Feeling duped by "friends"

[mummabear]

Update: I'm so glad a lot of you suggested to check with the business. It was more because we had the room to ourselves.

Now I feel absolutely horrible that I automatically thought the worst of these people. We do genuinely like them, so why was my first inclination was that they did us wrong???

Thank you all so much for the input!! It's nice to know I have someplace other than mainstream social media and clearly biased friends and family to get feedback on situations.

Good to hear it worked out.

 

[Kaytie]

Now I feel absolutely horrible that I automatically thought the worst of these people. We do genuinely like them, so why was my first inclination was that they did us wrong???

You had two conflicting pieces of information. It's natural to question when you're not sure of something.

 

[Disney Doll]

What is an escape room?

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

What is an escape room?

Here's a description from wiki: "An escape room is a physical adventure game in which players solve a series of puzzles using clues, hints and strategy to complete the objectives at hand. Players are given a set time limit to unveil the secret plot which is hidden within the rooms."

The overall gist is the same from company to company but sometimes they differ on things like the types of clues given, help given, etc. The majority of the companies I've looked into the time is set at 60mins but that can vary.

 

[Nettester]

Let it go, most importantly for the sake of the kids. It's not worth burning bridges. If you enjoy this couple's company, by all means still be friends. Just keep in mind to politely and respectfully clarify how expenses work before agreeing to socialize as adults again, if you do

 

[Squirlz]

Thanks for posting the update! I'm glad it's a happy ending!!!

Happy endings always cost more

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Update: I'm so glad a lot of you suggested to check with the business. It was more because we had the room to ourselves.

Now I feel absolutely horrible that I automatically thought the worst of these people. We do genuinely like them, so why was my first inclination was that they did us wrong???

Thank you all so much for the input!! It's nice to know I have someplace other than mainstream social media and clearly biased friends and family to get feedback on situations.

It took me a while to get through this thread today, read it in pieces. Glad it worked out. I was going to say that there was probably a good reason for it, so glad to see that was the case.

I have never heard of an Escape Room either.

 

[Poohforyou]

I think it's tacky that they asked you to chip in. You were their guests at their event.

Regardless, glad you found out that they were honest.

I was caught at 1st by the fact that this was a pricey evening and whether the OP knew that going in. I imagine they paid for their own dinner, which I'd expect, and of course a sitter. If I didn't know about going to the escape room ahead of time I wouldn't be thrilled about that plan or having to pay for it. It really doesn't sound like my kind of thing.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Glad it all worked out!!!!
Always good to re-think and get some additional input!

And, don't feel too bad, because as you can see, It does not seem to be unusual for people to do what you suspected.
The thought would have crossed my mind, too.

 

[sam_gordon]

You had two conflicting pieces of information. It's natural to question when you're not sure of something.

I would say unfortunately it's natural to assume the worst of someone. Instead of thinking of any of the different possible reasons the prices could be different (public vs. private, time of year, how far in advance reservations are, etc), it makes more sense to jump to "they duped us". I'm not just picking on the OP, I notice it everywhere. People seem to believe everyone/everything is out to get them instead of assuming there's an innocent misunderstanding or mistake. "I couldn't be wrong, so they're out to get me".

 

[DawnM]

I would say unfortunately it's natural to assume the worst of someone. Instead of thinking of any of the different possible reasons the prices could be different (public vs. private, time of year, how far in advance reservations are, etc), it makes more sense to jump to "they duped us". I'm not just picking on the OP, I notice it everywhere. People seem to believe everyone/everything is out to get them instead of assuming there's an innocent misunderstanding or mistake. "I couldn't be wrong, so they're out to get me".

Oh good grief. How is this NOT picking on the OP?

 

[sam_gordon]

Oh good grief. How is this NOT picking on the OP?

As I said in my post, it's NOT just the OP. Look at multiple responses in this thread. I see it IRL also. THAT'S what I was commenting on. That many people's first reaction is "they're out to get me". I think it's a shame that that's the first reaction instead of "maybe I misunderstood".

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

As I said in my post, it's NOT just the OP. Look at multiple responses in this thread. I see it IRL also. THAT'S what I was commenting on. That many people's first reaction is "they're out to get me". I think it's a shame that that's the first reaction instead of "maybe I misunderstood".

I'm by nature a curious person. While my first inclination may not be to think "I'm being overcharged" it probably would be one of my thoughts along with other things. For example if I'm thinking "hey that was fun I'd like to go again" I'd start looking into it myself. If what I saw didn't match my previous experience I'd be curious as to why and I'd start digging around to see what I could find out.

IRL it's also easy to play the telephone game so I think there are times where it pays off to want to doublecheck something yourself.

 

[sam_gordon]

I'm by nature a curious person. While my first inclination may not be to think "I'm being overcharged" it probably would be one of my thoughts along with other things. For example if I'm thinking "hey that was fun I'd like to go again" I'd start looking into it myself. If what I saw didn't match my previous experience I'd be curious as to why and I'd start digging around to see what I could find out.

IRL it's also easy to play the telephone game so I think there are times where it pays off to want to doublecheck something yourself.

Sure, I'm fine with curiosity. Makes total sense. If OP would have said "here's what happened, why do you think they got a different price?", THAT'S curiosity. That's not what happened though...

Now I'm feeling duped by these people that we really genuinely liked.

Again, it's not just this thread or this board. I had someone tell me he sent emails to me but they got bounced back. I told him he must have the wrong email address. "No, I start filling it in and it finds you" (autocomplete). So I go to his desk. Sure enough, his autocomplete has the wrong email address (by one letter). Of course, "the system is broken", not "I typed it wrong" (which he had to have done to create the autocomplete).

 

[amyharris0919]

What is an escape room?

I have never heard of an Escape Room either.

This was our second time doing one. Really super fun, especially if you like finding and piecing together clues to solve a problem. Helps if you work well with the people you're with! I totally recommend trying one!

I was caught at 1st by the fact that this was a pricey evening and whether the OP knew that going in. I imagine they paid for their own dinner, which I'd expect, and of course a sitter. If I didn't know about going to the escape room ahead of time I wouldn't be thrilled about that plan or having to pay for it. It really doesn't sound like my kind of thing.

We did expect to pay for the entire evening. Honestly, we were more shocked at the menu of the restaurant they chose. Well over $100 for the two of us.

I appreciate everyone's input, truly!

 

[ols386]

I would let it go.