the Girls Trip :/ Which made me happy but also sad I couldn't do anything with you guys!) Then right after they left, we left the next day for a trip to Portland/Seattle and then to Forks for the Twilight DVD release.

But I am back now

Welcome back!

Pixie Dust to Molly's friend (I wish I could babsit E)

And Capri, that is the saddest story ever! You poor thing, I so would have brought you flowers and would stop by to chit-chat and tell you how darling your new baby boy is. Especially because you are so sweet.

It's almost lunch time. I get a yummy Lean Cuisine and a side of cole slaw. Cabbage is my favorite food in the whole wide world. Oh, and a Diet Coke, of course. I keep telling you gals, I live quite the life, you know!

Wow Linda......la vida loca.

 

[disney-super-mom]

I wanna join the club too!

I had Ty about a year afer we moved to Vegas and also had no visitors/flowers at the hospital. And, my baby shower was horrendously awful. Typically baby showers for my co-workers are held on campus in the late afternoon so that people can come to the party instead of working the last hour or two of the day, and they are usually co-ed although the guys are often uncomfortable with the whole thing but at least they show up.

My supervisor, however, as the main host of my baby shower was determined to have it off campus and ended up throwing it on a Friday night. I think that a total of 3 people who were not serving as the co-hosts of the event came. And, not a single person from my 15 person office that I officially work in came except for my supervisor. It was a miserable evening and I couldn't wait for it to be over!!! Here's to hoping that if I have another child (and I'm getting baby fever again much to Dave's dismay...) that things go VERY differently!

Wow, I can hardly believe that friends/family not visiting when a loved one is in the hospital having a baby is so common! I seriously would NEVER even consider not visiting and supporting a friend in the hospital having a baby, or at the very least sending flowers/care package and making a congratulatory phone call. I'm totally perplexed by this happening so much.

I'm so sorry this happend to you too!

 

[bumbershoot]

CD, she didn't tell me not to come, she just sent out an email to about 7 people (including two of her sisters, one of whom is local, and is the employer of the sister who is with her now) giving the very very basic info that she was checking in at 11:30 up in Seattle.

But yes, she relies more on the one sister (whose son is a freshman in college at UW, which is where the hospital is) and her boyfriend...alas, I have no contact info for them. (they know nothing of medical stuff, though, and the one sis was often in the room when friend was being questioned while on morphine and didn't realize that questions weren't being understood or answered correctly)

I think in this case my "translation" services would be less needed...before it was a weird and complicated and very very rare (according to the head doc) situation (she routinely has a stent in her bile duct, and the stent had migrated and punctured her intestines, and she went septic VERY VERY fast back in '03, her now-ex-husband was beyond useless (he was about to leave her, it turned out))...the questions being asked were vital and NOT routine at all, whereas I would think the questions with a transplant would be much more routine and usual.


If I were suddenly in the hospital for an emergency I'd want her there...but she's very different from me, she's hard to read and isn't schmoopy...augh.