Fluffy & Proud?

[carolfoy]

Deborah - I do think we live in a vain society - people have so much access to fake tans, hair extensions, heck, even plastic surgery is commonplace these days, not something reserved for the rich and famous, are any of these people truly happy? I really doubt it. Happiness comes from within and if someone really loves you they'll love you fat or thin, bald or hirsute, black, green or orange.

 

[DeborahS]

Happiness comes from within and if someone really loves you they'll love you fat or thin, bald or hirsute, black, green or orange.

Very true!

 

[natalielongstaff]

I hate all the Size 0 stuff

yes me too

 

[wilma-bride]

Thanks for the Welcome

What do you think is a good size wilma-bride?

Deborah

Deborah, good question. Personally, I think a good size is a size that you are happy with. Personally, I have been many sizes, from a 12/14 right up to size 22/24. I could never be a size 0 in a million years - I like my food too much and I'm just not built that way. I am at my happiest when I'm around a size 14/16 However, I happen to think one of the most attractive women (not that I'm attracted to women ) is Dawn French - she's a big girl but she carries it really well and I think she's happy with the way she looks so good for her

 

[DeborahS]

Deborah, good question. Personally, I think a good size is a size that you are happy with. Personally, I have been many sizes, from a 12/14 right up to size 22/24. I could never be a size 0 in a million years - I like my food too much and I'm just not built that way. I am at my happiest when I'm around a size 14/16 However, I happen to think one of the most attractive women (not that I'm attracted to women ) is Dawn French - she's a big girl but she carries it really well and I think she's happy with the way she looks so good for her

True, I think she is attractive because you see her being happy and confident in herself. If people are at ease with themselves then they are fun to be with and fun, happy people are attractive. She is the sort of person that you just know you would get on well with.

As someone said, Posh looks miserable and I think would be no fun to be with. She could look so much better if you put on a few pounds and wore a smile.

Good luck with your goal. Don't know what size you were in the family photo in your sig but you look fantastic in it - great photo.

Deborah

 

[Summer-Caitlin]

Well I definately want to lose weight, not only for health but it will make me feel much better too. I am getting married in 4 months and although I have lost quite alot, I am not used to having this extra weight. I find I tire more easily. A lot of it has to do with my irregular eating habits (skipping breakfast etc) but I also have PCOS and it's very hard to lose the weight. I bought a smaller wedding dress cause I need the pressure to lose it. I really am going to have to try harder, exercise more and eat healthier. However it is great to see someone happy with their body

 

[CustardTart]

Great thread! I'd love to be as unconcerned with my weight as you are, Deborah, but I'm rather small with a chubby face so every extra pound makes me look more like hamster than a human being! And believe me that's not a fashion look I can happily live with...

I know I look good and TBH I feel confident at the size I am, I just look better and feel more confident a dress size smaller. In addition, I have health complications that become more manageable the smaller I am. I have taken a long time to lose just over 2 stone and I have between 9 and 12lbs to go.

 

[ely3857]

Excellent thread Deborah and welcome to the dis

I am not quite at my heaviest as last year Gavin & myself both did really well dieting and losing weight slowly and we have kept almost all of that off but we did fall off the wagon least summer and havent got back on yet

The main reason for wanting to lose weight is health but my main block in losing weight is that I am not unhappy with my body so it is hard to find the motivation when I am confident and happy in myself

I do wish in spring and summer I could wear skimpy vest tops and nice summery skirts but then I remember when I was a size 8 and 8st 10lb I never wore stuff like that because I wasnt confident in myself (and I never smiled once as photo's show )



Jodie

 

[Spook]

Hi Deborah - welcome to the Dis. I think fluffy is a lovely word. It's good to hear that you are happy with your size. What is on the inside is more important that what is on the outside. I 'clerked' at WW meetings for years and saw some pretty unhappy people, mainly because they were unrealistic about weight loss. Size 0 people make me feel ill, it is just not natural - but having said that I need to lose about a stone because the weight I am at now is not natural for me either

Jan

 

[UKDEB]

Great thread! First of all, no-one cares what anyone else looks like, they only care about themselves. In itself that's bizzare because, if we accept that, why would anyone care what they looked like? Have I lost you yet? Thought so! Posh is a miserable stick insect. Everyone says so. Yet still she pouts and poses and gets skinnier by the minute. Everyone lauds Dawn French and Fern Britton, and, yes, they're lovely, fun (and rich ) people but, admit it, you don't actually want to look like them. Back to my opening gambit.

I hate being "fluffy". Hate, hate, hate it. Yet, I've spent a good proportion of my adult life (post kids, at least) in that state. Yo-yo dieter? Supercharged! I am unlucky - I see so many people who don't have to think twice about what passes their lips - but I know I'm in good company and I haven't been totally singled-out. I love my food, but there isn't a day goes by when I don't question what I'm about to eat. Not fun. During 2005, I lost over 3 stone and felt great. During 2006, I regained it all, thanks to 3 holidays. I did try to lose the weight I'd gained on holiday, but it wasn't happening. Over the Easter Weekend, I put on 5lbs in 2 days. I guarantee that none of the other people I spent that weekend with (and who consumed the same amount of calories as me) put on anywhere near that. Since then, I've been dieting and I haven't slipped once. Initially I lost 7lbs, but then for no reason at all, I gained 1lb two days on the trot. I'm exercising, not drinking and sticking to a sensible eating plan (around 1500 calories a day).

But it's not just about the way I look. At the moment I feel uncomfortable and unhealthy. I applaud you if you really are happy with yourself, Deborah, but I know I'm not going to be joining your crusade any time soon. I'm 46 and I know from bitter experience that no amount of positive thinking is going to change the way I feel about myself.

Funnily enough, elder dd and I were having a conversation earlier today about weight. Why is it that skinny people who eat themselves into oblivion have healthy appetites, but anyone who's overweight is greedy?

 

[jen_uk]

Well Im definately fluffy, no doubt about that! Im not happy being it either, my health is fine and I am actually quite fit, I walk my dog every day for miles. But I HATE the way I look, Im always worrying about the way I look and I think that people are always judging me. I had to have a really serious think before I decided to go to the last Dis meet because I was so worried what people would think if me.

 

[wilma-bride]

Im always worrying about the way I look and I think that people are always judging me. I had to have a really serious think before I decided to go to the last Dis meet because I was so worried what people would think if me.

Jen, bless you - if it's any consolation, I feel the same sometimes I am also paranoid about buying food (esp. sweets, chocolate and fattening foods) - I tend to think that people are looking at me and thinking 'No wonder she's so fat'

 

[Netty]

Well Im definately fluffy, no doubt about that! Im not happy being it either, my health is fine and I am actually quite fit, I walk my dog every day for miles. But I HATE the way I look, Im always worrying about the way I look and I think that people are always judging me. I had to have a really serious think before I decided to go to the last Dis meet because I was so worried what people would think if me.

Jen i have pmd you

 

[florida sun]

Im with you all on this one, 6 months of the year Im fluffy, then spend 2 months trying not to be so fluffy, 4 months Im a happy fluffless, then I go back to gaining the fluff. Gosh I confused myself then, in a word Yo Yo Dieter, well ok 3 words.

Great thread and welcome to the Dis Deborah

 

[jen_uk]

Jen, bless you - if it's any consolation, I feel the same sometimes I am also paranoid about buying food (esp. sweets, chocolate and fattening foods) - I tend to think that people are looking at me and thinking 'No wonder she's so fat'

Thanks Joh and Jeanette

BTW Joh at the dis meet you looked like you had a great figure.

 

[DeborahS]

Well Im definately fluffy, no doubt about that! Im not happy being it either, my health is fine and I am actually quite fit, I walk my dog every day for miles. But I HATE the way I look, Im always worrying about the way I look and I think that people are always judging me. I had to have a really serious think before I decided to go to the last Dis meet because I was so worried what people would think if me.

I am so sorry that you feel that way jen_uk. Obviosuly I have never met you, but all I can say is that you have a beautiful personality on these boards - so you MUST be a beautiful person.

People who judge others for how they look are idiots. The most beautiful/attractive part of anybody is their smile - a nice genuine smile makes anybody beautiful.

I hope that you find ways to improve your self image - you are healthy and popular and you don't want anything to get in the way of you getting out there and enjoying other peoples company.

My thoughts and my very best wishes are with you.

Deborah

 

[mark&sue]

Debbie

I feel exactly the same way as you. I know I am obsessed with my weight and have been since I was 12 years old. I weigh myself several times a day (work permitting). Since we got back from WDW in October I have not been able to lose any weight and have been walking to work.

I seem to binge eat lately, which i know is wrong but just can't stop myself.

I am happy though as just love being obsessed. If i am interested in anything I have to be obsessed with it.


Susan (obsessed with Disney, crocs and weekends!)

 

[Laurafoster]

I am always dieting but never seem to lose much weight. I lack motivation! I could do with loosing a stone but my biggest problem is that i love my food far far too much!!