Family Relations ???

[CamColt]

So I wont beat a dead horse, Ill ask this in general terms.

If you had a parent who was wrongly being rude to your spouse, and treating them with disrespect, would you defend your spouse and speak up to the parent? Do you feel you have an obligation to do that?
On the other hand if you were the one being treated wrongly by an in law, would you expect your spouse to step up to the plate and defend you?

Thanks for the opinions!

 

[Serena]

Yes I think the spouses need to stand together.

 

[helenabear]

I agree with Laurie, I think that spouses should be the strongest tie in a family.

 

[EROS]

No Brainer as far as I'm concerned ....

If someone is unable/unwilling to STAND UP to ANYONE who has injured a spouse,
he/she is a SPINELESS CREATURE .........

 

[rbuzzotta]

MIL used to treat me so badly!!! She wouldn't even acknowledge that we were married..........DH has stood by my side for the last 13 years. Now the MIL has had a stroke (3 years ago) and is unable to speak.........we get along fine!!

I hope things work out for the best..........

 

[mskani]

Please don't get me started!! But in answer to your questions: YES, on both parts!!

 

[caitycaity]

yes, to both questions.

 

[mickeyfan1]

to both questions, there is never a reason to be rude, especially in a family situation. Being overly polite will usually get the point accross.

rbuzzotta, I feel your pain, my mil really doesn't like me, we talk and she pretends, but I call it artificial sincereity. After 28 years with her son, you would think she would realize that we are in it for the long haul. I am very happy she is in VA and I am not!

 

[doxdogy]

Yes, to both questions. My poor DD is going through this with her MIL. The woman is nuts, nuts, nuts. Thankfully, the SIL is starting to stand up to his mother.

 

[Gail T AGAIN]

Originally posted by EROS
No Brainer as far as I'm concerned ....

If someone is unable/unwilling to STAND UP to ANYONE who has injured a spouse,
he/she is a SPINELESS CREATURE .........

Eros you must of known my EX and his father, my Ex was the spineless creature that couldn't stand up to his father or family when I was put down, that is why he is know an EX

 

[tigercat]

I wish I could say yes but I can't. I come from an abusive house, my dh works for the family business and had a hard time growing up. He works with my family but doesn't socialize with them if he can help it. THey are good at giving insults that don't always sound like it. His family is more secretive. They only say things when he is not there and then act like nothing has happened. I realized just before Christmas that my dh would like to say something but he is just as scared of them as I am as well as the fact that they sign his pay check. I am now starting to say things back and am getting some self confidence. Nothing will be done until my parents pass away though. Both are not in good shape.
tigercat

 

[Kallison]

Remind your spouse you will be around a lot longer than his parents. My Mom always told me that my spouse comes first.

 

[KimRaye]

YES, to both questions!

HOWEVER, if you or your spouse AGREES with the comments/treatments than, you need some other advice!

 

[Lucky4me]

Yes.

I remember when I was a newlywed with my ex. His Mother came to stay with us. She made some comments about my poor ironing skills. My ex let her know in no uncertain terms that I was not up for discussion. If she didn't have anything nice to say about me, she was not to say anything at all. He put her in her place and she never said anything negative about me again.

 

[lil mermaid]

Yes, to all questions!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Yes to both!

 

[Pembo]

YES! I've spoken up to my in-laws on my dh's behalf and he's spoken to them about me!

Now we don't speak at all to "those who can't be named".