First Communion

[belle22]

Do girl's wear veils these days? How did you have the hair? Any ideas would be great

 

[marycaym]

At the time my daughter's made their first communion, in 2007 and 2005 they had to wear a veil, it was not an option per the note that came home from school. DD#1, her veil came from the store we bought her dress from, DD#2 (my tomboy), her veil was from ebay, it was dirt cheap even w/shipping and very very simple - i saw one I liked on ebay, emailed the woman directly explained what I wanted, the one on ebay had flowers + bow, we only wanted a bow, she gave me a price and we were done.

Good luck, first communion was alot more stressful than I ever thought it would be - shopping, dress was hard, shoes were a nightmare! rehearsals - even though they went to catholic school and the church was right next door - all the rehearsals were in the evening! pictures, the who is going to get there early to save seats, lunch after the communion -phew I am exhausted again just thinking about it again!

Enjoy!

 

[okeydokey]

It's up to the parents in my church if they want their girl to wear one or not. My priest actually discourages it and would rather they dress simply. We have had some girls make first communion in pink dresses too. I got a barrette with a white bow and tied the top part of her hair back in that. Others have used a white headband, and some do use veils.

 

[TreslovesWDW]

I guess it is up to your church. Both my daughters wore veils. I curled and put my daughters hair up in a bun w/ the curls around the bun, my other daughter had sort of a long bob so I put her hair in curls, brushed them slightly and parted to the side. The veil looked great on both of them. My son is making his this year so glad I don't have to worry about hair..lol

 

[woodkins]

All of the girls here wear veils, mostly with tiara type crowns. My dd is making her communion this year and wants a tiara with veil. We got her dress already most girls here wear ankle lenth gowns. People tend to go all out here.

 

[mjkacmom]

All of the girls here wear veils, mostly with tiara type crowns. My dd is making her communion this year and wants a tiara with veil. We got her dress already most girls here wear ankle lenth gowns. People tend to go all out here.

LOL - just had to check where you live (I'm in NE NJ) because that's how it is here, too. I did not allow dd13 to get a tiara, though (her dress had enough bling - LOL), but she did have a veil with a bow. I had to buy another ($165) dress for my next dd, because she needed a 6, and her sister wore a 7 (hopefully dd7 can wear one of them). I actually had dd8's hair done in curls because her hair is so fine, and doesn't look great down. Lots of girls get updo's.

 

[talulabelle]

I think it depends on where you live and what the trend is. I know there is no requirment by the Catholic Church to wear one and it is optional. It is also optional to wear white. I have even seen girls wear pink and floral. It is traditional for girls to wear white and veils and I think most do because, well because they are GIRLS and most girls love an occasion to look fancy. Abouth ten years ago when my neices were making their First Communions, veils were sort of out of style and EVERYONE wore a crown of flowers instead. Now, I think that is sort of getting over-used around here and veils are coming back. I personally didn't want my daughter to wear one when she made ehrs a few years ago, because I just didn't want her to look like a little miniature bride, I wanted her to look like a little girl. (just my personal choice) She wore a plain and simple but gorgeous raw silk dress with a crenolin under to poof out the skirt and one simple sash that tied in the back. I pulled the front of her long hair pack into a barrette that I had glued raw silk matching flowers from Michaels on to with lovely ribbons coming out of it that was the exact length of her hair. She felt really special and stood out from all of the girls wearing veils.

 

[DVCBELLE]

Most of the girls where I live wear fancy dresses and veils and some sort of tiara or flower crown. Our church has recently started having 1st Communion during mass and the kids just sit in the front row and go up with everyone else to make it. They make it seem like the day is not important at all - so I intend to make sure my dd knows how important it is by making a big deal about what she wears and our family celebration of the event.

 

[woodkins]

LOL - just had to check where you live (I'm in NE NJ) because that's how it is here, too. I did not allow dd13 to get a tiara, though (her dress had enough bling - LOL), but she did have a veil with a bow. I had to buy another ($165) dress for my next dd, because she needed a 6, and her sister wore a 7 (hopefully dd7 can wear one of them). I actually had dd8's hair done in curls because her hair is so fine, and doesn't look great down. Lots of girls get updo's.

So funny because I was going to write that I am from Long Island....things here always seem to be bigger and more over the top in the tri-state area! We just bought the dress ($330!! ) thank goodness Grandma paid for that one!! Most girls here do updo's as well, we are doing dd's half up half down all curls with a very tiny tiara style crown (not really blingy just metal).
You should have seen the mom's running out of the meeting when we got the communion dates, they were racing to the catering halls and restaurants to fight over the date!

 

[Donnainnj]

My girls are 16 and 12 now so your MMV, but we actually were given the veil by the church with our fee for the sacrament. I think we paid $50, got the veil, a little purse with prayer book, etc. Most of the other churches had a fee of $100 and did not receive the veil. I had already purchased one for my older daughter before finding out they provided it. If you are watching your budget many of the church thrift shops offer dresses and veils (used just once) and ours also collects dresses to provide for those in need.
Donna

 

[mominwestlake]

I have a ds who is making his First Communion this year so no veils here! My DDs did wear veils though as did almost all the girls. I know one of their veils had a pearl tiara. We are at a big parish in Ohio. Parents go over the top. Trying to get a seat at the group Communion is insane. We also have the choice to have it at a regular mass. There might be 4 -8 children making their First Communion and you get a pew or 2 reserved for your family. We always take this option and have a party at our home after.

 

[weewuvvdisney]

At our Church, all the children (boys & Girls) who are having their First Communion wear white gowns over their clothes. They also have a felt scarf that they wear that has the symbols of First Communion. Each grade level of Sunday classes has a different color that they wear. The girls are asked to not wear veils.

It doesn't matter whether the family spends a fortune on a dress or a children wears a second hand dress. They are all the same as they have their First Communion.

There is usually a Pot Luck Lunch in the Hall downstairs after the service. Each family is asked to bring something. Since there are children from many different ethnic background, the lunches are very interesting.

All our family and friends who have come for her FC and Confirmation have told us that they enjoyed the atmosphere.

 

[kim929]

My dd are 20 and 16 but they both wore a veil. My 16 yo had a beautiful tiara as that what was the "in" thing. My oldest had a pearl tiara. I was going to cut down my veil from my wedding and make them one but my mother bought them their own. My dd16 wore her veil everyday for a long time. When I went to my bff son's first communion last year about half the girls wore veils. My ds is making his this year and I live in an area where they like to out do the each other so it will be interesting to see how the little girls look. Boys are easy. Now my question is what grade does your child make their first communion? All my older children made it in the 2nd grade, but we are at a new church and they make it in the 3rd grade.

 

[eduk8r26]

Here on the West Coast at our church, it's traditional dress--black pants and tie and white shirt for boys and white dress and veil for the girls. The Religious Ed. director sets the rules.

 

[tommya60]

The Church sets the rules, here in CA it was (and is) white dresses, veils, no gloves. DD actually wore my crown style headpeice, veil was serged by my Aunt, so special to DD. Her dress was a gift from her Godparents (found at an outlet the year before--fairly simple A line with a sheer overskirt). Since First Communion was in June that year, folks had time to shop the sales. DD has longish blond hair, I pulled it up in a ponytail on top of her head and then curled it with a curling iron and about a can of hair spray. Hair stayed put through the ceremony, pictures, the party at home (afternoon) and into the evening. I didn't touch it all day--very easy. Check Target for shoes, they should be out any time now.

 

[okeydokey]

At our Church, all the children (boys & Girls) who are having their First Communion wear white gowns over their clothes. They also have a felt scarf that they wear that has the symbols of First Communion. Each grade level of Sunday classes has a different color that they wear. The girls are asked to not wear veils.

It doesn't matter whether the family spends a fortune on a dress or a children wears a second hand dress. They are all the same as they have their First Communion.

There is usually a Pot Luck Lunch in the Hall downstairs after the service. Each family is asked to bring something. Since there are children from many different ethnic background, the lunches are very interesting.

All our family and friends who have come for her FC and Confirmation have told us that they enjoyed the atmosphere.

This sounds like a lovely event and really shows the sense of community I wish more churches had. Ours is a very small rural parish and we are a tight knit group, a wonderful community and it is the first church I ever belonged to that actually feels like family. Yours sounds the same.

 

[NeedaVacation03]

At our church we do veils ( although the priest is not 100% happy with it) but no gloves. I have organized it for the past 8 years and have only had one girl not wear a white dress. She looked very beautiful in the pink dress she wore. The boys usually wear dark pants, jacket optional. But we do have some who wear tan pants. It is held during our regular Mass times, but most people who do not have kids involved try to avoid those Mass times. We tried to do it at one mass only, but we ended up with 800 people in a space for 550. It was a mess. So now we have it at 2 masses on the same weekend.

 

[mjkacmom]

Most of the girls where I live wear fancy dresses and veils and some sort of tiara or flower crown. Our church has recently started having 1st Communion during mass and the kids just sit in the front row and go up with everyone else to make it. They make it seem like the day is not important at all - so I intend to make sure my dd knows how important it is by making a big deal about what she wears and our family celebration of the event.

At our church, 1st Communion is always with a regular Mass. There are 4 times a year, in May and June, and you pick your date. Every child (usually about 25) gets a pew up front for their family, Mass is said, and then the children and their parents are brought up front behind the alter for a special service, the children recieve communion, and then everyone else does. Baptisms are the same.

Oh, and boys wear either blue or white suits (not mandatory, just what they do).

 

[pklein09]

When DD 13 received, the girls looked like little brides, way over the top. When DS12 received the next year, it was toned down a bit. When DD11 received, the tide had turned, and the girls' dresses were much simpler, no flowers, no gloves. The veil I bought for my daughters was from Cash's of Ireland (we're half Irish). It was Irish lace that secured with a comb. It was understated and elegant. I had many compliments on it at both services. They each needed their own dress, though; different body types.

When DS9 received last year, they had about 160 children receive communion. They had 2 group masses on a Saturday. And it was sheer bedlam. For my other 3 children, the size of the classes was about the same, but they gave a choice of 3 group services or during Mass.

 

[woodkins]

At least our church finally wised up that the other parishoners were not happy having 70 kids receiving communion at each mass. We now do communions at 11am on a Saturday, 70 kids per session for 5 weeks. They ask the children to wear their dresses to a regular mass the following week to be recognized by the congregation.