Funeral Attire-Suggestions Needed

[GingerJay]

I have a funeral coming up this weekend- my great aunt just passed
haven't been to one in a long time- what is the accepted "attire"? I am thinking of wearing a dark purple dress-is that okay? What about shoes- do you think open toes are acceptable? Or closed toe?
TIA!

 

[Handbag Lady]

Hi, I am so sorry for your loss.


The park purple dress and open-toe shoes sounds good to me. In our family and area, we wear dark clothes and whatever shoes go with the clothing. Anything respectful is good. We would avoid red or white, unless the deceased asked for it. (My aunt requested Disney clothes. I couldn't do it but others did and that worked out great.)

I would consider shoes that are comfortable, though, in case plans call for a graveside service. I hated having to walk in wet grass with higher heels.

Don't forget to bring tissues or a handkerchief or two. Even if you might not need one, someone near you will.

 

[Diegosmom]

No a days people wear anything...not that I think it is right...

My uncle died this summer, my younger cousin wore a nice black dress and black shoes...here older sister (age 33) hmmm lets just say there was a big fight over her outfit

nice brown top with off white sweater over it...fine but then she had on bell bottom jeans and not sure of the real name but toe shoes...they are shoes that go inbeween each toe...and they were aqua blue...boy cousin dressed right but also had these toe shoes but in black so less noticeable...

Lets just say my uncle would have had a few words to say to his daughter if he was alive and they were attending someone else's funeral...I think it was totally disrespectful.

Anyway, a lot of people wore jeans to this funeral but most wore nice tops so I think that is ok.

What you are talking about wearing I think is totally fine.

 

[dislaney]

I have attended a few funerals lately and almost everyone is in either black or dark colors. Your outfit sounds fine. Sorry for your loss!

 

[walden]

I'm sorry for your loss.

Your outfit sounds fine to me. No-one should be looking at your shoes anyway but I second the thought that they should be comfortable! I've been to all to many family funerals this year. For my mother's funeral the immediate family wore bright colors - at her request. For other funerals and wakes, I think the family members mostly wore darkish colors mostly navy or dark brown, but dark purple wouldn't have stood out. For my FIL's funeral -- immediate family wore black. He would have expected it.

I honestly didn't notice what non-family members were wearing at either the funerals or the wakes. I was just glad that people were there.

 

[a1tinkfans]

sorry for your loss
I think any dark color outfit that you have is appropriate. Whatever you are more comfortable in re shoes is okay in my book. Its really not a "fashion" type thing, its just nice to see people show up to show their respects...Sorry again, for your families loss!

 

[scrapquitler]

I have a funeral coming up this weekend- my great aunt just passed
haven't been to one in a long time- what is the accepted "attire"? I am thinking of wearing a dark purple dress-is that okay? What about shoes- do you think open toes are acceptable? Or closed toe?
TIA!

That sounds fine. Either shoe is okay. The important part is to be there.

 

[Poohforyou]

I'm sorry for your loss.

I think your outfit sounds perfectly fine. I think anything conservative and subdued is appropriate.

 

[aprilgail2]

Sounds fine. People really wear all sorts of things to wakes/funerals. If I am going on the way home from work we all stop in with our work clothes on- jeans and tshirts...otherwise I will wear jean and a nice shirt or black pants and a nice shirt....sometimes don't even have to wear a nice shirt if we are just stopping by and I am not even opening my coat!

 

[shortbun]

When my dad died, we all wore purple, his favorite color. When my mom died, red. Any idea if your aunt identified with a color? Having been to way too many funerals of late, I can tell you folks wear most anything other than beach attire. I think jeans and a nice top would be ok too. Just be comfortable and celebrate your aunt's life. Sorry for your loss.

 

[GingerJay]

Hey, OP here!

Thank you all for your condolences. I really appreciate the well wishes.

I guess I'm worrying too much. My grandmother is the one "managing" (is that the right word?) the funeral and she is every bit the "true southern lady"- like no white shoes after Labor Day- hat to church every Sunday-mint juleps on her porch- kind of southern lady
and I don't want to cause her any stress or have her look at me like some kind of heathen because I'm wearing open toed shoes

Thanks again

 

[Disney Doll]

I think if the open toe is a conservative style sling back pump or something along those lines, and not a Frederick's of Hollywood 6" spike, that Grandma should be OK with them.

 

[Belle0101]

Sorry for your loss.

I think your chosen outfit sounds quite appropriate.