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[magicmouse2]

After over. 18 yrs together and numerous tries I have to admit my marriage is over. I was with my partner from a very young age. We have 3 kids age 18 12 and 10. Things were difficult from the start. I wanted kids, he didnt. I wanted to settle, he didnt. I tried my best but after 2 weeks of living alone, and over a year of feeling things were not right, I have to accept things are over. He does not love me anymore. We have grown very much apart. He has kept his circle of friends whereas I have rejected mine in order to make things work. I just hope I can find the strength to go on. If anyone can offer any words of wisdom my ears are open. Thankyou.

 

[kimis]

You are in my prayers. When you look at your children you will get the strength to carry on. What about couseling? Can anybody at your church help you? Call your old friends. They will understand and it will probably be like you never left. Stay busy so you can sleep at night easier. The most important thing is that you do what is best for you and your children. Again hang in there. We are here when and if you want to vent!

 

[Mackey Mouse]

You have three children who need you and you will find the strength. Sometimes people think they cannot handle things and are surprised when they can... You stay strong, we are here to help if you need a shoulder. Get yourself some good representation and go forward, do not look back. Sounds to me like you truly tried.. Hugs..

 

[Luckymomoftwo]

You will find the strength if you allow yourself to. My mom and step father divorced after 18 years of marriage and my mom went into this deep dark depression. It took her several years to come out of it. My brother and sister were in grade school and middle school and they rebelled sooooo badly. She wishes she had handled it differently because my brother and sister would have probably taken different roads in their lives had she been there more for them during their early teen years. But, life went on, my mom and step father became better friends after the divorce was all finalized than they had been the entire time they were married. They both remarried and remained friends. Maybe the same will happen for you.

It may seem like there is no tomorrow for you right now, but there is. Stay strong for your children, they are hurting right now, too. Try to get in touch with your old friends, if they were true friends they will be glad to hear from you. I hope you find the support you are seeking, I know a lot of churches offer support groups for people who are in your situation.

 

[magicmouse2]

Thankyou all so much that really helped.

 

[nannerbadnanner]

I am so sorry. I do agree with the poster who said to get good representation. Please do call your friends. I am sure they miss you. It sounds like you did everything you could to make your marriage. When you feel angry or upset, please remember that.