Feeling guilty......

[daystar]

Has anyone gone to WDW and not taken their kids with them???My husband and i really never had a honeymoon so we thought about going to WDW for a week but i kind of feel guilty not taking the kids...Thanks

 

[Chelley00]

I just started a thread about to take or not take our kids with us. It was pretty much split both ways. We decided to go ahead and take our kids with us only because our DS11 was saying he'd rather not take a smaller vacation this year if that meant we could take that money and do Disney next year. I knew then he'd never forgive us

 

[mariettadisney71]

Yup, parents need getways too. However, we planned another trip later in the year with the kids. I felt no guilt, well maybe a little, until the door shut behind us leaving for the airport. We still called and e-mailed them from WDW. Some tears but they got over it when I told them we were going back. I explained to them that this was a secret mission to investigate things to do and places to go for our next trip.

Go, have fun

 

[Doc CW]

My parents would never go to WDW without me they have told me countless times they wouldnt but thats just my family.

 

[flipflop]

We just went without our kids - no guilt. Granted they didn't know we went to the happiest place on earth b/c they are only 2 but we'd do it if they were older as well.

 

[tarheelmjfan]

Is this your 1st time leaving them? I only ask, because it made a difference for my DH & I. We left our DS (13 at the time) to go on a cruise. It was the 1st time we'd vacationed without him. He didn't want to go & his dad was thrilled to be going as a couple. We did have a great time, esp. my DH. While on that cruise, we booked a family cruise. Once again, our DS didn't want to go. I wanted to cancel, but gave in, because my DH really wanted to go as a couple again. Midway through that cruise, my DH said, "You were right. We're never vacationing without our DS again, until he's grown & it's not our decision to make." Moral of the story.... Once was great! Twice was one time too many for DH & me.

 

[daystar]

Yes this would be our first time really leaving them...My son's are 15 and 8, 15 year old could careless because he doesn't like WDW anymore...He thinks it's for small children...My youngest is the one i think it will be hard to leave...I know that last time we went to WDW he enjoyed it so much he has been asking to go back ever since then...
It would be nice to get away for a short while but i know i will be missing them...I love WDW myself so i think it's a great place to visit but do i really want to visit this place without the rest of my family...That's what sits in the back of my mind...My sister says i need to let go of the apron a little and go and have a good time...As a mother i think it's hard just to leave...That's why i ask to see who else has done this and i would like to know what there trip was like and what the outcome with the kids is...Thanks

 

[mom23boys]

DH and I did it in late September for a long weekend for our 15th anniversary. Our boys were 12, 7 and 4. They knew where we were going. They have been there so many times they did not care at all. We are going back as a family in August.

DH and I had a blast. We stayed at CR went to Narcossees for dinner and saw Cirque. Did the F&W festival and loved it.

 

[asktriplets]

we've taken the kids 6 times in the last 3 yrs, so when we talked about going for a short 4 day getaway with just the 2 of us last sept., we felt NO guilt whatsoever- we couldn't WAIT to take advantage of evening EMHs, sit-down dining, pleasure island, etc.

we got the hotel reservations, air travel tickets, babysitting all lined up, and we were all set to go, and then.......................................................................................................NOTHING. i just COULDN'T do it....i couldn't go away for that long, so far away, and not to WDW where we have SO MANY wonderful memories as a family (i was worried i wouldn't be able to enjoy it there, where i couldn't help but think about the kids!).

we cancelled the reservations, and have the airline ticket money left in the system (to make things even more convoluted, i wanted dh and i to fly separately, so we have $ in the system for 2 different airlines).

we're planning on visiting my parents in tampa this jan. and we're hoping to get over to WDW, just dh and i, for a day or 2 , and then perhaps taking the kids over there for a day...hopefully THIS plan will work out!

good luck with whatever you decide,

 

[tarheelmjfan]

Yes this would be our first time really leaving them...My son's are 15 and 8, 15 year old could careless because he doesn't like WDW anymore...He thinks it's for small children...My youngest is the one i think it will be hard to leave...I know that last time we went to WDW he enjoyed it so much he has been asking to go back ever since then...
It would be nice to get away for a short while but i know i will be missing them...I love WDW myself so i think it's a great place to visit but do i really want to visit this place without the rest of my family...That's what sits in the back of my mind...My sister says i need to let go of the apron a little and go and have a good time...As a mother i think it's hard just to leave...That's why i ask to see who else has done this and i would like to know what there trip was like and what the outcome with the kids is...Thanks

As I noted, we didn't go to WDW, but on a cruise. I don't really think the location makes much of a difference though. I was just like you & felt bad about going. In the end, I'm glad DH didn't let me talk him out of it. We really did have a wonderful time. We spent the time focused on each other, which was really nice.

 

[Cinderella2006]

Dont feel guilty, being a parent is a challenging job as much as it is rewarding, a break away will do the children as much good as it will you and your partner. I feel you appreciate them more when you have a break every now and then.
Go for it but most of all enjoy your time together.

 

[pweyl36]

Im I the only person who feels no guilt in taking a vac with my hubby with out kids.I just love the piece and quiet and only thinking of my self.
Go and have a good time and do not feel guilty one bit

 

[dsnymomof4]

Yes, we did it and I totally understand your guilt. It's not so much taking a vacation without them, it's taking a vacation to Disney without them - their favorite place! I had thought about what it would be like to be in Disney without the kids for several trips and finally just decided to make plans. At the same time, however, we were also planning our next family trip, so I think that made it a bit easier on them. They had been there several times already and knew they were going back soon, so although they were a bit disappointed that they weren't going, I tried to explain that we would be doing some adult things that we normally wouldn't be able to do when we all go - like a tour, dinner at places they wouldn't like (tried to make the trip less appealing for them!) Anyway, they were fine and we had the best time. We will definitely be taking more adult trips in the future (mixed in among the many family trips, of course). So go, and have a great time!

 

[blessedby3]

We would never take a WDW vacation without our kids. Disney is just such a family place to us and to be without them would cause the kids and (us)the parents too much grief. That said, I know there are lots of people who do this and have no problems with it. It depends on each family situation.

 

[xipetotec]

Has anyone gone to WDW and not taken their kids with them???My husband and i really never had a honeymoon so we thought about going to WDW for a week but i kind of feel guilty not taking the kids...Thanks

WOW!!!! I could have written this last year!!!
My wife and I never had one either, and we always TOLD each other we would go just the two of us. And last year, we did!!!

We go the entire family about once every two years, and we had been in march. So we did not feel guilty about the trip itself AT ALL in october. We DId feel a little bit "down" that the kids weren't with us for the Mickey's Not So Scary Halloween Party because we know they would have loved that. But other than that, i think we deserved a little alone time and we were all too happy to do it at disney world! ( it's not like they aren't going to go again! ).

 

[Princess Roo]

I think that taking the occasional vacation for just the two of you is a great idea and I don't think there is anything wrong with it being at WDW, if that is where you want to go. HOWEVER, if you're feeling guilty about taking a trip in the first place, then I wouldn't do WDW, just because you will be surrounded by kids having a great time, which will likely lead to more guilty feelings! I'd suggest going somewhere less kid-friendly for your first trip.

DH and I were actually struggling with the same thing for our first trip without our son (next week - whoohoo!), because there are some things we'd really like to see at WDW that we haven't been able to do with a toddler, but we settled on a trip to the beach at a nice resort instead because I think I'll have a better time with less guilt. We'll hit WDW alone some other time (or maybe take a mini-vacation there the next time the grandparents come with us, so the kids can be there, too, just not with us).