character meals are a good idea if your child isnt afraid of the characters. assuming she is not (neither of mine have been afraid of them but i know some kids are) then i recommend crystal palace at MK, which features winnie the pooh and friends. that was my daughter's first character meal and since she was already familiar with winnie the pooh (and friends) she LOVED the whole thing.
liberty tree tavern at MK is a great family style thanksgiving dinner type meal, with minnie, goofy, pluto, chip and dale. again, if characters are her thing, i highly recommend it.
cosmic rays is a great counter service meal at MK. cosmic ray plays music and keeps kids entertained while they eat.
pinocchio haus is also great counter service for the reasons mentioned above.
breakfastosaurus is a great character meal at AK, its buffet style which means you can get in and out pretty quickly.
tusker house (i think thats the name of it) is a great counter service meal at AK. no entertainment, but the food is good.
i took my kids to the biergarten at epcot (in germany) for table service dinner and that was fun. the food is good but the best part is the band. the live music is great entertainment for kids, and your daughter can go up in front of them and dance if she wants. you might also consider the princess table service meal in norway. we are trying that in the spring, because my daughter is a princess-a-holic.