This is a false equivalency. If you had a sick child in need of treatment you would pick up the phone and CALL the school or place of business and say you have an urgent need to get in touch with XYZ person. While a death is terrible, what is it you expect your daughter to do? I am sure if the death was of a child or parent you would have CALLED the school and asked to speak to her as her presence would be required ASAP and was not a matter to be handled via text message. Heck even those working offshore on oil rigs, there is always an emergency procedure to get in touch with said person.