? For Christians, about miscarriages...

[Blondy876]

I lost a baby two years ago October 23. With the anniversary of the loss coming up I have been upset lately. More so this year than last because I had a baby last October 8 and was busy. Now I'm really having a tough time with it.

I am a Christian. I believe in heaven and hell. I also believe that the baby I lost was a baby, a life. Here is my question. Do you think I will get to see that baby when I get to heaven? Did that baby go back? Or did God send that same little soul to me when I got pregnant a couple of months later? Does that make sense? I plan to talk with my pastor about this but I feel silly for some reason. I was just looking for opinions. Thanks.

 

[saucymb]

Oh, I believe that you will one day meet that baby! My mother had two miscarriages, and she is very much looking forward to meeting those two babies in heaven. What a joyous renunion that will be for our family as well as for your family when that day comes!

 

[binny]

((hugs)) sweetie, I believe your baby is waiting for you in Heaven.

 

[SillyMe]

I always used to wonder this same thing. I had a miscarriage prior to having dd6. When I got pregnant with her I always wondered if it was the same baby or a different one.

After a particular conversation I had with her when she was 3 years old, I now believe that she is a different child than the one I lost, and I believe that baby was a boy. I do hope that one day I get to see "him" again.

 

[TinkerBess_SnowTori]

My MIL gave me the best book - I wish I could remember the title - I think it was something like - Until We Meet Again or When We Meet Again -- I will have to see if I can find it.

It talked about meeting those children we have lost through miscarriage or abortion again in Heaven. It was well written and gave me peace.


ETA : I found it = It is called "I'll Hold You In Heaven" by Jack Hayford

(I cried just typing the title)

 

[Shel]

Maybe these verses from Psalms will give you some comfort -

"For you created my inmost being. You knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderfulI know that full well. When I was woven in the secret place your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in Your book before one of them came to be."

IMHO those verses tell me that if God knew us & loved us before we were even born then certainly all souls are unique and will be in heaven.

 

[ZachnElli]

I've read where some women think that their miscarried baby came to them later with the next child. But for me, that just isn't possible. I've had 6 miscarriages and no live births since I started miscarrying. I do believe I will see all of them in heaven. It is very hard and very painful to go through. But I think I had to go through it to get my Noah (through adoption). I have a very full house in heaven!

 

[Buckalew11]

I believe this also. I think we are all unique and therefore I think each baby is different (but that is just MHO). I think your baby will be reunited with you in Heaven. I believe all babies go to Heaven when they die.

I will share with you a song that is special to my friend Amy whose son Noah was born w/o a brain stem and died 1 hour later:


Hello, Goodbye

Where’s the navigator of your destiny?
Where is the dealer of this hand?
Who can explain life and it’s brevity
’cause there is nothing here that I can understand

You and I have barely met
And I just don’t want to let go of you yet

Chorus:

Noah, hello, goodbye
I will see you on the other side
Noah, sweet child of mine
I will see you on the other side

And so I hold your tiny hand in mine
For the hardest thing I’ve ever had to face
Heaven calls for you before it calls for me
When you get there, save me a place

A place where I can share your smile
And I can hold you for more than just a while

Chorus

By: Michael W. Smith and Wayne Kirkpatrick

 

[Kermit]

I miscarried my first baby, and I believe that I will see that baby again in Heaven.

It's not uncommon to wonder about all kinds of things after you miscarry. People don't like to talk about death at all, and we especially don't talk about miscarriages. The pregnancy that I lost was anembriotic, meaning that my body made a placenta and sac but no baby. I about lost it when I started wondering if I wouldn't have a baby in Heaven because I never really had a baby at all. But then I remembered that I worship a God who doesn't give us a stone when we ask for bread. Medical science may say I never had a baby, but there is a perfect baby in Heaven with Jesus, and I will see that baby someday.

I'm so sorry.

 

[minkydog]

Take care of yourself. Anniversaries are hard. My baby would be 15 this Christmas if she had made it. I don't think I go a day without thinking of her. But I don't cry about her anymore and the pain is no longer fresh.

I don't know the answers to your questions. I am also a Christian and I believe that life begins at conception. I lost my 2nd child at 15wks and I strongly believe that I will meet her when i go to heaven. I don't have any way of proving it, but it's what i believe.

 

[kidshop]

I believe each life is separate and unique and yes, we will meet up with our lost babies in heaven. I believe it was Dr. Suess who said, "A person is a person, no matter how small..." It's a very simple truth.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

You'll hold that baby in heaven!! There is a book I'd like to recommend. It's called I'll Hold You In Heaven, by Jack Hayford. It's about healing and hope for the parent who has lost a child through miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion or early infant death. I read it after my son died, and I think it will help you answer the questions that you have. I believe that each child born or not, is an individual soul, and though it doesn't make sense now, sometimes our children are just "borrowed angels". If you like, PM me, and I would be glad to send you my copy. Hugs to you.

 

[luvthatduke]

Blessings to us all who have lost our children!
God is faithful to His word,
and I believe there are several passages that
give us hope to see our precious babies in Heaven.
Each one is, indeed, unique.
Wasn't it David, in the OT, who spoke about seeing
his son again?

Blondy876, I will pray for you and ask the Lord
to give you comfort.
Please feel free to post or PM if you need to.
Much love to you...

 

[N.Bailey]

I don't usually get involved with spiritual threads because they just go in a direction for the most part that I don't feel like going in. I believe what I believe and I don't need to prove to anyone that I'm right.

Having said that, here is what I believe on this subject. I believe we all reach an age of accountability. I don't think that's a precise age really, but more a frame of mind or a state of being. It will differ with the individual. My niece reached that age at a very young age. She understood what salvation meant and she willfully chose that path. My son however wasn't on her level, so for him, I think he was older.

Until we reach that age though, I believe we all go to heaven. I also believe that those who live in 3rd world countries who have never heard the word of God go to heaven as well.

I also believe that life begins at conception, so even if a miscarriage or abortion takes place, I fully believe the child will go directly to heaven.

I do not believe for one second that baptism is required to enter the kingdom of heaven either. We're told to become baptized to wash away our sins, but I fully believe it's a choice we are suppose to make after we're saved. To me, and I know everyone doesn't agree, but to me, having a child baptized is sort of a waste. I just believe that we're suppose to seek baptism for our own selves for it to be meaningful.

 

[JoeEpcotRocks]

I don't usually get involved with spiritual threads because they just go in a direction for the most part that I don't feel like going in. I believe what I believe and I don't need to prove to anyone that I'm right.

Having said that, here is what I believe on this subject. I believe we all reach an age of accountability. I don't think that's a precise age really, but more a frame of mind or a state of being. It will differ with the individual. My niece reached that age at a very young age. She understood what salvation meant and she willfully chose that path. My son however wasn't on her level, so for him, I think he was older.

Until we reach that age though, I believe we all go to heaven. I also believe that those who live in 3rd world countries who have never heard the word of God go to heaven as well.

I also believe that life begins at conception, so even if a miscarriage or abortion takes place, I fully believe the child will go directly to heaven.

I do not believe for one second that baptism is required to enter the kingdom of heaven either. We're told to become baptized to wash away our sins, but I fully believe it's a choice we are suppose to make after we're saved. To me, and I know everyone doesn't agree, but to me, having a child baptized is sort of a waste. I just believe that we're suppose to seek baptism for our own selves for it to be meaningful.

Agreed and well said.

 

[Jenn Lynn]

I had a miscarriage 2 years ago. I started miscarrying on my Birthday. I believe I will see my baby girl (just a feeling) in heaven.

Needless to say I had a hard time with my Birthday last year, but something special happened this year. I had a baby boy 3 days before my Birthday. It makes that time of year happy again for me. It gives me a reason to celebrate.

I am crying typing this. I didn't realize how much it still affects me.

to all who have lost a child.

 

[ElizaB39]

There is also a book called either, "Mommy, Please Don't Cry" or "Please Don't Cry Mommy" about this very topic. I gave this to my own mother when she was about 65. She had birthed two babies, boy and girl, that lived for one and two days, they were very early but probably would have lived these days. Then she had a miscarriage. After that she went on to have 5 more healthy kids with healthy pregnancies. She had already had my oldest sister before losing the 3 babies. I believe that losing these 3 really shaped her life. I know when she gets to heaven, her arms will be full.

 

[horseshowmom]

We lost our first baby. It was even more of a shock than it normally would have been, because two tests had said I wasn't pregnant. Nonetheless, I have no doubt that the baby was a unique individual who became a life a conception and went on to heaven. I have no idea whether the baby was a boy or girl, but I do expect to find out one day! : )

 

[mrsv98]

I lost DD's twin around Labor Day and even now, 6 yrs later, I still get sad. She came to me in a dream before DD was born and I was able to hold her and tell her I love her. I have no doubt she is waiting for me in heaven and someday I will tell DD she has a sister waiting for her there.

 

[Chattyaholic]

My Mom lost twins a year before I was born, and I look forward to meeting them in heaven someday.