Flower Delivery @ Work

[disneychrista]

I agree. The way I think of things is my DH treats me well 365 days a year so if all he does is wish me a Happy Birthday or Anniversary, etc without a card or gift It is ok. How he acts all of the time is what is important and that is what shows me he cares.

I agree with everything you said. Day to day is way more important than those few “special” occasions.

 

[mickeyboat]

Yes, several times, and just last week from my daughters for my birthday. I love it!

 

[ronandannette]

A few times, sure. Got some earlier this month for my B'day from my folks.
Neither was it a big deal, nor did it draw any attention - wanted or unwanted - towards me.

I’ve always wondered what goes on in those workplaces where a simple bouquet of flowers will bring the place to a stand-still. Too much time on people’s hands, I guess.

 

[disneychrista]

I’ve always wondered what goes on in those workplaces where a simple bouquet of flowers will bring the place to a stand-still. Too much time on people’s hands, I guess.

My guess is that it is pretty unique or unusual in many workplaces. In the two and a half years I’ve where I am now, as far as I know no flowers have been delivered. At my old employer of nearly 21 years I can only remember maybe 3 times that someone got flowers or similar.

 

[bjscheel]

Yes, every birthday, anniversary, and Valentine's. It's DH's go-to gift and he doesn't have to think of any new ideas . But also it's keeping up tradition- from the time we started dating till we got married he sent flowers every Friday. I have all of the message cards saved, with the date written on the back.

 

[1GoldenSun]

I would hate that and I'm thankful my husband realizes this.

 

[tzolkin]

DH is of the opinion that you get double points for flowers if you send them to the office, because there is added social cred that accrues: he also likes the idea of total strangers also thinking that he's a good spouse, LOL.

I thought people tend to assume the opposite... "What did he do that he needs to apologize for?"

I would hate that and I'm thankful my husband realizes this.

Me too. I hate attention like that and I also get stressed about things that are a waste of money (flowers aren't necessarily a waste of money if the recipient enjoys them, but they would be for me). My husband has always worked with all women and they always try to convince him that I need/want/expect things that I do not. It took him a few years to realize that I was being genuine when I told him that I really dislike gifts.

 

[disneychrista]

My husband has always worked with all women and they always try to convince him that I need/want/expect things that I do not. It took him a few years to realize that I was being genuine when I told him that I really dislike gifts.

I guess a lot of women do need/want/expect things. Like you I not only don’t and dislike them. I used to joke with the guys at the ale house (where I used to work) that I would be the perfect girlfriend when they would sit at the bar complaining about having to buy valentines or birthday gifts. I’d rather have the gift of someone’s presence than a present.

 

[Snowysmom]

DH has never sent flowers to work. I would not like the attention it would attract. Whenever a coworker would get flowers everyone would gather and ask questions. No thanks. I get flowers on birthday, anniversary, and Christmas. Sometimes I even help pick them out so he won't get me something expensive like long stem red roses which I don't like. I have told him many times not to get me those but he thought I was kidding I guess. I prefer the large colorful flowers and daisies.

 

[tzolkin]

I guess a lot of women do need/want/expect things. Like you I not only don’t and dislike them. I used to joke with the guys at the ale house (where I used to work) that I would be the perfect girlfriend when they would sit at the bar complaining about having to buy valentines or birthday gifts. I’d rather have the gift of someone’s presence than a present.

Yes, my husband still gets questions and comments from his coworkers. Like, "What did you buy Tzolkin for Valentines Day?" "What did you plan for your anniversary?" Etc. If he says, "Nothing" they freak out and tell him that "even though she says she doesn't want anything, she really does" or "she's going to be upset/disappointed/etc"...

Somehow even though most of these people have never met me they seem to think they know my reactions and expectations better than my husband does after knowing me for 25 years. I'm very direct about my feelings and I'm also very practical and frugal. If I really want something I'd rather just buy it myself and I actually prefer hanging out at a brewery and eating from a food truck than going out to an "anniversary" dinner.

 

[BennyBoyWrench]

Mrs Wrench gets flowers at work on random days and on proper occasions. She works in a predominantly female Vet Practice and, although an introvert, loves getting flowers. It brightens her day and those around, plus it makes the place look pretty. To date, nobody has sent flowers to me.

 

[disneychrista]

To date, nobody has sent flowers to me.

Mrs. Wrench better get with it.

 

[Chaitali]

The first year or two after college, my mom sent me flowers to the office on my birthday And I've gotten gift baskets from clients. But that's it. My husband know that I wouldn't really be into that.

 

[JimMIA]

A woman who used to work for me would occasionally send herself flowers "anonymously" to get her boyfriend worried. To my utter amazement, they are still together to this day.

When DW and I were dating, she encouraged DW to do the same....

DW just laughed it off, and told me, lol.

 

[mi*vida*loca]

Once or twice from my XH.

I wisened up and my SO now only gets flowers from the produce place or a local grocery store that seems to have the prettiest long lasting flowers.

I worked with a girl that was about to get married. Her fiancé sent her the most gorgeous bouquet of roses. Had to be 3-4 dozen red roses. With a note that said “I can’t wait until you become my wife.” They we’re getting married in 6 weeks. It definitely was a show stopper since it took up almost her entire desk.

Well 5 weeks later he called the entire thing off. I’m usually not the type who feels really bad for people but she broke my heart. She was devastated. I’m still convinced he sent the roses because he cheated around the time.

 

[QueenIsabella]

My DH used to send me flowers at work, for my birthday or an anniversary or just because--maybe once or twice a year. I'm an engineer, and it would annoy my (male) co-workers, because they said DH made them look bad. Since I became a SAHM, he's sent them a few times, too. I can't say I'm a huge fan--I'm too pragmatic, I think of what else the money could be used for.

What I DID really appreciate was, when he found a fire dept. that was doing a rose fundraiser. They would get an entire truckload of roses, and then sell bouquets of a dozen for $5 each. DH would typically get 3 dozen--one for me, one for each of our girls. It was a win all around. In upstate NY, there were a couple of fire depts. that did this every Valentine's Day.

 

[DisneyHardin]

DH has sent me flowers to work tons of times. I always enjoyed the surprise. A few years ago I told him to stop though because they are so expensive, but secretly, I do miss it.

 

[disykat]

A few times back in my single days. Usually they were not particularly welcome. I'm not a fan of the big gesture and I have allergies. My DH sent flowers once and all my coworkers immediately started counting days until a proposal and planning a wedding because I didn't freak out about "why is he sending me flowers?" (It was small, tasteful, and had flowers that I'm not allergic to. It was a mug arrangement and I still have the mug they came in.)