challer
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Forgive me if I gush a bit in this thread. I wanted to share with you some follow up from an incident my wife and I had last year.
After Labor Day 2009, I came to the DIS Boards in some desperation as my wife needed emergency surgery. You can revisit the thread here so I don't have to review all the details:
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2278830
Anyway, thank G*d, everything turned out fine health wise. Jess came home and after a week of healing, she recovered physically. However, the incident did leave us with some emotional scarring. Prior to this incident, we were in the process of trying to figure out if our family was done growing (we have two fantastic kiddies) or whether we were going to forge ahead with more kids. It wasn't an easy dilemma for us because having each child didn't come easily. The discussion brought about a heap of struggles for us.
Once we came out of that emergency okay, we both had a shift of mindset. We decided that we were just going to accept that we were going to remain a fabulous family of four and move on in life raising our two kids that G*d has blessed us with. My wife's struggles were just too much to bear, and neither of us could handle the emotional turmoil anymore.
So, life went on.
A year passes by, and the four of us are on a three week summer vacation that I can only be a part of for the first week and a half. I kiss my wife and kids and hop on a plane back home. The family comes back right before Labor Day weekend and wakes me up at 4am (overnight flight) to celebrate our reunion. As the children run around getting reacquainted with their rooms an toys, my wife pulls me into our bedroom and closes the door.
She bought a pregnancy test in the airport.
It's positive.
Stunned silence. Then tears of joy.
(Then some jokes about how she gets pregnant after I leave her in a foreign country for a week and a half.)
Anyway, both of us are thrilled to be expecting our third child - the one we gave up on - in April. My mind has been racing for the last 2 months and I still haven't totally wrapped my mind around it, but my smiling hasn't stopped since. And, thank G*d, my lovely wife has been doing absolutely wonderfully.
When I think about where we came from a year ago in the emergency room - my wife in the worst pain I have ever seen a loved one in - to this point in our lives, I continue to count the blessings. But one thing I wanted to make sure to do was to thank those who have helped us along during that time.
So, I come back to the DIS boards.
There are many people that come here for comfort during times of struggle, and I can honestly say that the Boards really helped me get through those tense hours with your love and support sent our way. It truly made a difference for me. And then to have Kathy and Kevin send well wishes on the Podcast that week, well, I was at a loss for words.
There is a term in Hebrew: "hakarat hatov," which literally means, "recognizing the good." It is one of the most noble attributes in Judaism. The nuance that gets lost in translation is that this gratitude depends not on getting something good, but on recognizing the good that is already yours. And no matter what struggles and pains we encounter in our lives, each of us can find aspects in our lives that we can be grateful for. It is important to take the time to locate and acknowledge to the good that we have, especially if it has been bestowed upon us by others.
I wanted to send my "hakarat hatov" and deepest gratitude to the DIS family that helped me through one of the scariest times I have ever encountered, and I truly feel that you have helped me get towards this moment of joy in my life. Your contributions to helping those in trouble cannot be overstated. While I have only met a tiny fraction of the folks here, I really feel a connection to the members of this family. I give you all my thanks for sending all the well wishes, prayers and pixie dust back in 2009, because I feel it lasted for much longer than the end of that thread... and continues today.
Thank you all.
After Labor Day 2009, I came to the DIS Boards in some desperation as my wife needed emergency surgery. You can revisit the thread here so I don't have to review all the details:
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2278830
Anyway, thank G*d, everything turned out fine health wise. Jess came home and after a week of healing, she recovered physically. However, the incident did leave us with some emotional scarring. Prior to this incident, we were in the process of trying to figure out if our family was done growing (we have two fantastic kiddies) or whether we were going to forge ahead with more kids. It wasn't an easy dilemma for us because having each child didn't come easily. The discussion brought about a heap of struggles for us.
Once we came out of that emergency okay, we both had a shift of mindset. We decided that we were just going to accept that we were going to remain a fabulous family of four and move on in life raising our two kids that G*d has blessed us with. My wife's struggles were just too much to bear, and neither of us could handle the emotional turmoil anymore.
So, life went on.
A year passes by, and the four of us are on a three week summer vacation that I can only be a part of for the first week and a half. I kiss my wife and kids and hop on a plane back home. The family comes back right before Labor Day weekend and wakes me up at 4am (overnight flight) to celebrate our reunion. As the children run around getting reacquainted with their rooms an toys, my wife pulls me into our bedroom and closes the door.
She bought a pregnancy test in the airport.
It's positive.
Stunned silence. Then tears of joy.
(Then some jokes about how she gets pregnant after I leave her in a foreign country for a week and a half.)
Anyway, both of us are thrilled to be expecting our third child - the one we gave up on - in April. My mind has been racing for the last 2 months and I still haven't totally wrapped my mind around it, but my smiling hasn't stopped since. And, thank G*d, my lovely wife has been doing absolutely wonderfully.
When I think about where we came from a year ago in the emergency room - my wife in the worst pain I have ever seen a loved one in - to this point in our lives, I continue to count the blessings. But one thing I wanted to make sure to do was to thank those who have helped us along during that time.
So, I come back to the DIS boards.
There are many people that come here for comfort during times of struggle, and I can honestly say that the Boards really helped me get through those tense hours with your love and support sent our way. It truly made a difference for me. And then to have Kathy and Kevin send well wishes on the Podcast that week, well, I was at a loss for words.
There is a term in Hebrew: "hakarat hatov," which literally means, "recognizing the good." It is one of the most noble attributes in Judaism. The nuance that gets lost in translation is that this gratitude depends not on getting something good, but on recognizing the good that is already yours. And no matter what struggles and pains we encounter in our lives, each of us can find aspects in our lives that we can be grateful for. It is important to take the time to locate and acknowledge to the good that we have, especially if it has been bestowed upon us by others.
I wanted to send my "hakarat hatov" and deepest gratitude to the DIS family that helped me through one of the scariest times I have ever encountered, and I truly feel that you have helped me get towards this moment of joy in my life. Your contributions to helping those in trouble cannot be overstated. While I have only met a tiny fraction of the folks here, I really feel a connection to the members of this family. I give you all my thanks for sending all the well wishes, prayers and pixie dust back in 2009, because I feel it lasted for much longer than the end of that thread... and continues today.
Thank you all.
