Don't miss rides for our family (me, DH48 and DS9) are:
At Universal:
ET, Men in Black, Earthquake, Back to the Future (although this is a rough, simulator ride its brilliant)
At IOA:
Do not miss Spiderman under any circumstances! When you arrive at the park go straight to it and get a fastpass for later in the day. Jurassic Park is great (you might get a little wet at the end).
Hope that helps!