Friend trouble.

[cindys_castle2011]

Remember that friend that got in a wreck.

My best friend, Kelsey. We have seriously done EVERYTHING together. I'm with her 24/7. Her family is my family, and vice versa. We go on vacations together. Last summer she has surgery on her knee and I practically lived with her for three weeks. This summer she got in a bad wreck, and I was the only one that stayed with her just about every night. Changing her bloody hand wraps, and putting drops in her eyes that had stitches and cuts all on it. So I guess you can say we've always been here for each other.

Well she got a boyfriend about a month after I did. He is black so they're not allowed to date, but she some how found ways to see him and she was always on the phone with him. I liked him, I grew up with him.. he is a really good guy that comes from a really good family.

I got on facebook a while ago, and saw that he turned him relationship status to single. So I went to her page and it said something like 'Didn't want it to end like this. He acts like its no big deal.. so I'm just gonna keep my head up and be strong.' That one was like 30 minutes ago. Then I strolled down and saw another one from last night that said 'I have nobody anymore. no one to talk to, no one to go to, I just have no one.'

I left her a comment and was like "no one?? uhm.. okay.."

I mean she got kinda mad at me yesterday cause she wanted to me stay with her, but I told her my sister was in from college and my mom wouldn't let me go anywhere.. She always gets like mad and little stuff like that. but five minutes later, its all over.

I texted her this morning, no text back.

I haven't talked to her all day. i had to find out via facebook that her and her nine month boyfriend broke up. I mean thats something that you tell your best friend. She's ALWAYS come to me with anything, this is no different.

I guess I kinda got upset that she would put it over facebook and myspace before she told me. Before she came to me, to talk about it with..

 

[Sparx]

do you think that maybe she didn't want to call/text becasue you were with your other friend was visiting?

on a side note, who wasn't allowing them to date? his parents, or hers?

 

[JulielovesDisney]

She's just really upset because she just broke up with her boyfriend. I'd give her some space, but still be there for her. Let her anger, or whatever she's feeling towards you, blow over.
Something stupid like you having to stay home b/c your sis was home won't break up a friendship.

 

[BabyPiglet]

She's just upset. Give her some time. (I find teenagers are particularly dramatic in these situations.)

 

[cindys_castle2011]

do you think that maybe she didn't want to call/text becasue you were with your other friend was visiting?

on a side note, who wasn't allowing them to date? his parents, or hers?

My other friend? Wait, what?

And her parents. She told them about him, and they told her multiple times that they 'forbid' her to see him. Although she still found ways too.

 

[MickeyisBeast]

My other friend? Wait, what?

And her parents. She told them about him, and they told her multiple times that they 'forbid' her to see him. Although she still found ways too.

Personally, I dont think she should've disrespected her parents and gone out with that guy. But, how come her parents wouldn't let her go out with him in the first place?

Anyways, give her some time, she'll come around. Just because you can't hang out wont ruin your friendship.

 

[Sparx]

My other friend? Wait, what?

And her parents. She told them about him, and they told her multiple times that they 'forbid' her to see him. Although she still found ways too.

sorry, i misread. your sister was in from college. thats what i meant. (i thought you said, "my friend's sister" lol)

 

[imabrat]

It sounds like she's just a little peeved, she's used to having your attention 24/7. When she doesn't, it's weird and kinda frightening. Like when older children get a new sibling - they're used to having their parents attention 24/7 and when it's suddenly changed, they act up.
If it goes on for much longer, then I'd think she's just kinda immature. I'd let her have a few days to "grieve", but tell her firmly that you will be there for her if she needs you. If she's still acting the same way in a week, then I think it's time to re-evaluate your friendship.

 

[jacksluver123]

It sounds like she's just a little peeved, she's used to having your attention 24/7. When she doesn't, it's weird and kinda frightening. Like when older children get a new sibling - they're used to having their parents attention 24/7 and when it's suddenly changed, they act up.
If it goes on for much longer, then I'd think she's just kinda immature. I'd let her have a few days to "grieve", but tell her firmly that you will be there for her if she needs you. If she's still acting the same way in a week, then I think it's time to re-evaluate your friendship.

I totally agree with this. i had a friend who when i didnt text her back, she went physcho... some friends are just really clingy and needy...

 

[AliceinHalloweentown]

It sounds like she's just a little peeved, she's used to having your attention 24/7. When she doesn't, it's weird and kinda frightening. Like when older children get a new sibling - they're used to having their parents attention 24/7 and when it's suddenly changed, they act up.
If it goes on for much longer, then I'd think she's just kinda immature. I'd let her have a few days to "grieve", but tell her firmly that you will be there for her if she needs you. If she's still acting the same way in a week, then I think it's time to re-evaluate your friendship.

Yep, as a clingy/needy friend, I agree with this.

I constantly need to work on not twisting ordinary things into bad things. If my best friend doesn't talk to me for a few days I can freak out easily and feel like she doesn't care.

I know it sounds awful, but it's really something people like me need to learn to deal with.

It'll go away in a few days, and if not, I also agree she's just being immature.