Friends

[chell]

Do you ever feel like sometimes friends are more work than they should be? Someone recently made this comment to me and I was wondering if they were the only one who felt that way.

 

[Pop Daddy]

I want to be a monk

 

[Disney Doll]

Some friends are. I've had friend for years who, when I think back on it, has been a HUGE amount of work, and angst. One thing after another...teenage pregnancy, substance abuse, married twice, now thinks she's lesbian.

Oy!!!!!!

 

[chell]

After they said that to me I started thinking about some of my relationships. There are a few friends who I am always there for them when they need someone, but as soon as I need a friend they don't have time for me. So I wonder if it was a situation similar to this that made them feel that way.

Guess I'm bored tonight and over-analyzing everything.

 

[chell]

Originally posted by Pop Daddy
I want to be a monk

Somehow I really don't believe that one.

 

[grinningghost]

That's why I've simplified my life and stick with my 2 good friends who live very busy lives and haven't become "work" for me at all.

 

[4greatboys]

Yes! I have one friend who gets herself into situations she is unhappy about it then calls me all the time to tell her what to do. But when I do tell her, she doesnt take the advise.
Luckily she isnt always like that but when she is I want to hide.

 

[Aimeedyan]

No, because I've come to a place in my life in which I only am friends with those that truly are not hard work at keeping... you know? Like in HS and college, you have TONS of friends, and it takes work keeping up with all those people! As you get older, your circle of friends gets smaller, but closer. Me and my very best friend can go literally weeks without contacting each other and still be the very best of friends when we do contact each other. We're just busy, and that's okay!

I am a firm believer that God sends people in and out of our lives to serve a purpose at the time, and that we don't always have to keep up those relationships forever... it's okay to let some go once that relationship has "served its purpose" you know? And some friends will stay around forever. But those friendships that stay around dont have to be nutured all the time in order to keep them up...

Friends are supposed to be a gift you give yourself, let those hard to maintain friendships go... you'll find other good friends right around the corner that won't take as much upkeep =)

 

[chell]

Originally posted by Aimeedyan
I am a firm believer that God sends people in and out of our lives to serve a purpose at the time...

I really like that part. That's something great to remember.