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- Apr 5, 2011
To people that say they are worried about being pregnant because of what it does to your body I don't get that argument. I've never met a fit woman who gets pregnant and then goes back to her daily exercise routine who curses their children for what they did to their body. If a baby changes your perfect body so much that you can't get it back age will do the same thing. If it isn't stretch marks now it will be wrinkles later that changes it. I'm only wondering about this argument because I want to know where this idea that once you have babies you can't get back to your pre-baby self comes from.
There is a huge difference between what it can do to your figure and what it can do to your body. A change in your figure will happen eventually, no matter what.. this is true. Things happening to your body, like preeclampsia, eclampsia, DIC, gestational diabetes, hemorrhage, are things that are not going to happen UNLESS you are pregnant (with the exception of DIC or hemorrhage which aren't exclusive to pregnancy). I know the OP was mentioning a woman worried about her figure.. but if someone says they're worried about their body, it can mean any number of things, IMO.
My mother lost more than one baby, had two very hard pregnancies (one was twins) and nearly died twice. It didn't stop me or my sisters from having children. There is not too many *desires* stronger IMO than when a woman wants to have a baby! When (if) you reach that point, then you will not think of *what could happen* but will just want to get pregnant with your baby (this is saying that their is nothing medically wrong, of course). This opinion comes with lots of experiences. There will always be exceptions.
Can't understand vanity/sacrifice of pregnancy discomfort, whatever, having a stronger pull than wanting to have your own baby, if you truly want one, but you say you feel that way, so guess there is.
Good for you and your sisters? Not trying to sound rude or snotty but just because you and your sisters were willing to take the risk does not mean that everybody would be comfortable taking it, or that they should feel less for not wanting to take that kind of a risk. Everyone takes past experiences and the effect they have on their lives in different ways. I get where you are coming from.. I just don't feel that you going through with a pregnancy despite a family history of complications during pregnancy makes my desire to NOT go through one invalid.