Family Vacation-What to do now?!?!

dopeygirl76

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Well we leave for my extended family's first trip in 10 weeks. The plans began last year. My in-laws joined us for their 2nd trip and my DDad was jealous :rolleyes1. I have invited my parents many times but DDad has never flown and said he never would. Just a side note in Jan 2007 my dad was injured at work and suffered brain damage - now the teasing about the in-laws has ALWAYS been part of his personality. He finally conceded when I explained the flight time (only 2 hrs +) from PIT how easy Magical Express is and of course we would use DVC for the family to go. So we started out with a trip for my youngest DSis' HS grad with the four of us - ME, DH, DD5 and DD2, DDad, DStepmom, DSis21, Her boyfriend, DSis 17 (Her boyfriend most likely unable to join us due to possible military deployment) DSis31, DBIL and DNep8. We played around with dates and finally settled on Apr 11-17. I decided to wait until the 7 month mark as we wanted OKW for the space and to save pts.

During this time DDad invites my DMom and DStepdad - who say yes - now I am thrilled never thought they would go - invited them many times but they are the grandparents who have their own life - do their own thing- which is fine - they love the girls but just on their schedule. So I book a 2BDR for our fam of 4 and DSis31's fam of 3 and 3 studios - #1 Dad and Stepmom, #2 Mom and Stepdad, #3 DSis17 &21 and 21's BF. Good to go. Now just wait for airfare......In Oct my Grandpa passed away (DStepmom's Dad) we had invited he and grandma initially but he was afraid to travel too far due to his illness.

Of course in the midst of everything the flights are realeased through SW - we decided to go with Airtran - our fam and DSis31's fam booked our flights. Ofter the funeral and all we approached Grandma about joining us - she said yes so I add Studio #4 for her. Then we go to airfare. Everyone is booked on the same flight down except my stepdad who is unsure of if he can get the time off work and who would watch their dog (we usually do or my DSis17).

Flights home - DSis31 her fam and my mom are booked to come home at 8:30am the rest of us 11:15 am. YAY!!!!:banana:

I decide meals will be for everyone to decide on their own with the exception of 2 dinners in the villas (spaghetti night and grill night) then 2 ADRs one at Olivia's and one at TREX (this one is for DNep!!)

This is all decided before Thanksgiving - smooth sailing - yeah right!!!

Problem #1 DSis 21 and her BF break up - its a good thing but......cancel a room and put them with grandma?!?! - NO!!! DSis17's BF can go!!! OK change a name on the room no problem.

Problem #2 Airtran sends an email about our flight change - I assume its just a time change and don't look at it right away. DStepmom calls to say it is now a layover in ATL:scared1:!!! Our direct options were 8:30AM or 8:30PM. Our fam of 4 opted for 8:30p. The rest of the crew stuck with the layover. DDad (who has a brain injury) was our concern - the 8:30a flight is too early and 8:30p would mean the day out which we cannot guarentee he could handle - his status changes day by day. :mad::mad:AIRTRAN!!!!! When will Southwest join the luggage check -in??

Problem #3 Dsis21 (who has a new BF) comes to me on Friday to say she doesn't want to go without him and he cant afford to go..... the free ride train does not include fly by night beaus.....the REAL problem is grandma - she will NEVER be OK with DSis17 and her BF in a room alone or for that matter in the room with her. So I am trying to refigure the rooms. Do I get a 2BDR for Dad, Stepmom, Grandma, DSis 17 and her BF??? With 2 bathrooms I worry - do we switch to AKV (if possible) for the third bathroom ? Are these only in Kidani?

Of course DSis21 still hasn't told the parents she isnt going so that could change - she is a very flakey person!!!Thanks for letting me vent and TIA for the advice!!!
 
EHHH, at this late date do you know there is anything available to change to?? I'd start there, and then contact othe family and get them to nail it down. IT's why we never invite so many at the same time anymore. Sure, it sounds like fun, and it is, but.... It's just TOO hard to get committments from everyone, and we have a rule....NO ADDITIONS!! No matter if there are new boy friends or girlfriends. If they break up...too bad. We also have a rule...screw up our plans once and you aren't getting another "free ride" offer again. I assume you aren't charging anyone for the rooms. I'm beginning to think charging might be a good idea after all....maybe they wont back out that way. Of course, I've not had many back out, so I still offer the free lodging.
 
I'm exhausted just reading the OP. :goodvibes

Sometimes trying to be nice only causes problems and hurt feelings. We learned long ago not to try and share our love for Disney with family and friends. We are all excited about being at WDW and they are complaining about not being home and "why is it so crowded"?

I hope that things work out for you. :grouphug:

:) Bill
 
I'm exhausted just reading the OP. :goodvibes

Sometimes trying to be nice only causes problems and hurt feelings. We learned long ago not to try and share our love for Disney with family and friends. We are all excited about being at WDW and they are complaining about not being home and "why is it so crowded"?

I hope that things work out for you. :grouphug:

:) Bill

Wow, I totally agree with Bill here. Good luck resolving everything. I think the boyfriend of the 17 yr old would be staying in a different villa. But that's just me.
 

Wow, I totally agree with Bill here. Good luck resolving everything. I think the boyfriend of the 17 yr old would be staying in a different villa. But that's just me.

I'm with you on that one, Deb!
 
When Dis 17 announced that her boyfriend could come, you thought it would be OK, and just added his name on a reservation. Why not just leave him alone in that studio? DSis(17) and DGma stay in the other one.

I wouldn't try to change resorts.

I do admit that I don't fully understand the situation, but I really hope you have a nice time...you have 10 weeks to figure it out! Pixie Dust, that you're able to!:wizard:

Bobbi:goodvibes
 
I had considered leaving him alone in one. We were all hoping he would get to join us as the trip is for that DSis' grad - plus we all really love him.

I did talk to my DStepmom today to discuss possibilities and she said to leave it alone at this point since DSis21 already has her airline ticket and paid for, and if need be we will just do what Bobbi suggested!!

The shame of the situation is this Sis21 creates a lot of chaos within the whole fam this typical behavior for her -I guess everyone has a problem child - and she is ours. :sad2:

When I told her it was dumb to worry about a boyfriend she has been seeing for a month and she should go and spend time with her family, first she said she would be a 5th wheel - when I reminded her that Grandma was going, that she could spend time with her mom (my dad will not be doing the parks) or her nieces and nephew her reply was...."I don't want to do that." I am going to pull my hair out with this one.....can you tell I"m the oldest......our parents say I have babies all of them too much:upsidedow!!!!
 
Wow...you got alot of things going on there...

First, I would say that going Airtran over Southwest is probably something i wouldn't do...Southwest is not only the cheapest (usually)...it really is much more relaxed and the best...my experience...

second...i think that things are MUCH easier without boyfriends...especially of the 17-21 year old variety. Travel is awkward with mixed families anyway...adding the young and the restless makes it even more complicated

that's just me...but lets face it: these boyfriends are just ships passing in the night - 95% of the time. And this kind of thing always happens: breakups, teenage love on the phone, drama, hormones....blah blah blah.

Hope it all works out for you...and hope everybody has a nametag so everyone can keep everyone else straight:idea:
 
Had to comment on the nametag thing - as the coordinator and a crazy person I had planned on making t-shirts for everyone - the front says - WE PUT THE "FUN" IN DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY - and on the back everyone has a Disney character with their name. I will be sure to put the names on so you all can keep track!!
 
Wow! It sounds like you have your hands full with this group...sis mostly. I was under the impression from somewhere that Southwest was participating in the airline checkin at the resort stuff? Is it only at certain resorts? I don't have to worry until next December about it, so I have not kept up with the status. At some point quite a while back I thought that they were "testing" it out.

Good luck and I hope that you have an awesome trip!

Daisy
 
I would only do an extended family vacation with people that have a history keeping commitments. Then I would do cash reservations with their name on the reservations. That way they are responsible to pay when they check in and the burden now rests on their shoulders.
 
:scared1: Dang...you really would give us an awesome trip report...now that's what I'm talkin 'bout...popcorn::
 
I agree with Toddylu, you should do a trip report it would be epic! popcorn::
 
Mine is my sister. I will NEVER and I say again NEVER invite her along. Everything is all about HER and I don't trust her commitment in planning a vacation. I know it would be a nightmare for all of us, especially me, and ruin the entire trip.

Our upcoming trip will include me and my DS5, my parents (mom in an ECV), and my 18yo Niece and her BFF. I am preparing for the fact that we will likely never see the niece/bff and my parents are easy to travel with. My DS5 is very excited that they are coming along. Mom has no interest in going to the parks, so my son and I will probably only go to the parks 3 or 4 days, spending the rest of the week at the resort. Dad will probably join us on our park trips, especially since we only go for the first half of the day and spend the rest of the day swimming.

Sorry to be so long-winded, but I guess I'm trying to say that I am very selective as to whom I invite to join us. I'm not the family's freebie travel agent and this is MY vacation and I am inviting YOU to join in. Not YOUR vacation to highjack and ruin for me. It's my dollar paying the cost of the membership. Otherwise, I'd rather go with just me and my son.

Good luck with your "grand gathering". I wouldn't lose sleep over whose boyfriend can and can't make it. If you have the room booked that will accomodate the fly-by boyfriends and don't have to book anything extra to do so, then just let it go and enjoy your vacation. You already have a studio booked for Grandma herself and your DS21 and DS17 were already going to share a studio -- so if they both have boyfriends there, it doesn't affect your reservations at all. Studios can accomodate 4 people. However, the DS17's boyfriend should at the very least buy his own plane ticket and pay his own expenses way (food/park tickets).

I'm sure all will work out in the end and everyone will have a great time, as long as you don't make yourself responsible for everyone's good time. Take the time with your own family to enjoy yourselves.
 
Never fear - documenting this insanity with those who understand is the ONLY way I will not leave someone at the airport!!! DSis17's BF has paid for his airfare and as are the rest - everyone is on their own for tickets and food although I did give them info for the give a day get a disney day so they could save some money.

I swear it is easier to travel with my 2 & 5 yr old!!!:rotfl:
 
Never fear - documenting this insanity with those who understand is the ONLY way I will not leave someone at the airport!!! DSis17's BF has paid for his airfare and as are the rest - everyone is on their own for tickets and food although I did give them info for the give a day get a disney day so they could save some money.

I swear it is easier to travel with my 2 & 5 yr old!!!:rotfl:

:goodvibesIt's nice that you included the information about volunteering for a Disney day. It's a way to do some good and save some money!

Bobbi
 
Girls and boys, as innocent as it all may seem are a scary combo. DopeyGirl - you're a brave soul!

My DD's request to bring her 17yo boyfriend with us on our July trip was met with my reponse: "He's a nice boy, but there will be a ton of restrictions* that you won't be happy with and he may not feel comfortable with" :rotfl:

* Things such as money, food, passes, sleeping accommodations! and yes, even room keys (or lack there-of) for the both of them :rolleyes: She's dropped the request. Hehe.

... last summer DD's boyfriend of the time broke up with her via phone while we were watching Wishes from the Poly beach (he got back together with his old GF). :mad: I won't have boy time interfering with family time until the day they are married.
 
I think you have the patience of a saint. It seems every family has a problem child. It's great you can keep your sense of humor about it :) I hope you have an awesome trip :)
 











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