Getting a bit worried now!!!

[Boo Boo Too]

As for the comment about parents dying and arranging the funeral, I think that was uncalled for, sadly both my parents died within 4 years of each other and I hadnt even got to 30, I didnt consider organising their funerals as stressful, more painful and heartrenching, but thats got absolutley nothing to do with vacation planning has it?? maybe housemoving would have been a better analogy

I was "lucky" then, I had just reached my 30th birthday when my Dad died.

It hasn't got anything to do with vacation planning, it has to do with life. Moving house wasn't stressful either - you have a set of tasks, you just work your way through them (same with holiday planning).

Stress to me is when you feel as though your world is falling apart and there is little you can do about it - that, to me, is generally caused by something like death (as you say, something so "painful and heart-wrenching" you really can't think straight ).

Going to WDW I would take ANY day over something stressful. Going to WDW is a wonderful treat and amazingly EXCITING, not stressful.

Maybe I am just lucky that I am not easily stressed or that people use "stress" to describe things like "hard work" or "something that concerns you a little". BUT at the end of the day a holiday to a dream destination like Florida should NOT be stressful - relax and enjoy!

However, if anyone is too stressed by it, I am happy to pay the change fee for their ticket and go in their place...

Boo

 

[PoppyAnna]

wow! for those of you that weren't stressed at the start of this thread, I bet you are now!
I could go into detail about horrendous family/parent deaths all by the time I was 16 but that has nothing at all to do what we all talk about here (unless you're on the community board requesting support).
Stress is a relative thing and in my situation my DH goes to work in a job he hates to spend 8000usd on a holiday that I want us all to enjoy but that I have to do all the organising. We have never been on holiday with my mum she was widowed from my darling stepfather rather suddenly and does have mood swings still. factor all this in and I do feel the pressure, but you can't go through life constantly relating it to really horrendous times, in my opinion you would never move on.
I think the originator of this thread was probably feeling a little like me and wanted some advise on how to maybe lower his/hers fellow travellers expectations of his/her planning abilities. Nobody can plan the perfect holiday, even to wdw!

 

[PoppyAnna]

wow! for those of you that weren't stressed at the start of this thread, I bet you are now!
I could go into detail about horrendous family/parent deaths all by the time I was 16 but that has nothing at all to do what we all talk about here (unless you're on the community board requesting support).
Stress is a relative thing and in my situation my DH goes to work in a job he hates to spend 8000usd on a holiday that I want us all to enjoy but that I have to do all the organising. We have never been on holiday with my mum she was widowed from my darling stepfather rather suddenly and does have mood swings still. factor all this in and I do feel the pressure, but you can't go through life constantly relating it to really horrendous times, in my opinion you would never move on.
I think the originator of this thread was probably feeling a little like me and wanted some advise on how to maybe lower his/hers fellow travellers expectations of his/her planning abilities. Nobody can plan the perfect holiday, even to wdw!

 

[jen_uk]

Stress to me is when you feel as though your world is falling apart and there is little you can do about it - that, to me, is generally caused by something like death (as you say, something so "painful and heart-wrenching" you really can't think straight ).

Going to WDW I would take ANY day over something stressful. Going to WDW is a wonderful treat and amazingly EXCITING, not stressful.

Maybe I am just lucky that I am not easily stressed or that people use "stress" to describe things like "hard work" or "something that concerns you a little". BUT at the end of the day a holiday to a dream destination like Florida should NOT be stressful - relax and enjoy!

Boo

The feeling of your world falling apart isnt really stress, that sounds more like grief/depression. However, everyones experience of stress is different and people react to it in different ways. For me stress feels like panic, I can't relax and I constantly have thoughts running throught my head, I can never sleep the night before I go on holiday because I can't switch off and I am mentally checking my suitcase! The holiday is not stressful, its the run up that sometimes is but I don't let that put me off from going, if I did I would never leave the house. Its great that you don't suffer much from stress but I do not think its is fair to belittle the people that do.

 

[Boo Boo Too]

The feeling of your world falling apart isnt really stress, that sounds more like grief/depression..

No, to me, stress is the paralysing inability to do anything (including think) and is caused by things like grief.

Yes, I am sorry - I am afraid that I am a logical person who lives in a world where everything is one big drama and I just don't understand why...

I wasn't belittling, I was just trying to get some perspective here. If you look at my replies, there is some good advice there too.

Stress/anxiety/worry is just one of those emotions that tends to grow and get more out of control the more you feed it. And this place can be a bit of a feeding ground - people copy each other's behaviour around here. One person reads a post saying "I feel stressed because my holiday may not be perfect!", other people start thinking "ah, what if my holiday isn't perfect either? I feel stressed now!"

At the end of the day, to go on holiday ANYWHERE (including WDW) all you need to do is get yourself to the airport with your passport and your debit/credit cards and any medication. ANYTHING else you have forgotten (clothes, toiletries, shoes, toys) can be bought/replaced (probably with something better) in Florida. Packing is not a life and death situation, so why loose a night's sleep because of it? I don't sleep the best the night before I go on holiday, but it is because I am excited .

Holidays are not about being perfect - if you are trying to aim for perfect is EVERY little detail, you will very likely find fault. As I have said about 3 times in the thread - relax, appreciate, have fun and enjoy quality time with your family.

Boo

 

[Dis1978]

Now that I have experienced the intense stress of having my eldest DS diagnosed with autism just after my other DS has been seriously ill and disabled, it certainly puts everything else in perspective. The little things that used to upset me or stress me out now seem so trivial. I am so grateful that we are off to disney soon and am much more grateful for any bit of happiness that comes our way.

 

[fuse04]

Interesting thread!

I am the planner for our trip in 27 days and really enjoy it however the downside is that if things do not work out right, you turn around and everyone is looking at you (in reality that isn't true of course but that is what it feels like to some of us).

We have booked a B&B the night before we lay to avoid some of the worry of getting to the airport on time (traffic etc) but for me that brings new things to worry about because we have not done that before. So getting their has a number of mini stresses to deal with and I only relax once we are unpacking in the hotel room. So I can completeley relate to this.

Everyone must recognise what one person might find stressful another might not.

I am currently project manager on a very large IT project, impacts on hundreds of people, and only one other orgainsation in the UK have done it before. This causes me no stress at all, however getting to the B&B or airport etc on time is very stressful for me. Can't tell you why, it just does

Anyway, you will have a great time, I think it would be difficult not too, chill out a bit and everyone else will do so as well.

Do you think 4 hours is enough time to travel 80 miles to Gatwick to use twilight check in?

 

[wicket2005]

I am currently project manager on a very large IT project, impacts on hundreds of people, and only one other orgainsation in the UK have done it before. This causes me no stress at all, however getting to the B&B or airport etc on time is very stressful for me. Can't tell you why, it just does

:

It is because it is personal.

 

[Goofyish]

Have you ever thought of taking up counseling Boo Boo Too?

 

[Boo Boo Too]

Have you ever thought of taking up counseling Boo Boo Too?

Not for "going on holiday" stress... although there is obviously a market for it... hhhmmmm

Maybe I will set up either one of the following businesses:
- a "booking and organising ALL aspects of your holiday" business (will do all the research on your behalf, book your holiday, pack your cases, even get your house cleaned before you return, personally deliver you to the airport and pick you up afterwards...)
- or, my favourite, a "holiday substitute" business (will do all the above, THEN go on holiday in your place for you - so you don't have to stress whilst on holiday).

Unfortunately I expect my fees to be very high, but...

Boo

 

[UKDEB]

I think everyone needs to keep their holidays in perspective

Whilst maybe some need to keep forum posts in perspective. Boo, I think Cath was just looking for a little support from her fellow DISers, not a "holier than thou" lecture.

 

[Boo Boo Too]

Whilst maybe some need to keep forum posts in perspective. Boo, I think Cath was just looking for a little support from her fellow DISers, not a "holier than thou" lecture.

I am sorry, but I think that anyone going to WDW is incredibly lucky and there are lots of less fortunate people out there who would kill for the "stress" of going to WDW...

If that is "holier than thou", then so be it.

Boo

 

[kitcat1]

WOW.......I think I have opened up a can of worms here.

As I said before, because its our first time and after so much planning and money spent I hope it lives up to all our expectations. It will, I'm sure, why shouldn't it. I will run through a bit of the plans.

As we live in France it will take us a couple of days to get up to Yorkshire to spend a nice evening with good friends and get some gorgeous fish and chips, something France just doesn't do!!! The following day all the family are going out for Sunday lunch, we are then being taken to a hotel at the airport ready for our flight on Monday morning. We have done it all DIY, hired a car and a villa at Indian Creek. We have bought a 14 day unlimited pass to Disney, a day pass for Kennedy and a 21 day unlimited pass for sea world and busch gardens. We are only in our villa for 2 weeks then spend the last 4 days at clearwater (still need to find accomodation for that but we will find it when we are there). Spending money ready to go, guide books read, just the packing to do.

Perfect plan eh? I think!!

We are all really excited and looking forward to it sooooo much. I will also try and do a trip report when I get back.

And Boo, I am not a person to get stressed easily and understood where you were coming from, your comments were a reality check really I suppose!!

Thanks again to all of you.

Cath

 

[Boo Boo Too]

We are all really excited and looking forward to it sooooo much.

That is THE most important thing: just keep thinking that (completely forget about any stress) and have the best time.

Boo

 

[eyoreaud]

Perfect plan Cath!!!!

Sounds FAB! I do hope you found some of the replies to your thread helpfull We do like to try and help all people who ask for our help on these boards. even though it doesn't always look that way LOL! Thats why these boards are so successful, Please don't hesitate to ask some more questions or ask for support before your upcoming trip Cath We are, after all, all here to try and help.

Enjoy!
Audrey

 

[florida sun]

Perfect plan Cath!!!!

Sounds FAB! I do hope you found some of the replies to your thread helpfull We do like to try and help all people who ask for our help on these boards. even though it doesn't always look that way LOL! Thats why these boards are so successful, Please don't hesitate to ask some more questions or ask for support before your upcoming trip Cath We are, after all, all here to try and help.

Enjoy!
Audrey

Perfectly put Audrey, Cath have the most wonderful time and feel free at any time to ask us for any help or support you may need.

 

[MorningGlory]

Interesting thread.

When I first booked our holiday in January, I went into complete overdrive writing up an itinerary, searching for car hire, best ticket deals, etc, etc. It was getting to the stage where I was struggling to sleep at night, through a mix of excitement and worry. I realised I was going to end up getting annoyed at it all, and have took a step back from it the past couple of weeks. Feeling much better for it as well, and the time certainly seems to be going in faster (I think at one stage I was trying to work out how many HOURS until we left .....crazy ).

Also, I realised with 3 months to go, I was always finding new things that I want to do when im there, that I didnt realise existed. The many mini-golf places, the Fun Spot on I-Drive, the Pirates and Al Capone Dinner Shows, and more! Also, my dad and brother is coming with us now, so I have to try to rework the itinerary a little so me and DS9 can spend some time with them (I can't see my dad wanting to go to the parks). I've decided though, rather than making changes all the time, im going to wait until a week before I go then just do a rough rewriting of the itinerary, and leave alot of room for flexibility in it.

Im pretty sure when I have 16 days or whatever to go, ill be feeling the same way as you Cath

Have a great time

 

[UKDEB]

It's widely acknowledged that both positive and negative events can cause stress. I've lost count of the number of magazine articles I've read which list getting married, moving house, travelling abroad, having a baby and Christmas amongst the top 20 most stressful situations one can face. An excited state is, by definition, a stressed one.

I acknowledge there are some topics which can needle the most placid amongst us, but Cath posted a light-hearted comment about a perfectly understandable emotion and asked for reassurance from her fellow DISers. I can totally understand her concerns that it might not live up to the expectations of her family. To jump to the conclusion that she's not also happy to be going, to tell her she has no right to be feeling that way, and to take the thread off in a bizarre direction to do with the death of one's relatives, quite simply, isn't on.

UKTP has always been a friendly and welcoming place, and as a result is largely self-moderating and we rarely resort to issuing warnings or infractions. We all need to work together to ensure it stays that way. Provided posts are within the guidelines, it's not up to individuals to police the boards by deciding what should and shouldn't be posted, nor to try to "stop epidemics". Healthy debate is one thing, but patronising reposts don't have a place here. If you don't like what is being posted, please just step away from the thread and move on to another.