Feeling left out of the family :(

[Johnfish]

This has been a rough afternoon. Recently I feel like my son and I are being snubbed by my brothers family. Particular my nephew and sister in law. This is a very tough situation for me as I have been a single parent for 7 years now and we have always been a close family. I wont go into all the details but there has been a pattern of behaviour on their part that has made my DS and I feel less and less like we mean anything to them. Its especially tough on me as I have few friends and these people really mean the world to me. Im not sure what to do at this point. I guess I just had to vent.


John

 

[Lars624]

 

[poohbear1029]

I agree with Laura

Not knowing all the details, is it possible they dont realize they are doing this to you? I am very sensitive and always assume if someone is not talking to me they must hate me or be mad at me. Maybe something else is going on. Do you feel comfortable enough to just casually say, hey, havent seen you in a while, want to get together?

Hope everything works out for the best! I'm sure being a single parent is hard enough without dealing with family stuff!

 

[dg39]

Call them and ask them point blank what the problem is. Be truthfull of your feelings and say it nicely. Do it as soon as you can, know what you want to say. The longer you wait, the harder it will be for you to call. Once all is said and done, you'll feel better and feel like part of the family again. Alot of times things are said without realizing and when no one speaks up, feelings get hurt. Good luck....

 

[Johnfish]

Thanks Lars624 I needed that!. Its terrible Im 46 years old and I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes im so heart broken.

JOhn

 

[Johnfish]

Thanks for all the advice. I think I hurt worst because of the way my son is being treated. My nephew was staying with us over the weekend while his parents were away. He is 16 and my son is 16. My nephew said he had a date on saturday and sunday night. So my son was who was looking forward to spending some time with him was left out of the activities. Understandable if its a date. Come to find out my nephew went with a large group of friends that included this girl. He never thought to include Matt. This also is happening again tonight. I tried to talk the my sister in law about this and she says I am being unreasonable and she has been very short with me. If this was an isolated incident it would be one thing but things like this has happended many times before. I guess my son and I are just not that important to either of them. I have tried talking to her about it and she has said I am being overly sensitive. I dont know maybe I am but their attitude and behavior sure hasnt improved.


John

 

[Lars624]

John,
Anytime you need to vent we're all here to listen

 

[Johnfish]

John,
Anytime you need to vent we're all here to listen

Thanks again. These boards have been so good to me. I have had to wonderfull trips because of all the great people out there.

John

 

[we3disneygo]

 

[Lars624]

I have a 16 y/o son named Matt too

I think often times people are too quick to say that someone is being overly sensitive. It's easier to blame the person who feels bad than to admit that maybe you've had a part in hurting their feelings.

 

[Gramto6inPa]

 

[simba928]

I know what its like to feel left out of the family. My cousin who is 6 monthes younger than me is the perfect, cheerleader type. She is clearly the favorite in the family and when she is around, I get ignored.

 

[Pin Wizard]

So sorry about it. Have you asked your relatives directly? You probaably won't know for sure unless you ask.

My sister and I aren't on great terms either. What is it with them? But she did manage to leave a message on my recorder today that she has some pretty good news. Call me psychic...I'm expecting her to say she got married again. ACK! I'm not in the mood to hear this. Think I'll stay online (dial up) so she can't get me tonight. LOL! Single parent 12.5 years here myself.

Couldn't hurt to ask!

 

[Mimi Q]

 

[disneydreamer98]

Maybe it's a SIL thing....I have an evil one that's married to my Brother!