OK - we did both last trip (me, DH, DD4, DD5, GM, GF).
We all LOVED the BBQ!!! I mean, LOVED it! The girls had the best time dancing for hours with the characaters, many times one-on-one. GM and GF enjoyed the wine coolers. I am sooooo dissapointed to miss it during our Jan. trip.
If you do go, arrive 45 min. early. Not only is seating first-come (and close to the dance floor is the most fun), but they have pre-show activities with the Characters for the kids. For the first 30 minutes, there were only 10-15 kids there, with five characters, so DD's got to play duck-duck-goose and other games literally holding hands with Minnie! BTW, you do not need tickets for these pre-show activities (they take place on the lawn), so anyone could stop by for some free fun. Also, we are not country music fans but still had a blast, and the food is exactly the same as HDMR, but with an expanded selection of sides, desserts, beverages etc.
NOW - as for the HDMR. We loved the food, HATED the show. Did not laugh once. The kids did not laugh once. At all. And we are a fun-lovin' crowd. I think just maybe, hokey, contrived humor may not be for us ("and that's....ok").
Or, maybe they just need to serve wine coolers at the HDMR as well.
BBQ:
AND NOW, photographic evidence of how little fun we had at HDMR (lol - GF is like "please leave me alone...!):