Feeling a little snubbed.

[nutterbutter2010]

Today everyone came into work talking about how great the party was, how much fun they had, etc. Apparently it was one womans birthday, and she threw herself a huge bash. I've been working here over 6 months now. I didn't get an invite. I don't really have a relationship with this woman other than saying hello and making small talk, but I just think its kind of rude to invite the entire office to a party, and leave out one person.

Oh well, I guess that was just one less thing I had to waist my money on. Also, this is the STINKY woman that wears enough purfume to choke a horse (see my last post) so if nothing else, other than saving money, I also saved my nasal passages!

 

[Wall-E1]

Perhaps you are viewed as the black sheep of the office. As a black sheep in my family, I can tell you that we are always the last to know things.

 

[MonkeyDishwasher]

If you don't like her, would you have gone to the party anyways? Probably not, so neither of you wasted effort on each other. Hooray!

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

Today everyone came into work talking about how great the party was, how much fun they had, etc. Apparently it was one womans birthday, and she threw herself a huge bash. I've been working here over 6 months now. I didn't get an invite. I don't really have a relationship with this woman other than saying hello and making small talk, but I just think its kind of rude to invite the entire office to a party, and leave out one person.

Oh well, I guess that was just one less thing I had to waist my money on. Also, this is the STINKY woman that wears enough purfume to choke a horse (see my last post) so if nothing else, other than saving money, I also saved my nasal passages!

Maybe she has picked up on your animosity about her.

 

[nutterbutter2010]

Perhaps you are viewed as the black sheep of the office. As a black sheep in my family, I can tell you that we are always the last to know things.

Um, I don't think so. I've very friendly with everyone in the office. Its a pretty fun office - were always laughing, cracking jokes, etc. This one woman isn't here all the time, so I don't get to interact with her as much. But I really don't think I'm the black sheep!!

 

[mbfqueen]

It stings, I'm sure ..

Over the course of the last 4 yrs I have turned into the black sheep .. it's embarassing when others in the community tell you things, fun things, your family is doing and you have no clue lol .. yep the last to know!

But the trade off? Not having crazy sisters still trying to control my life as they did prior to marriage (23 yrs ago!), it's worth it!

 

[pearlieq]

neither of you wasted effort on each other.

Exactly. You don't like her, and even criticize her behind her back. Why would you want to go to her party? Why should she spend the time and effort to entertain you?

Once you're out of kindergarten you don't have to invite the whole class.

 

[OK!]

I know what you mean, OP--even if you don't really like the person doing the inviting, it still sucks not to be given the opportunity to turn down the invitation yourself. I don't care if you're in kindergarten or a grown adult, it hurts.

But hey, non-destroyed nasal passages are definitely a good thing!

 

[Boxley]

Seeing how you took the time to make a post describing this woman's smell why the heck would you want to go to her party? According to you, she doesn't even talk to you so why would you be invited? She doesn't have to invite everyone and maybe this is a case that she actually knows her guests pretty well to invite them, she doesn't know you so....

I think this is a case of sour grapes.

 

[kathie859]

I'm sorry that you feel snubbed. But since you obviously don't care for the person, just be thankful you didn't have to come up with an excuse for not attending.

 

[Scurvy]

I don't think there's anything rude about her not having invited you - especially since you apparently don't really like each other. It was very rude for them to talk about it in front of someone who wasn't invited, however. I'm sorry it made you feel bad.

 

[EthansMom]

I get where you're coming from, OP.

I don't work outside the home, but there's a group of people with whom I'm casually acquainted through different community projects and organizations. There is a huge clique with some of the people and I am NOT in that clique.

Sometimes, it isn't very pleasant to hear these folks talk about parties and such that they are all doing without me... especially, when it's one of the folks with whom I have a more friendly relationship.

But, it helps if I remind myself that by-and-large I don't like the folks in the clique and wouldn't want to invite most of them to my party (if I had one). And why would I want to go to a party with them when I could be doing something far more enjoyable?

So, if you had a party, would you want to invite this woman? If not, then there's no reason to worry about it.

 

[phorsenuf]

If it was such a huge bash maybe she'd been planning it since before you started working there and never gave it a thought that the new people didn't know about it. KWIM.

Or she just doesn't like you.

 

[momrek06]

Today everyone came into work talking about how great the party was, how much fun they had, etc. Apparently it was one womans birthday, and she threw herself a huge bash. I've been working here over 6 months now. I didn't get an invite. I don't really have a relationship with this woman other than saying hello and making small talk, but I just think its kind of rude to invite the entire office to a party, and leave out one person.

Oh well, I guess that was just one less thing I had to waist my money on. Also, this is the STINKY woman that wears enough purfume to choke a horse (see my last post) so if nothing else, other than saving money, I also saved my nasal passages!

Maybe STINKY woman is on the DIS and saw your post about her!!!!

 

[a1tinkfans]

Today everyone came into work talking about how great the party was, how much fun they had, etc. Apparently it was one womans birthday, and she threw herself a huge bash. I've been working here over 6 months now. I didn't get an invite. I don't really have a relationship with this woman other than saying hello and making small talk, but I just think its kind of rude to invite the entire office to a party, and leave out one person.

Oh well, I guess that was just one less thing I had to waist my money on. Also, this is the STINKY woman that wears enough purfume to choke a horse (see my last post) so if nothing else, other than saving money, I also saved my nasal passages!

It was classless IMHO. And also disrespectful for Other attendees to talk about it at work KNOWING that you did not attend...Not a pleasant thing at all, sorry but sounds like you "saved your nose" and your $!

 

[phorsenuf]

It was classless IMHO. And also disrespectful for Other attendees to talk about it at work KNOWING that you did not attend...Not a pleasant thing at all, sorry but sounds like you "saved your nose" and your $!

So just because some may not have attended an event no one is allowed to discuss it?

 

[Missy1961]

So just because some may not have attended an event no one is allowed to discuss it?

I was going to say the same thing. This isn't kindergarten, when a co-worker has a party they don't have to invite everybody. She doesn't seem to like you, and you obviously don't like her, so she didn't invite you. You wouldn't have gone, right? So she saved you the trouble of wasting money. And your nose wasn't offended either.

ETA: I just checked--your rule was followed!

 

[Stacerita]

You don't like her and only made small talk and hellos in the 6 months you been there.....I wouldn't have invited you either. And since you don't really like her, no loss really.

 

[ksjayhawks]

Plus, the other workers may not have known you weren't invited; they may have thought you weren't able to attend.

 

[momrek06]

OP, thinking more about this, maybe she was going to invite you.....not knowing you all that much she could have asked other co-workers about inviting you and maybe someone told her you did not like her hence her decision not to invite you.

Just a thought.