grinningghost
<font color=green>Has a thing for the Swiss Family
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OK. Here's what happened yesterday, and I HOPE this is the end of this ugly little situation.
He called her. And I listened in. He told her that he wouldn't be calling or texting anymore because "my wife saw all my text messages, and after looking at them, they looked pretty bad."
Her reaction was basically disbelief. How could your wife possibly misconstrue those messages as anything other than "friends"? I can't use the language she used here on the DIS, but there were alot of F bombs and heavy sighs.
I give him some credit though because everytime she said "I feel really bad. Why the H does she think that way?", he would reply with "like I said, I looked at them, and they looked pretty bad". He never said anything like "I know, she's imagining things" - he pretty much was admitting he was a jerk and his marriage was more important than she was.
We then had a LONG discussion about the whole mess and he emphasized that all contact is over. No more, unless they run into each other at work, and he's promised me that it will be a passing "hello" and nothing more - no more complaining about work together, no more anything. I truly believe he's being sincere. He seems to feel real remorse for what he's done.
Our marriage has always been rock solid, and I don't know what will happen from here, but I think we're handling it.
Thanks for all the advice, support, etc. I really don't know what I would have done without it - it got me through - really it did.
The only thing that worries me now, is her telling everyone they work with what happened. I hope she doesn't - but I guess that's something DH will have to deal with on his own if it happens. That's not my problem.
Thanks all!
He called her. And I listened in. He told her that he wouldn't be calling or texting anymore because "my wife saw all my text messages, and after looking at them, they looked pretty bad."
Her reaction was basically disbelief. How could your wife possibly misconstrue those messages as anything other than "friends"? I can't use the language she used here on the DIS, but there were alot of F bombs and heavy sighs.
I give him some credit though because everytime she said "I feel really bad. Why the H does she think that way?", he would reply with "like I said, I looked at them, and they looked pretty bad". He never said anything like "I know, she's imagining things" - he pretty much was admitting he was a jerk and his marriage was more important than she was.
We then had a LONG discussion about the whole mess and he emphasized that all contact is over. No more, unless they run into each other at work, and he's promised me that it will be a passing "hello" and nothing more - no more complaining about work together, no more anything. I truly believe he's being sincere. He seems to feel real remorse for what he's done.
Our marriage has always been rock solid, and I don't know what will happen from here, but I think we're handling it.
Thanks for all the advice, support, etc. I really don't know what I would have done without it - it got me through - really it did.
The only thing that worries me now, is her telling everyone they work with what happened. I hope she doesn't - but I guess that's something DH will have to deal with on his own if it happens. That's not my problem.
Thanks all!
