"Gay Lifestyle" Rant

[Uncle Remus]

I was just readin' another thread here (about Gay Days) and it brought to mind the expectations of others who may not have experienced being around gays or lesbians (or at least they didn't know it). Anyway, my rant is I get sick 'n tired of hearin' the term "gay lifestyle" as though gays' 'n lesbians live in some alternative freak world. While we may all know that ALL kinds of folks live a lifestyle whether it be privileged like can I say white heterosexuals or a less fortunate lifestyle as in financial hardship or maybe with some other hindrance to security, I resent the implication that "gay lifestyle" is often used to subliminally convey some deviant lifestyle.

I know too many gays 'n lesbians who live the same damn lifestyle as most folks which is one of goin' to work, payin' bills 'n pickin' up milk on the way home.

Rant over, thanks for listenin'.


And yes, I know gays 'n lesbians have a deeper appreciation for parades.
That is not a "lifetsyle," is it?

 

[kaytieeldr]

I don't know - wouldn't that be considered a "parade lifestyle"?

But seriously - lifestyle indicates, or at least VERY strongly implies, a choice. Who makes the choice to be gay? I'm not asking anyone to actually answer that question - just reinforciing Uncle Remus's post.

 

[rpmdfw]

I'm constantly telling people "I don't have a lifestyle, I have a LIFE; same as you, same as everybody."

 

[ConcKahuna]

My gay lifestyle:

Wake up.

Groom/dress.

Go to work.

Go home to my trailer after work.

Play my video games and surf the DIS.

Go to bed.

 

[Uncle Remus]

My gay lifestyle:

Wake up.

Groom/dress.

Go to work.

Go home to my trailer after work.

Play my video games and surf the DIS.

Go to bed.

Well, there's somethin' terribly wrong here, you don't stop at the store on the way home from work?

 

[koolaidmoms]

OMG! That totally sets me off. Our "life style" is one of us working to support our family financially and for health care, the other one of us is a SAHM. We have two children whom we take to gymnastics, piano lessons, chess lessons and religous ed. every week. We have been in a committed monogamus relationship for 14 years. More than the "average" American.

Our friends are pretty much the same as we are. When we had our committment ceremony (I hate that term as it seems we are going to an institution- but I digress) our families and friends were all so shocked at how nice and helpful everyone was. What? You thought all our friends would have horns and be evil? What kind of people do you think we are?

No, we do not have naked statues and pictures of naked women on our walls. There are some very tasteful floral prints in the living room and in my DD's room some Hannah Montana but that is all.

Oh and the last time we were at Gay Days at WDW we were in a bar, yes, two adults in a bar at night, there was a mother who was so upset because she had to take her child out because of all of "those" people. Excuse me? You have a child in a bar at night. How sick are you?

Unless you think going to WDW, Sesame Street shows, or the latest opening at the children's museum is living the "gay lifestyle" we are so missing the train.

 

[ConcKahuna]

Well, there's somethin' terribly wrong here, you don't stop at the store on the way home from work?

Shopping is sooo out of my budget.

 

[glenpreece]

This kinda falls in line with a conversation I had last Tuesday with a friend who I have worked with for almost 10 years. Long story short I had to actually come out to her a few years back because she was so blind to me being gay lol. Anyways I was saying how I really hate talking to people I knew when I was little because I really feel like I haven't done anything with my life. They all have kids or they're marriedn or live in the city etc. Where as myself, I haven't had a real relationship in years, I live at home, I am still at the same job I had before college (although I am a manager now), I have no chance at having a child anytime soon and I feel like my dreams keep getting squashed. (Insert tears here lol) So she says, "you never know some girl might walk into the store one day and you'll fall in love with her and then you'll be able to have kids and a family." I nearly fell off my chair!!!! I told her me being gay is not a choice, I can't change my mind and all of a sudden want a woman. It just doesn't work like that. I really have no idea what to think of her now. Why do people think this is a choice, that one morning I woke up and thought him maybe I want to sleep with men now.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

If my gay friends have a lifestyle they aren't sharing it with me.

DH, DS and I met our best gay friends for breakfast yesterday. Our one friend's mom and brother are here from Puerto Rico and he wanted us to meet them. (We have been friends for 13 years but we've never met his mom before. The guys have met my mom.) After that they were going to go see "Australia". They invited us to go along, but we opted to do some shopping instead.

We talked about WDW. We talked about Thanksgiving. We talked about DS's birthday coming up in January. We talked about cameras. We drank our coffee. Yep. Deviant behavior abounds.

Maybe I live a straight lifestyle and have just never noticed? Maybe I am scandalous and I just don't know it!

 

[kaytieeldr]

Oh and the last time we were at Gay Days at WDW we were in a bar, yes, two adults in a bar at night, there was a mother who was so upset because she had to take her child out because of all of "those" people. Excuse me? You have a child in a bar at night. How sick are you?

So that woman is living a what - ignoramus lifestyle? Heck, that IS a choice!

 

[npmommie]

Unless you think going to WDW, Sesame Street shows, or the latest opening at the children's museum is living the "gay lifestyle" we are so missing the train.

LOL, no it's that deviant mommy lifestyle........

So that woman is living a what - ignoramus lifestyle? Heck, that IS a choice!

I don't get why people act this way and believe this way.
When someone says something to imply that being gay is a choice , ask them if being heterosexual is a choice.
Maybe they will get it then.

 

[OrlandoMike]

Jeesh! You guys are so yesterday!

This is my usual routine......


6:00 am Gym
8:00 am Breakfast (oatmeal and egg whites)
9:00 am Hair appointment
10:00 am Shopping
12:00 PM Brunch
2:00 PM
1) Assume complete control of the U.S. Federal, State and Local
Governments as well as all other national governments,
2) Recruit all straight youngsters to our debauched lifestyle,
3) Destroy all healthy heterosexual marriages,
4) Replace all school counselors in grades K-12 with agents of Colombian
and Jamaican drug cartels,
5) bulldoze all houses of worship, and
6) Secure total control of the INTERNET and all mass media for the
exclusive use of child pornographers.

2:30 PM Get forty winks of beauty rest to prevent facial wrinkles from
stress of world conquest
4:00 PM Cocktails
6:00 PM Light Dinner (soup, salad, with Chardonnay)
8:00 PM Theater
11:00 PM Bed

 

[npmommie]

Jeesh! You guys are so yesterday!

This is my usual routine......


6:00 am Gym
8:00 am Breakfast (oatmeal and egg whites)
9:00 am Hair appointment
10:00 am Shopping
12:00 PM Brunch
2:00 PM
1) Assume complete control of the U.S. Federal, State and Local
Governments as well as all other national governments,
2) Recruit all straight youngsters to our debauched lifestyle,
3) Destroy all healthy heterosexual marriages,
4) Replace all school counselors in grades K-12 with agents of Colombian
and Jamaican drug cartels,
5) bulldoze all houses of worship, and
6) Secure total control of the INTERNET and all mass media for the
exclusive use of child pornographers.

2:30 PM Get forty winks of beauty rest to prevent facial wrinkles from
stress of world conquest
4:00 PM Cocktails
6:00 PM Light Dinner (soup, salad, with Chardonnay)
8:00 PM Theater
11:00 PM Bed

 

[rpmdfw]

Jeesh! You guys are so yesterday!

This is my usual routine......


6:00 am Gym
8:00 am Breakfast (oatmeal and egg whites)
9:00 am Hair appointment
10:00 am Shopping
12:00 PM Brunch
2:00 PM
1) Assume complete control of the U.S. Federal, State and Local
Governments as well as all other national governments,
2) Recruit all straight youngsters to our debauched lifestyle,
3) Destroy all healthy heterosexual marriages,
4) Replace all school counselors in grades K-12 with agents of Colombian
and Jamaican drug cartels,
5) bulldoze all houses of worship, and
6) Secure total control of the INTERNET and all mass media for the
exclusive use of child pornographers.

2:30 PM Get forty winks of beauty rest to prevent facial wrinkles from
stress of world conquest
4:00 PM Cocktails
6:00 PM Light Dinner (soup, salad, with Chardonnay)
8:00 PM Theater
11:00 PM Bed

Cool! Which theatre? I LOVE the theatre!

 

[Uncle Remus]

Jeesh! You guys are so yesterday!

This is my usual routine......


6:00 am Gym
8:00 am Breakfast (oatmeal and egg whites)
9:00 am Hair appointment
10:00 am Shopping
12:00 PM Brunch
2:00 PM
1) Assume complete control of the U.S. Federal, State and Local
Governments as well as all other national governments,
2) Recruit all straight youngsters to our debauched lifestyle,
3) Destroy all healthy heterosexual marriages,
4) Replace all school counselors in grades K-12 with agents of Colombian
and Jamaican drug cartels,
5) bulldoze all houses of worship, and
6) Secure total control of the INTERNET and all mass media for the
exclusive use of child pornographers.

2:30 PM Get forty winks of beauty rest to prevent facial wrinkles from
stress of world conquest
4:00 PM Cocktails
6:00 PM Light Dinner (soup, salad, with Chardonnay)
8:00 PM Theater
11:00 PM Bed

oatmeal 'n egg whites?!

 

[billysotherdad]

Jeesh! You guys are so yesterday!

This is my usual routine......


6:00 am Gym
8:00 am Breakfast (oatmeal and egg whites)
9:00 am Hair appointment
10:00 am Shopping
12:00 PM Brunch
2:00 PM
1) Assume complete control of the U.S. Federal, State and Local
Governments as well as all other national governments,
2) Recruit all straight youngsters to our debauched lifestyle,
3) Destroy all healthy heterosexual marriages,
4) Replace all school counselors in grades K-12 with agents of Colombian
and Jamaican drug cartels,
5) bulldoze all houses of worship, and
6) Secure total control of the INTERNET and all mass media for the
exclusive use of child pornographers.

2:30 PM Get forty winks of beauty rest to prevent facial wrinkles from
stress of world conquest
4:00 PM Cocktails
6:00 PM Light Dinner (soup, salad, with Chardonnay)
8:00 PM Theater
11:00 PM Bed

Thanks, Mike! That made me laugh. I like it all except for the fact that you get your hair done everyday at 9:00am. All else seemed quite reasonable to me except that one.

I once watched a movie years ago with (I think) Aidan Quinn and Ed Asner as father and son. I may be wrong about Aidan Quinn, but I know Ed Asner was in it. And he said to his gay son that he wasn't comfortable with his lifestyle. And the son said, "Dad, homosexuality is not a lifestyle. Boca Raton is a lifestyle!"
I've never forgotten that! LOL

 

[pixierella]

So she says, "you never know some girl might walk into the store one day and you'll fall in love with her and then you'll be able to have kids and a family." I nearly fell off my chair!!!! I told her me being gay is not a choice, I can't change my mind and all of a sudden want a woman. It just doesn't work like that. I really have no idea what to think of her now. Why do people think this is a choice, that one morning I woke up and thought him maybe I want to sleep with men now.

Folks like that just can't let go of the "American Dream" 2.5 kids, cars, dog and the picket fence. Especially if they're older. They want to seem hip to everything until it ultimately comes down to what they think is the right thing. If she says it again you have two choices. 1. Ignore her, she's ignorant or 2. Remind her of the conversation and that you would appreciate it if she could not mention things of that nature again.

 

[C&G'sMama]

Jeesh! You guys are so yesterday!

This is my usual routine......


6:00 am Gym
8:00 am Breakfast (oatmeal and egg whites)
9:00 am Hair appointment
10:00 am Shopping
12:00 PM Brunch
2:00 PM
1) Assume complete control of the U.S. Federal, State and Local
Governments as well as all other national governments,
2) Recruit all straight youngsters to our debauched lifestyle,
3) Destroy all healthy heterosexual marriages,
4) Replace all school counselors in grades K-12 with agents of Colombian
and Jamaican drug cartels,
5) bulldoze all houses of worship, and
6) Secure total control of the INTERNET and all mass media for the
exclusive use of child pornographers.

2:30 PM Get forty winks of beauty rest to prevent facial wrinkles from
stress of world conquest
4:00 PM Cocktails
6:00 PM Light Dinner (soup, salad, with Chardonnay)
8:00 PM Theater
11:00 PM Bed

I love this. Here's mine.
6:00 am wake up to rush out door to get to work early
6:30 still not showered since the dogs pooped and I'm cleaning it up
6:45 Start making lunches for the kids convinced that I can still get to work by 7:15.
7:15Lunches are made but by now DS is up and can't find his homework.
7:30 Run up to shower, find clothes that cover my body
7:50 While the white egg omelette with oatmeal sounds good and I really meant to eat that today, I grab a handful M&Ms and a bottle of pepsi and finally get out the door
8:00 As I didn't plan for the snow and ice last night I'm just getting the first layer of ice off the cars.

8:45 I finally arrive at work, grab my hairbrush, because I forgot to brush itbefore I left. Go into the bathroom after I've seen my boss and put my shirt on right side out

9:00 Settle down to work when I get the call from home that I took off with the only keys to the van again......

I really do want to contribute to gay world domination but since I don't get home 'til 8:00 'cause my day started so late so I put the kids to bed, try to do something around the house. DP and I talk for 5 mins and go to bed.

I'll try again tomorrow.
Gay lifestyle?

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

Well, we are gay. We do have a life. I think we're just a little short on style...

Mike, I gotta say this. Egg whites and oatmeal is just nasty, man. We have oatmeal, every single lousy stupid morning (and the good mornings too) but I just can't get the egg white thing...

Work every day. Yep. Every single weekday we go to work. Every single weekend we rush around trying to get caught up on all the other things (errands, housework, yardwork) we have to do, oh and visit the aging relatives too.

Clean the car, get the oil changed, clean the pool, you name it, we have to do it. I hired someone to do the lawn this past summer, but my DP prefers to do it herself... sooooo, add that to the pile for the weekend.

We're happy when we can slip off to WDW for a quick walk around the WS.

Lifestyle. Isn't that a gym?

 

[OrlandoMike]

Mike, I gotta say this. Egg whites and oatmeal is just nasty, man.

If you think any of that itinerary I posted is even remotely true, I have a nightclub to sell you at Pleasure Island! (Well I do like the theater!)

Breakfast for me is a pop tart and some coffee!