Friend Problem

[DisneyGirl421]

Hey guys-- I need some friend advice...

Ok it has to do with my best guy friend ( and crush ) Steve. Well, he and this other girl, Nicole, are also really good friends... A little too close if u ask me ( she has a b/f and has been going out with him since August) When steve is with Nicole, he completely ignorns me. Like at play practice on sat (im in crew, steve & nicole are in the play) I said hi steve, and guess wut-- HE DIDNT EVEN LOOK UP. He jus passed right by me, even tho I said hi, pretty loud too. He also does this to me in the halls at school. And its not jus me, he ignorns every1 else too. At practice (again) my friend Caitlyn while walking with me, when he and nicole passed, she said Hey Steve... Again, didnt even acknowlege we were even there. Then Caitlyn said Nice of u to say hi! STILL DOESNT ANSWER. Then during lunch break (we get an hour break) He is sitting alone with nicole in the auditorium when everyy1 else is outside sitting and laughing and every1. He is missing so much.. Every1 was talking bout sumthin that happened during that break but he didnt get it cuz he wasnt there. Now that Nicole girl, it seems like she has no other friends besides him. Like when he is absent, b4 homeroom, when they usualy walk around, she jus sits in front of the chorus room, waiting for the bell, alone. And she sits at my lunch table and jus does homework or study, not getting into any of the convos. Its wierd.
Ok I am getting pissed off at him, cuz he thinks there is nothing wrong with wut hes doing. He is all buddy buddy with me when its jus me and him, or me and him, and other ppl, but NO when hes with Nicole, its like I dont exist. What should i do? Should I confront him or what? I dont wanna lose this friendship since we have been friends practically all our lives. ( he lives down the street from me, and he moved there in 2nd grade. We have been friends ever since) I dont kno wut to do. Please Help me!

*P.S.-- Sorry bout the lenght, but i needed to say this!

 

[KingKobra]

Well if i were you i would say something to him. Be polite and tell him that you feel like he is ignoring you. Since he is one of your good friends he shouldnt be offended and end your friendship. Just ask him why he doesnt say hi when you say it to him. Maybe he doesnt realize he is doing it or how you feel. you have make things quite clear for us guys.

 

[nat07]

Some thing like this happned between some of my friends.......Just try to talk to him about it.......or you could do what my friends did......when he isnt with her and wants to be with you guys dont be excited he's there or be extreamly nice to him...I guess kinda ignore him..even tho it might be hard it will make him see how much he needs you guys and that he dosent just need her..it worked for my friends and now he knows how they felt and he knows he was wrong about what he did

I hope this helps and that you guys figure out your problems

 

[AbErGrl217]

It sounds like this guy is a using u and all ur friends. I know people like that who are so nice to u if they have no friends or no one else to talk to in that class and if you see them with their best friend together they act like you arent there. I hate people who do that. Maybe you should talk to him and ask him why he never says hello to you anymore.

 

[ima geek]

I know how you feel. All the rest of my "Circle" went to a different elementary school than me. From Kindegarden to 2nd grade they all knew this girl, let's call her M. Well, there were 7 of us in my "Circle". We were pretty close, I thought. A few days ago, M moved back to our school from a private one. Ever since, my friends have been all over her. It's like she became friend number 7, and I was put on a waiting list. That day, the day M moved back, I was going to walk with my friends to our lockers, like we always do after school. They were talking to M, so I waited. When they finished talking, they said theri goodbyes, and left. I stood for a moment, cause I know they saw me, and they kept walking. I felt like a deer in the headlights. Well that wasn't the end of it. Next day in 1st period, which 3 of us have together, I had a funny joke to tell my friends. They were talking to each other so I waited for a pause in the conversation. I said "Hey guys, I have a funny joke to tell you!" and they kept on talking. I waited for another pause, and said it again. No reply. So I turned to the guy I sit next to in class, he's kinda my friend, and I said "Look. They don't even know I'm here. They're ignoring me." I thought they would have a reply to that, but they didn't. They didn't even look like they noticed. On that same day (I know I'm going on and on) at lunch, I got in the line and waited. I got my food and went to sit down. I looked, and my chair was gone. I stood there for a minute, hoping 1 of them would notice that I had no chair. I waited, and waited, all the while anger building inside of me. Finally, I set down my purse, picked up one of my friend's stuff piles, and another, and set them dead on the floor. I set down my tray and walked halfway across the cafeteria to find the only empty chair I saw while my friends looked on in astonishment (As did a few others in the cafeteria.). I dragged that chair over, set it down, and said. "Hello! Did you notice me?" In a very reasonable questioning voice, no anger, no nothing. And all my friend said was "Hey, you put my stuff on the floor." I was really angry. Not because that was all she said to me, but because they set my stuff on the floor all of the time. I don't understand why they won't even notice me, or care about me. Why do teenage girls always have to stab each other in the back? That's it. I'm done now.

 

[WDWfanatic288]

Sarah-ARGH! My old friends did that a lot...that's why I'm not friends with them anymore! i can't STAND when people do that!

Laura and Sarah-yall both need to talk to your friends about it...they seriously might not realize that they are doing it...I kinda did that too my friends(it was just i hung out with another group over them a lot) and they told me and i changed

 

[Princess Ash]

I am sorry Lots of hugs ur way! But, anyways, yeah; I would talk to him about it. Don't tell him that he's "ignoring" you (In my opinion, it sounds kinda like "I need attention", no offence KingKobra) tell him that you think you need to spend more time together. Instead of focusing on what he's done wrong in the past, see if you can improve it/fix it before it gets worse and you guys grow apart again. Then, if that doesn't work, I'd try the "U r ignoring me" line! lol! If that still doesn't happen, then maybe he's not such a good friend after all! (Good Luck!!!!)

 

[ima geek]

Okay, here's the scoop. I'm not good at talking things out, so I wrote a letter to 3 of my friends. I decorated the letters so the impact wouldn't be as harsh. I only think one of my friends was totally appauled by it, but she's still speaking to me 'whew!' Thanks for all your advice guys!

 

[DisneyGirl421]

Ok i talked to steve. Yesterday, i went on the bus and it was jus him and me. ( i normally get a ride with my sis but she had to stay after) i told him that when he's with nicole he like doesnt acknowledge me or his other friends. He didnt even realize he was doing it. He said he'll try to stop hanging out with JUS nicole. and try to be aware of other things wehn hes with her. He even thanked me for tellin him this b4 sum1 else like totally flips on him. i even asked him to come to the movies tomorrow night with our friends ( not nicole ) and he said sure. Thanks for the great advice!

 

[DisneyGirl421]

Ok i talked to steve. Yesterday, i went on the bus and it was jus him and me. ( i normally get a ride with my sis but she had to stay after) i told him that when he's with nicole he like doesnt acknowledge me or his other friends. He didnt even realize he was doing it. He said he'll try to stop hanging out with JUS nicole. and try to be aware of other things wehn hes with her. He even thanked me for tellin him this b4 sum1 else like totally flips on him. i even asked him to come to the movies tomorrow night with our friends ( not nicole ) and he said sure. Thanks for the great advice!

 

[Tiggergurl88]

If you ask me hes actin like a jerk, but I think he likes this gurl nicole as more than a friend. You should juss talk to him politely and tell him how u feel bout this whole sitiation. Maybe he doesnt realize how much he is hurtin you. Normally friendships like tha can turn into sometin more cuz u both have feelins for each other and since u said u have a crush on him but i wouldnt go that far right now. Question tho....does he know you like him as more than a friend??