Feeling homesick & haven't even left yet. Help please. :(

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

I'm hoping some of you can understand and give me some words of encouragement.

On Monday of last week, a girlfriend and I were jokingly talking about going to Disney, Impromptu style which has long been a dream of mine. To throw caution to the wind and just go to the place I love best. DF has never been. But, we both knew we couldn't really do it.

Well, by Thursday this dream of ours grew feet and is now a reality!!!!!!!! We are leaving tomorrow for 4 days in the World!! It will be me, DF (darling friend), and DF's 2 sons 8 and 1.

I should be excited, exstatic even but alas I am crying all day!!!

Disney is my and DH's special place. We love going together, we own DVC points, but DH and I were not going to go this year. He loves it but isn't addicted as I am and he wants to get the bills paid off. Anyway, I have some extra money from a little side job I did and DH thought that it would be great if DF and I did go. This way, he could stick to his plan and I would get what I want too. But, I am really starting to feel homesick and I haven't even left yet.

I'm feeling guilty for going w/out him, and I'm feeling guilty for not taking my money and putting it towards the debt but am instead running off for fun at the World while he stays and works. He's not understanding me at all!

He said, "I told you No all year and then this opportunity arises and I tell you yes you can go because it won't deter us from our plan and you're still not happy. I don't know what else to do."

Do any of you understand how I am feeling. Have any of you left you Darling loved one like this?

Thanks for any of your advice and words.

By the way, we do not have any children yet (although we desperately want them).

 

[elfbo]

You dont need to fret. Your DH will be fine. But he wont be fine if he has to worry about you your whole trip. He chose not to go, but chose to let you go because it would make you happy, but you are not happy. So you either need to decide to be happy and go, or if you are going to be unhappy stay home, because you dont want to ruin your friend's vacation as well.

Its hard to leave DH for a trip, specially if its the first time, but you will be ok, and he will be ok. I have gone on a few trips with out my DH (mostly to see my family) and he had fun staying home and hanging out with the guys that I dont want to hang out with. Give your DH a break and get happy and go to disney!

 

[KristinU]

I had the opportunity to tack a visit on to a business trip a couple of years ago and my DH for some reason or another couldn't meet me down there...so I decided to go by myself, then about a week beforehand my mom found great airfare and met me for a girls' weekend! I had similar feelings as you do, but once I was there it was great! We had a really great girls only weekend and DH certainly didn't have hard feelings at all - he was glad I went...as I'm sure yours will be too! A couple of ways to look at it to make yourself feel better: 1. You will be "scouting" for great stuff for you and your DH to do on your next trip together and 2. (if you're a shopper) you'll get the shopping bug out of your system before the next trip with your DH.

Have a great time!

 

[mad4themouse]

Your DH sounds like a wonderful, selfless guy and you're a lucky lady to have him! He wants you to go or else he would say otherwise. He obviously sees how much WDW means to you and it will give him pleasure to know that you're enjoying yourself. And on the other hand, enjoying this little indulgence now will give you the will to put extra money towards your debt later. Go, have a good time and bring back a special gift for him.

 

[bridgettesmom]

I did this on May 2003 with my best friend. We planed our trip in 2 weeks. The day we were leaving DH drove me to her house and I started to cry like a little girl and I cried all the way to the airport. I did not want to leave him, I wanted to stay home. I ended going, because I felt bad for my best friend and I did not want her to go alone. As soon as I got in the plane I was feeling better and we started to make plans of what we would do when we got to DW. Guess what?? I ended up not missing him at all!! well, maybe a little bit We had such a great time that when we returned we made plans to return last October. Unfortunately, she could not go and I ended up going with my niece and my mom and once again we had a wonderful time. Would I do it again? In a heartbeat!! Don't get me wrong, I love going to DW with my husband ,we went last December and we are going again in October, but, been able to go with the girls.. priceless

 

[canwegosoon]

Great guy ...I would think of it like this...if he came to you and said he has this great trip he has to go on, you would encourage him to go...wouldn't you? He will be a little sad to see you go, but he wants you to have a good time because it's important to you.... Go and have fun, try to see Disney throught the DF's children's eyes....and enjoy Wishes

 

[princess pooh]

Your husband seems so sweet and understanding

I was in the same position as you. My BF couldn't take time off of work so he suggested I go to WDW with my mom. I missed him terribly but I still had an amazing time. I got to relax and reconnect with my mom, and he got some peace and quiet for a few days I had such a great time that I hope to do it again soon.

I hope you have a great time with your friend

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

Thanks!!! You guys are THEEEEEEE BEST!!!!!!

bridgettesmom, you know just how I feel huh? My eyes are swollen (from crying) and I HAVE to finish packing. And you're right! I can't spoil DF's trip and her son is sooooo excited!! I will go and have a good time. And I will so enjoy seeing DW through a child's eyes.


canwegosoon ~ I absolutely would let DH go if it was a great trip opportunity, in a heartbeat. Thanks for your kind words.

Thanks everyone for all of your words of encouragement!!! I needed that.

 

[simonmunro]

I agree with KristinU!! You're on an inexpensive scouting job to plan the perfect romantic get away. Your assignment is to buy you a little notebook and as you go along make notes of all the things you're going to put on your itinerary to do with DH on the romantic getaway!!!

You'll feel close to him this way.

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

Originally posted by simonmunro
I agree with KristinU!! You're on an inexpensive scouting job to plan the perfect romantic get away. Your assignment is to buy you a little notebook and as you go along make notes of all the things you're going to put on your itinerary to do with DH on the romantic getaway!!!

You'll feel close to him this way.

Thanks Simonmunro.

That's a great idea and a great way to feel close to him.

I know I'm supposed to be packing but I keep remembering that I have to print out things so in the meantime, I check in.

Thank you all again!!

It is a dream come true that I'm even able to go. DH said No Way this year, just can't afford it. This trip caught me TOTALLY by surprise. Just like the Disney Magic to do that to you, huh?

 

[lizziepooh]

It will be ok. Go and enjoy yourself. I've done several girls trips with Mom, sisters and friends. DH actually enjoys having a few days to himself and is happy to see me when I return. Some time apart from spouses is healthy now and then. Enjoy showing
DF and her kids around, since she has never been.

 

[billwendy]

Hi,

My DH and I also desparately want some children as well. Take this chance to enjoy someone elses kids as she will need your help!!!! enjoy each kid and the fun you will have making this trip a dream come true for them!!! The first time they see the castle is so exciting. On one of our trips with kids (our neighbors) the 8 yo girl saw tinkerbelle swooshing across the sky as the fireworks started and the look on her face was priceless!!! brought tears to my eyes!!!! maybe you could be the official photographer, that is fun!!! try to get the kids with all the characters and stuff like that. since there is such and age difference with the kids, your DF having another adult with her will be awesome. Its a very different trip when you go with kids,,,,see disney through their eyes and you will have a ball thinking about how much fun it will be to take your own children there someday (wishes do come true)!!! have a ball!!

 

[Ozymoe]

Oh, For the Love of Disney!

1. Your husband will miss you too but will probably smile every time he thinks of you enjoying yourself at DW...because it feels sooo good to be able to give the person you love something that she really enjoys...and his smiling upon your trip is something no one else but he can give you!

...and ok, nobody else said this so I will...

2. Have you given any thought to the wonderful first evening back after your amazing vacation? You know...when you get to show him how cute you look in your mouse ears...ahem, how cute you look in JUST your mouse ears?

!

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

Originally posted by Ozymoe
Oh, For the Love of Disney!

...and ok, nobody else said this so I will...

2. Have you given any thought to the wonderful first evening back after your amazing vacation? You know...when you get to show him how cute you look in your mouse ears...ahem, how cute you look in JUST your mouse ears?!

Got ya' Ozymoe

I'm getting ready to leave. Just wanted to say bye and I'll let you know how the trip turns out when we get back.

At least we don't have to drive through Charley as he is now North of us. Hopefully we can have some when we're there.

Thank you all again. Your words mean so much! I knew you'd all understand.