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[Viki]

Hey, Valentine.

I'm all for the fireworks of an instantaneous crush, but I'm also for the slow simmer that can build up, bubble up, explode, cool down, and then start the whole gosh darn cycle again and again and again. I've experienced both and permutations on each several times. It's all good.

What I do know for sure and certain, in my own life and in the life of those I counsel, is that things cycle. There are times over 20 years when Gwen and I have been more like best friends and there are times when we've been red-hot lovers, and it's a joy in each stage to know that this will all repeat in its own time.

Of course, you've got the other issue of giving yourself time to work through your former relationship, which sounds like it ran deep. Even there the lines can be blurry. I had one like that and it took me six years to fully let it go. I didn't wait six years before I got back in the game and it wasn't like it was still full in bloom the whole time, but it did take that long before it really had transformed into something else.

Blessings.

 

[SparklieSunShine]

Well I am no expert on relationships considering my partner is the one and only person I have been with (going on 5 years in January)

My relationshio will be five years in January too! )


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As to Valentine. I would give this relationship a bit longer. Two weeks is a pretty short time to be able to tell if this person is good for you and if they have firework potential. I am weary of relationships that start off hot. I feel that they cool down fast and you are always waiting for that feeling you had at the beginning. My current relationship started off as friends and then we became more and I find myself falling deeper everyday. Just my thoughts.

 

[Valentine]

Hmmm... some thoughts to ponder.... Thank you all for your input!! It really helps to hear other people's history... to have something to compare and contrast! I am not planning on giving up on this relationship too quickly now.. I am hoping that it has potential.. but if it doesn't.. at least I know I tried.. something I haven't done too much of in the recent past!! I usually run and hide.. LOL!!! You would think by my age I would have this all figured out.. OY!!! Why can't everything in life be as simple as my love for the Mouse!!!

Thanks again.. !

Kathy

 

[donald...really]

Love is friendship that catches fire. I think Dear Abby said that. Not sure...

Anyway. I met Scott (my DH) and we knew we REALLY liked each other. We had fun with each other, we liked each others friends, we both LOVED Disney World, both made each other laugh, etc. But it was not instant "OH MY GOD" fireworks. But we knew this was the beginning of a new chapter for us both.

Close to a year after we met, we were vacationing at WDW. We were on one of the rides, I looked over at him (he didn't know I was looking at him) and it hit me. I mean like lightening. I realized "I LOVE HIM". That was the first time I thought those words. It took almost a year. And for the past 9 years, I have fallen deeper and deeper in love. Every day I love him more. I have learned little things about him that I love, that aren't obvious when you meet someone (like that he has no sense of direction; when he has a tennis lesson after work and he is not home when I get home from work, he leaves a note telling me what left overs are in the fridge and how to heat them up - 350 degrees for 15 minutes - as if I couldn't figure it out; how when he sleeps he cuddles one of our dogs under his arm like it was a stuffed animal; how he treats other people with kindness and patience, and so many other things that it would take me a year to type, but you get the idea).

I learned that love does not happen in the Snow White, Cinderella kind of way (meet the guy/gal once and you decide then and there to live "happily ever after"). Things that last take time to build.

 

[bubie2.5]

Love is friendship that catches fire. I think Dear Abby said that. Not sure...

Anyway. I met Scott (my DH) and we knew we REALLY liked each other. We had fun with each other, we liked each others friends, we both LOVED Disney World, both made each other laugh, etc. But it was not instant "OH MY GOD" fireworks. But we knew this was the beginning of a new chapter for us both.

Close to a year after we met, we were vacationing at WDW. We were on one of the rides, I looked over at him (he didn't know I was looking at him) and it hit me. I mean like lightening. I realized "I LOVE HIM". That was the first time I thought those words. It took almost a year. And for the past 9 years, I have fallen deeper and deeper in love. Every day I love him more. I have learned little things about him that I love, that aren't obvious when you meet someone (like that he has no sense of direction; when he has a tennis lesson after work and he is not home when I get home from work, he leaves a note telling me what left overs are in the fridge and how to heat them up - 350 degrees for 15 minutes - as if I couldn't figure it out; how when he sleeps he cuddles one of our dogs under his arm like it was a stuffed animal; how he treats other people with kindness and patience, and so many other things that it would take me a year to type, but you get the idea).

I learned that love does not happen in the Snow White, Cinderella kind of way (meet the guy/gal once and you decide then and there to live "happily ever after"). Things that last take time to build.

 

[pearlieq]

While I am on the subject...What exactly do they do for the "romantic turn-down service"? My So was wondering and I really couldn't tell her specifically.

I didn't see this answered so I thought I'd jump in. They usually do it on the night you go to Palo. They turn down the bed and add rose petals (I've seen pictures w/rose petal designs on the bed, and I've seen pictures with a rose petal trail leading toward the bed). You also get a towel swan pair and the usual chocolates. As far as I know that's about it, but I do hear it's nice.

 

[Valentine]

Oooooo.. I just got warm fuzzies all over!

 

[joanjett1976]

Every day I love him more. I have learned little things about him that I love, that aren't obvious when you meet someone (like that he has no sense of direction; when he has a tennis lesson after work and he is not home when I get home from work, he leaves a note telling me what left overs are in the fridge and how to heat them up - 350 degrees for 15 minutes - as if I couldn't figure it out; how when he sleeps he cuddles one of our dogs under his arm like it was a stuffed animal; how he treats other people with kindness and patience, and so many other things that it would take me a year to type, but you get the idea).QUOTE]

Now I want to marry Scott!

Been with GF for three years, was definitely one of those movie-esque, see each other across the room in a crowded club kinda meet!

 

[SparklieSunShine]

I didn't see this answered so I thought I'd jump in. They usually do it on the night you go to Palo. They turn down the bed and add rose petals (I've seen pictures w/rose petal designs on the bed, and I've seen pictures with a rose petal trail leading toward the bed). You also get a towel swan pair and the usual chocolates. As far as I know that's about it, but I do hear it's nice.

That sounds nice. I think I will end up opting for this package.

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Aww Scott that was really nice. I love hearing couples talking mushy about each other.

 

[Saxton]

Hi everyone! I just stumbled upon this thread and read every message! I'm usually over in the DVC boards (although I rarely post). I've got a few trips coming up - the next is at the end of October for the Food & Wine Festival (love it!) ...I'll be eating & drinking around the world. It's great to see everyone coming together online with this thread.



Sue

 

[barrie]

I too mostly hang out on the DVC boards - reading almost daily, but hardly ever posting. I've never felt uncomfortable being a **** on this board but it's really nice to have confirmation that I'm not the only one! I'll be staying at SSR 11/15-21 with my partner and 2 other friends. Anyone else gonna be there then? Barrie

Wow! They edited out the "d" word! I guess I'll just have to identify as a big old lesbian today!

 

[bubie2.5]

Hi Sue and Barrie! welcome to the thread.

 

[Viki]

Hi Sue and Barrie, I'm glad you found us and welcome.

I'm only sorry we're going to miss you all - it looks like we're all lined up with Oct, Nov, and Dec trips, but no overlaps!

 

[Saxton]

Thanks for the welcomes! I mentioned that I have quite a few trips coming up and I wasn't kidding. I'll be there Oct. 22-29, Dec. 3-10, Jan. and Feb. (have to check those dates). Normally I don't have that many trips but it's a combination of having to use up banked points on a couple DVC contracts that I bought and family trips. I'm not complaining ... it will get me out of the snow and hopefully make the winter tolerable!

 

[SparklieSunShine]

Hello Sue and Barrie! It is always nice to have more people to talk to on here and I am glad this thread is doing so well.

Barrie it looks like you will be there 2 weeks after me. Sue you will be there for 2 of the same days as me and my SO. The 28th and the 29th.

 

[Valentine]

Welcome Sue & Barrie... I too lurk over at the DVC boards... another owner here Just made my very first trip "home" this past august and have another set up for the 1st week of january. Nothing until then however One never knows though... LOL!! Usually not on the boards in the AM... but was experiencing some withdrawal with them being down last night... at least I think they were down.. I certainly could not get on!! So.. I just wanted to check in for a quick HI!

Have a good day everyone!!

Kathy

 

[Viki]

Thanks for the welcomes! I mentioned that I have quite a few trips coming up and I wasn't kidding. I'll be there Oct. 22-29, Dec. 3-10, Jan. and Feb. (have to check those dates). Normally I don't have that many trips but it's a combination of having to use up banked points on a couple DVC contracts that I bought and family trips. I'm not complaining ... it will get me out of the snow and hopefully make the winter tolerable!

Hey, we'll overlap in Dec. We'll be there 12/3-12/11, staying at the BCV. Maybe we could touch base.

 

[TomTO]

Hi Everyone,

Great to see this thread

My partner and I are going to be on the Disney Magic October 29th to November 5th ... then heading on over to Port Orleans Resort Riverside for four nights.

Anyone else out there?

Tom & Rick

 

[chele3796]

Hello!
I just found this thread and decided to "pipe up." I'm never on this section of the DIS because myself and my partner of 15 years have 2 children ages 6 & 9 so there's not much adult-only time going on
We will be at WDW October 15th-21st and we can't wait! We will also be in NYC November 13th-15th. I have to say that trip hasn't seen half the planning that the WDW trip has. I wish there was a NYCboards

Michele

 

[Viki]

Hello!
I just found this thread and decided to "pipe up." I'm never on this section of the DIS because myself and my partner of 15 years have 2 children ages 6 & 9 so there's not much adult-only time going on
We will be at WDW October 15th-21st and we can't wait! We will also be in NYC November 13th-15th. I have to say that trip hasn't seen half the planning that the WDW trip has. I wish there was a NYCboards

Michele

Hey, Micehelle, I know what you mean about the children. At the beginning of this thread I had to ask lots of questions about PI because even though we've made many visits over the years, and are DVC members, I knew practically nothing about PI. Now, however, that our kids and 16 and 17, we're beginning to branch out.