For Men: Do you forfeit your "Man Card" if you attend a Bridal Show?

[ZephyrHawk]

The more I hear of this 'man card' the less I like it. Tell me, is there a woman card? And if so, how would one go about losing it?

 

[disdanny]

Better question is why would any man WANT to attend a bridal shower?

Ever been??

Some of those bridal models are smokin' HOTTTTTTT!!!

 

[pearlieq]

I have a vague recollection of maybe dragging DH to one when we were engaged. I know it wasn't his idea.

He collected a million brochures for DJs, photographers, and travel agents. Then I lost him by the cake samples.

I did not make him stay for the fashion show.

I'm pretty sure he still has his man card. It would have been a long 9 years without it!

 

[Abbie]

Better question is why would any man WANT to attend a bridal shower?

Not a bridal shower, a bridal SHOW! And are you kidding?? Tons of free food, cake, champagne, gifts, etc. What's not to like?

My DD's fiance went with us to a great show, there were tons of men there. I'm glad too because they were able to narrow down some choices and they did pick their dj from there. Also, the caterer we had already signed a contract with was doing the show so we were able to taste lots of their signature appetizers. We just wandered from table to table nibbling on shrimp, crab balls, tenderloin, crab dip, etc. etc. etc. It was awesome!

 

[wdwfan16]

I had no use for these bridal shows and I am sure DH would have given me a blank look if I asked him to join me.

 

[mtdevine615]

My friend goes to as many as he can but he's a photographer.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

The more I hear of this 'man card' the less I like it. Tell me, is there a woman card? And if so, how would one go about losing it?

Hocking a loogie and unnecessarily peeing outside immediately come to mind.

 

[RadioFanatic]

I only went to those shows with my intended and he definitely has his man card! In fact, he was very diligent working on our wedding and was an equal decision maker to me. I enjoyed working on the wedding with him - it made it even more special to me to know the details were as important to him. And we only had one argument - he wanted sea bass for our fish entree and I wanted salmon. I won.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

Hocking a loogie and unnecessarily peeing outside immediately come to mind.

 

[MosMom]

I was just a vendor at a bridal show on Sunday and nearly all the brides had their groom to be with them.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

Hocking a loogie and unnecessarily peeing outside immediately come to mind.

Guess I'm safe then.

For now.

 

[Handbag Lady]

Hocking a loogie and unnecessarily peeing outside immediately come to mind.

Well, there goes my card...

 

[FireDancer]

I'm confident enough in my masculinity to go to a bridal show with my fiancée. I wouldn't just go to go but hopefully whomever I am marrying respects my opinion enough to allow me to have at least some input in my own wedding.

Of course I am also smart enough to defer to her if we don't agree. I know to pick my battles.

 

[SAHDad]

I'm confident enough in my masculinity to go to a bridal show with my fiancée. I wouldn't just go to go but hopefully whomever I am marrying respects my opinion enough to allow me to have at least some input in my own wedding.

Of course I am also smart enough to defer to her if we don't agree. I know to pick my battles.

Heh. When DW and I were engaged, we went to a bridal show together (sadly, one without food samples). We rejected more than a few vendors because I would ask a question, and they would direct the answer to her.

I told her that, for most things, I was fine with what she chose, and if I found anything really objectionable, or if something was really important to me, I would let her know. Flowers, colors, her dress, the bridesmaids, etc, I did a lot of smiling and nodding, but I vetoed a couple of invitations, helped with the menu and the DJ, etc.

 

[pigletgirl]

I know dh2b wouldn't be opposed to going, but I think he would assume that I would want a girlfriend to come with me (which is true). I would also want him there as well. It isn't dress shopping.

Yes, since this is both our wedding he gets imput of what he wants too! It isn't just me.

 

[bumbershoot]

So glad someone noticed that there was a show/shower problem going on there.


The whole "man card" thing is silly. A real man helps out his girlfriend/fiancee/wife. Especially when she is his fiancee...after all, usually, it's the man who set that whole ball rolling! He's the one that caused it, so he should help out.

Sure, there are some women who have the whole thing planned out in their head and it's just a "insert groom's picture here" scenario, but I knew far more women who really wanted their fiances' opinions and ideas.

In my case, I wanted Vegas, and I wanted to be married that year. Though we were just talking last night about it, and we would have had nearly no one at our wedding, as it would have been 9/22/01. Since all of my family flew in, we would only have had the bravest family members there.

But DH had had a backyard, quickie, wedding in his early 20s, and he wanted the big to-do. White poofy gown for me, suit for him, etc etc. And so I set to planning HIS dream wedding. I can't say it went perfectly...we had our share of problems.

But since he was the one who proposed and he was the one that wanted the white poofy wedding, he recognized that he did need to come with me to support me as I planned!

Most women seemed jealous that I had my fiance with me. This was in early '01, and there just weren't that many guys there, even though it's touchy feely sensitive male Seattle and surrounding areas.

He went to every vendor meeting with me; only thing he missed was when I picked up the invitations. But we were marrying in Oregon but living in Washington, and so our vendors, including invitation place, were in Portland...they were available for pickup, and DH had to work, so I jumped in the car and nearly flew down there.

I'll never forget our wedding site coordinator (a man) and DH goofing off in the apple orchard (site of our reception), talking about how the site should host "my big fat McMenamins wedding show", and how the site guy could wear a tux like they wear in Dumb and Dumber, and then Chuck (site guy) suggested that sort of tux for DH...

Anyway, vendor meetings and wedding shows CAN be romantic, and I highly recommend that guys go, if their fiancees want them to go!

 

[bumbershoot]

Oh...dress shopping. DH didn't go shopping with me, but he saw pix of my gown online, and the gown lived with us from middish '01 until our wedding (and it still is here, I really MUST get it cleaned and have something done with it!). He never saw me IN it until the wedding pictures before the ceremony.

But I was wearing a corset, a serious one, in order to fit into the gown, and since he was the one that practiced getting it tight enough, he had to come into my suite to tie it up for me. That was...pretty awesome.


We'll be having a vow renewal someday, and that will likely just be all a big surprise for him, since this is about me having "my" day, since he had HIS day. (and there will be very FEW guests)

 

[Lassie Lynne]

I went to one of those Bridal Shows when I was engaged, there were a few men there.

When they started the program part, the first they did was ask if any grooms were there (a few).....then if any father of the brides were there (a couple).......then if any father of the groom's where there (one)..........that man won a Movado watch!!!!!

So....you never know.........

 

[NewDCLGuy]

Single men are specifically allowed to go to a shower for the purpose of "hitting on chicks." In all other circumstances, yes, their man card is forfeited.