Flying Annoyance Yesterday

[Disneybuckeye]

DH and I flew back from FL yesterday morning. We were middle & window. The 20 something kid in the aisle seat next to me had his right foot sticking under the seat in front of me because he had too much crap stuck under the seat in front of him to get his feet under. I say put it above or pull your feet in closer to your seat. He also used both arm rests and had his elbow three inches into my seat.

He was not large or overweight. He just sprawled everywhere. Every time I needed something out of my carry on I had to ask him to move his foot. I also spent the whole trip uncomfortably leaning into DH as I did not want his elbow touching me the whole way. I probably should have bumped it a few times, but I am not passive aggressive like that.

Am I out of line thinking this is rude?

 

[FCDub]

Sure, it's rude. It's also something that happens. Not worth giving another thought once it's over.

 

[mom2rtk]

Of course it's rude. I would have said something. It has happened to me and I just quickly asked if they minded moving their foot over into their space. Then I said thanks and it was over.

 

[natfrac]

Manspreading (or to be fair, womanspreading) is so annoying. Not sure why some people think they're entitled to your space.

 

[Arielfan98]

It happens! If it really bothers you you can try looking for flights that offer 2 seaters. The Jet Blue plane we always fly has a 3 seater then a 2 seater in the cabin. Better luck next time!

 

[keishashadow]

DH and I flew back from FL yesterday morning. We were middle & window. The 20 something kid in the aisle seat next to me had his right foot sticking under the seat in front of me because he had too much crap stuck under the seat in front of him to get his feet under. I say put it above or pull your feet in closer to your seat. He also used both arm rests and had his elbow three inches into my seat.

He was not large or overweight. He just sprawled everywhere. Every time I needed something out of my carry on I had to ask him to move his foot. I also spent the whole trip uncomfortably leaning into DH as I did not want his elbow touching me the whole way. I probably should have bumped it a few times, but I am not passive aggressive like that.

Am I out of line thinking this is rude?

Either rude or clueless. Everyone knows the middle seat occupant gets rights to both armrests by default

An excuse me, you are in my personal space should've suffficed but when all else fails, a well-placed elbow is more of a pro-active action vs being passive aggressive IMO.

 

[paisleys]

I agree that's rude. Two years ago I had a family behind me and they were letting the little girl kick my chair repeatedly, even though I asked the mom politely to have her stop (of course they denied it and she kept kicking-my husband was across the aisle from them and could see her kicking my chair). By the end of the trip I felt like I had whiplash and was bothered for a long time after that. We've flown since and everything was ok, but I'm still always anxious about it since the other flight. The lady I sat next to on my last flight was spilling into my chair and an armrest bully, but I was grateful to not be kicked on that flight (my husband was in front of her and getting kicked, that's what he gets for not switching seats with me on the last flight). If it isn't someone spilling into your chair, it's getting repeatedly kicked. I have kids that started flying at age 4 and I'm all over them like white on rice about being considerate. They sit quietly and respect that there are people in front of and in back of them so isn't fair . I totally get you and agree that kid was rude to invade the tiny, meager space you had. Rude. Flying is rough

 

[Ed J]

I have on several occasions asked the person next to me if they were going to pay for the portion of my seat they were using. I'm carful to know ahead of time why the actual $$ amount is and ask for it with out sounding snippy or aggressive ... actually is gonna sound douchie if your one the receiving end .. but oh well.

But it's has worked 100% of the time.

I had "giant guy" sitting next to on one trip and I made sure I asked him if he was gonna pay his share and I made sure I was really loud as the flight attendant was right next to him. I guess it really wasn't his fault as he was just a really big guy, but that should mean I shouldn't be compensated. Well the flight attendant did hear me and put both her hands on her cheeks and said well that doesn't look comfortable for either of you, she then proceeded to move me to an isle seat with more legroom :th:

My advice is to always speak up .

 

[FCDub]

I have on several occasions asked the person next to me if they were going to pay for the portion of my seat they were using. I'm carful to know ahead of time why the actual $$ amount is and ask for it with out sounding snippy or aggressive ... actually is gonna sound douchie if your one the receiving end .. but oh well.

But it's has worked 100% of the time.

I had "giant guy" sitting next to on one trip and I made sure I asked him if he was gonna pay his share and I made sure I was really loud as the flight attendant was right next to him. I guess it really wasn't his fault as he was just a really big guy, but that should mean I shouldn't be compensated. Well the flight attendant did hear me and put both her hands on her cheeks and said well that doesn't look comfortable for either of you, she then proceeded to move me to an isle seat with more legroom :th:

My advice is to always speak up .

You sound like a real joy to travel next to. Stuff happens. Publicly body-shaming a stranger who happened to be sitting next to you is far ruder than the original scenario in this post. Chill out and move on with life.

 

[sam_gordon]

Of course it's rude. But, I think you either say something or just accept it.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

Rude sure. But to be fair the gender nor the age has nothing to do with it.

Because my husband is tall I graciously (lol ok I love him so I do it) sit in the middle...nearly every dang time.

I always just hope I get someone who is nice but it doesn't always happen. From arm rest hogging to music being too loud so I can hear over the engine, to crowding, etc you name it. But I just shrug it off, inwardly (or whisper to my husband) about it and move on.

I do get the annoyance with the foot going under the seat in front of you. But if it bothered you enough I probably would have gone and spoken with the flight attendant not to be in a rude mean way but just because it may have meant the item would have been stowed in the overhead bin thus hopefully solving the issue. If it didn't bother you enough I would have just let it go.

As far as the elbow touching thing. Honestly I would suggest you review if air travel is right for you because unfortunately quarters are quite tight in airplanes nowadays. If you're in the middle and you're in a plane that seats more than 2 people in a row it's a thing you'll likely have to deal with.

ETA: I should say I would always talk to the passenger first in these types of situations prior to getting the FAs involved. If I could solve it myself I would rather do that.

 

[Shanti]

You sound like a real joy to travel next to. Stuff happens. Publicly body-shaming a stranger who happened to be sitting next to you is far ruder than the original scenario in this post. Chill out and move on with life.

Um, you just shamed the OP for her complaint. It's hypocritical for you to criticize the OP for "shaming" someone else.

The OP didn't post the name, a photo, or other identifiable info of the other passenger, so I don't see how that is actually shaming. No one has any idea who that person is. She was complaining about an anonymous stranger, but that isn't the same thing as shaming, which has an actual impact on the person being shamed.

This is a travel board and a place to share concerns & questions about travel, so the OP's post was appropriate.

 

[Ed J]

You sound like a real joy to travel next to. Stuff happens. Publicly body-shaming a stranger who happened to be sitting next to you is far ruder than the original scenario in this post. Chill out and move on with life.

The only thing you got right is that I am a real joy to Tavel next to. I'm sure you're the person who has a habit of doing the same things as the others are doing as wrong but when you do it, it's Ok. So why don't you follow your own advice and chill out / loose the anger.

I'll offer this up as proof for me being an awesome person to travel next to.




Met him a few minutes before take off, he slept on me 1/2 the flight home.

 

[FCDub]

Um, you just shamed the OP for her complaint. It's hypocritical for you to criticize the OP for "shaming" someone else.

The OP didn't post the name, a photo, or other identifiable info of the other passenger, so I don't see how that is actually shaming. No one has any idea who that person is. She was complaining about an anonymous stranger, but that isn't the same thing as shaming, which has an actual impact on the person being shamed.

This is a travel board and a place to share concerns & questions about travel, so the OP's post was appropriate.

I don't think you're following what's going on, but OK.

I'm not talking about posting a story on a board. I'm talking about basically saying "WOW, YOU'RE REALLY BIG AND ENCROACHING ON MY SEAT. ARE YOU GOING TO PAY ME FOR THAT?" out loud on a plane (which is what the previous poster rather proudly claimed to have done) does nothing but embarrass someone who is likely self conscious about such things to start.

My comment to the OP was that stuff happens all the time. In terms of things that can happen on a plane, it's pretty minor. Stuff's gonna happen. Don't let it bother you one iota after you step off the plane.

 

[FCDub]

The only thing you got right is that I am a real joy to Tavel next to. I'm sure you're the person who has a habit of doing the same things as the others are doing as wrong but when you do it, it's Ok. So why don't you follow your own advice and chill out / loose the anger.

I'll offer this up as proof for me being an awesome person to travel next to.



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Met him a few minutes before take off, he slept on me 1/2 the flight home.

Congrats on not being a jerk to a child. Maybe be nicer to adults, too.

 

[Ed J]

You know you can disagree with some without being ...... well acting like you. Try it sometime, you'll find it refreshing to act mature.

 

[lost*in*cyberspace]

Annoying things happen all the time. I will never understand why people start threads such as these.

 

[Disneybuckeye]

Of course it's rude. But, I think you either say something or just accept it.

I was curious if others would say something and I received my answer. In the future I will ask them to please move their foot.

Rude sure. But to be fair the gender nor the age has nothing to do with it.

I do get the annoyance with the foot going under the seat in front of you. But if it bothered you enough I probably would have gone and spoken with the flight attendant not to be in a rude mean way but just because it may have meant the item would have been stowed in the overhead bin thus hopefully solving the issue. If it didn't bother you enough I would have just let it go.

As far as the elbow touching thing. Honestly I would suggest you review if air travel is right for you because unfortunately quarters are quite tight in airplanes nowadays. If you're in the middle and you're in a plane that seats more than 2 people in a row it's a thing you'll likely have to deal with.

ETA: I should say I would always talk to the passenger first in these types of situations prior to getting the FAs involved. If I could solve it myself I would rather do that.

I love air travel and it is definitely right for me. We usually fly as a couple or family 4-6 times per year at least. Never had this happen before. Now we are usually in first class or comfort due to DHs status as he travels a lot for work. Those sections obviously have a lot more room.

We booked this trip 22 hours before we left as I was cold and DH told me to book us somewhere warm for the long holiday weekend. I thought for sure we would have middle seats in the back as I could not even book seats up front. We only ended up in coach for one of our four segments thanks to the help of the desk associates.

Annoying things happen all the time. I will never understand why people start threads such as these.

I will never understand why people make comments like this. If you think the thread is unworthy of you do not read it and definitely do not waste your time commenting.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

I love air travel and it is definitely right for me. We usually fly as a couple or family 4-6 times per year at least. Never had this happen before. Now we are usually in first class or comfort due to DHs status as he travels a lot for work. Those sections obviously have a lot more room.

We booked this trip 22 hours before we left as I was cold and DH told me to book us somewhere warm for the long holiday weekend. I thought for sure we would have middle seats in the back as I could not even book seats up front. We only ended up in coach for one of our four segments thanks to the help of the desk associates.

Yeah...but respectfully your explanation just makes it sounds worse or at least more

First, it's because the person is a guy, who is in their 20s, and you didn't want to touch them at all and now it's because you're so used to flying first class or comfort so this time you were stuck in coach.

Yes comfort and first class have more room but it wouldn't guarantee you wouldn't have someone who decides to take up more space. Flying means being around people from all over.

I guess now you know if you don't want to be seated back where people could bug you then you need to choose to fly first class or comfort..though to be fair poor passengers fly in every type of airline category.

 

[Disneybuckeye]

Touching someone I don't know for an hour for not something I was interested in doing. I chose to sit uncomfortably to avoid it. It really makes no difference who was in the seat and I have no idea what is their economic status.