Feelings about defending other DISers?

[rt2dz]

Ok, I don't see how you were rude to the OP w/o smilies. But I don't see too much of a dig on you either, until post 25, and even that wasn't much. I wouldn't worry about it. You didn't do anything wrong & others didn't jump in to defend you, imo, because the OP didn't jump on you horribly but came off as slightly sensative and that is one better left alone, usually.

Does any of that make sense?

 

[rt2dz]

Just wanted to add that I stand in awe of you. I block the signatures and rarely look over to the left to see who is posting--I wouldn't know if I had a tag. I think its kind of...nice...of you to track the posts and follow what is going on for someone. You can probably be a lot more helpful that way.

 

[Ladyhawke10]

Yes--thanks for the view--which seems very objective

 

[Ladyhawke10]

Just wanted to add that I stand in awe of you. I block the signatures and rarely look over to the left to see who is posting--I wouldn't know if I had a tag. I think its kind of...nice...of you to track the posts and follow what is going on for someone. You can probably be a lot more helpful that way.

Oh my gosh, thank you. BTW, My response before this was to your assessment of the thread..I should have quoted you.

 

[CheshireVal]

I think maybe both you and the OP of that other thread overreacted just a bit.

 

[rt2dz]

I got it.

I'm still not sure if "nice" is the right word. Considerate? Kind? Thoughtful? Any how, I think it is a step above & beyond.

I'm just not that nice of a person.

 

[Ladyhawke10]

I just checked out the "not nice" thread and it is a perfect example of how an innocent comment can be taken the wrong way and then it gets worse from there. Don't live DIS over something like this. We love you here.

Thank you! I definitely feel less stressed this week than I did last week.

 

[Planogirl]

Ladyhawke, I personally think that you let it bother you too much. The OP seemed to have an awfully hard time making up her mind and it appears like she might have taken some of that frustration out on you. If I were you, I would have just brushed off her comments and let her keep changing her mind without your help. You are obviously very knowledgeable and there are plenty on the boards who would love your help! One unfortunate aspect of these boards is that people are all too willing to make nasty comments but rarely seem to remember to say thank you.

As for me, I have a really thick skin and it takes a lot to insult me nowadays. When I first came to the DisBoards I worried a lot though. You see it all here, both good and bad, and even some of those I disagree with on a regular basis have become at least acquaintances over time.

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

As for me, I have a really thick skin and it takes a lot to insult me nowadays. When I first came to the DisBoards I worried a lot though. You see it all here, both good and bad, and even some of those I disagree with on a regular basis have become at least acquaintances over time.

I'm the same way, although I try my best to stay away from real estate threads on here. Invariably someone will insult real estate agents and I have hard time keeping the ol' trap shut.

Sometimes you've got to learn to step back and stay out of it. It helps keep me sane. And nice.

 

[pearlieq]

I think maybe both you and the OP of that other thread overreacted just a bit.

Thanks kind of the impression I got too. It looks like the OP took the lighthearted comment about changing her mind a lot a bit too seriously, but I honestly think you made too much of it and then got a little off-putting by posting more than once asking for her (and then anyone) to respond to you and/or make you feel better. Also, a lot of people react to a threat to leave with more apathy/annoyance than sympathy. I personally don't really keep track of whose questions I answer or feel like they owe me any gratitude for the answer. We all ask/answer things and it all evens out. It sounds like you took the lack of response to your comments personally--I think the OP might have just been a little annoyed since she might have wanted to drop it but you kept posting and demanding attention.

I don't know how open you are to someone else's perspective on the situation, but that's how I saw it. Some people just don't read as much in to their interactions here and don't take them so personally.

Anyway, I hope you can find a way to interact here where you'll be able to help people (like you seem so willing and able to do ) without setting yourself up to get hurt.

 

[Ladyhawke10]

Ladyhawke, I personally think that you let it bother you too much. The OP seemed to have an awfully hard time making up her mind and it appears like she might have taken some of that frustration out on you. If I were you, I would have just brushed off her comments and let her keep changing her mind without your help. You are obviously very knowledgeable and there are plenty on the boards who would love your help! One unfortunate aspect of these boards is that people are all too willing to make nasty comments but rarely seem to remember to say thank you.

As for me, I have a really thick skin and it takes a lot to insult me nowadays. When I first came to the DisBoards I worried a lot though. You see it all here, both good and bad, and even some of those I disagree with on a regular basis have become at least acquaintances over time.

Yes, it's amazing sometimes the range of opinions you can see in just one thread. Sometimes I can't believe what some people say...and then other times I find out this great info about a resort that I already thought I knew about...there's a lot of diversity and a wealth of info...but you have to put up with stuff, too, I guess sometimes

 

[disney4us2002]

Let me say I haven't read all four pages of posts but I think there are a few factors keeping people from getting "close". The number of posters who consider themselves regulars on this board is pretty big. For instance, you (OP) called yourself a regular and I honestly don't recognize your name at all. I consider myself a regular as well and I probably only post two or three times per day if that and not always on the CB. I tend to read a lot more than post. I belonged to a smaller group on ivillage a few years back and we got very close, even went as far as doing Christmas/birthday exchanges, phones and addresses, etc. That was probably 25 or so women. The number of posters here must be 200+ and just an interest in Disney is not really much of a common interest. The ones I tend to remember are the ones I feel some other similarities with such as, other mothers with all boys, definitely the conservatives, people who list their location as MD, DC, VA, etc.

I thought a few years ago that I'd get closer by joining in the exchanges but even then there are just so many that I couldn't even tell you now whose name I had or who sent me something, lol.

Part of the downside of the size of a community like the Dis is that it is sooo big and there are so many different opinions and thoughts out there. Interestingly, that is also an upside of a community this big.

 

[Planogirl]

Yes, it's amazing sometimes the range of opinions you can see in just one thread. Sometimes I can't believe what some people say...and then other times I find out this great info about a resort that I already thought I knew about...there's a lot of diversity and a wealth of info...but you have to put up with stuff, too, I guess sometimes

I think it's because so many of the posts are just opinions and should probably be taken with a grain of salt.

When I see someone say that the Polynesian (my personal favorite) is dirty, smelly, dark and so on, I realize that these are just opinions and not necessarily true. It may be true to them but perhaps won't be true to others. But someone like the OP of that other thread will take it to heart and thus keeps changing her mind.

When I ask about a resort, I want to know about the amenites and get a general overall sense of what the place is like. I let the insulting opinions slide so I rarely change my mind.

 

[Ladyhawke10]

When I see someone say that the Polynesian (my personal favorite) is dirty, smelly, dark and so on, I realize that these are just opinions and not necessarily true. It may be true to them but perhaps won't be true to others. But someone like the OP of that other thread will take it to heart and thus keeps changing her mind.
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I just tried the Poly last month--it was great!

I think the poster is just interested in seeing the responses to her threads by now...but who knows. I've dis-invested from the situation.

 

[cardaway]

I think maybe both you and the OP of that other thread overreacted just a bit.

Overreacted and overuse of the term "flame". I have seen very few people "flamed" on this board. People get "flamed" on unmoderated boards. Obviously that isn't the case given the heavy moderation here.

More often than not, the people I see saying they got "flamed" are the ones who open it up for opinions.

 

[Ladyhawke10]

More often than not, the people I see saying they got "flamed" are the ones who open it up for opinions.

Yes, I've seen lots of threads started by OPs who only seemed to want responses from people who agreed with them.