Family on Facebook

[Muscateer]

My SiL which is my husband's brother's wife requested me on facebook months ago. I have only met her a few times and haven't seen her for 5 years as most of the time we live thousands of miles away from them. She is always ready with a sarcy comment or two and basically I just don't care for her. All her statuses at the moment are very detailed goings ons of her daughter's potty training. Seriously I can't believe what some people put on FB.

Has anyone ever deleted a family member from their FB? I so want to press the delete button.

 

[Pinky166]

DO IT!!!!!

I have deleted my SIL (my DHs actual sister) and I don't regret it......we don't see them since they moved away, even before they moved they never used to make an effort to come & see us we always went to them, they also never used to send us christmas/birthday cards etc even though we were expected to buy cards & gifts for her 3 kids. I don't begrudge buying for the kids but we never used to get a text to say thanks. Geez family are so annoying & complicated!

 

[irishtigger]

I have deleted 2 of my 1st cousins both grown men with families of their own. We don't agree on a lot of things (mostly politics and the ways animals should be treated) and they continued to post comments on my wall or status updates that I dont feel were necessary or appropriate even after I asked them to stop. I had enough and I deleted them. I don't miss them one bit!

 

[joolz1910]

Delete! If you never see her, it doesn't really matter anyway - it sounds unlikely that there will be any repercussions. She might not even notice that you have deleted her!

 

[BethEJo]

I say go for it and delete her!

It's not as if she is actively going to get a notification saying that you have removed her as a "friend". So like PP said, she probs won't notice.

If you hardly see her or interact with her, then that is a perfectly good reason to delete somebody. If she ever does say anything, tell her you were having a facebook clear out

I have quite a few family members on facebook; it's just the easiest way for us to keep in touch. They are family members that I want to keep in touch with too. I also have my dad on facebook - I can't delete him, as during term time when I'm away at uni, my parents say that it is the only way they can keep up to date with me But sometimes, I do block them from seeing some of my pics....But shhh. Don't tell anybody

 

[sweetlovin']

I deleted my Aunt and I come from a very close family. I had a lot of family members (including my mom) calling me and asking why I would do that. So it created a stir in the pot.

In general, if I would put in my status, happy brithday to my son or daughter, talk about their triumphs and tribulations, she didn't bother to comment. The only time she wanted her opinion noted was when she found a status update about myself controversial. Usually, she was interpreting the status in a different light. I emailed her twice telling her that if she had a question about what I post, feel free to private message me, but not to post directly to the board. It didn't work, so I defriended her.

Eventually, I rebefriended her and she hasn't made a comment since

 

[joolz1910]

If you are feeling a bit awkward about deleting her, you could just hide all of her posts. That way, you wouldn't have to read about her potty training!

 

[scottishgirl87]

The only problem is if she tries to add you back!!

My friend had a clearout of Facebook a while back and deleted a girl we both went to school with. Well a week or 2 later she had a Friend Request from the girl she'd deleted, I thought it was hilarious but my friend didn't as she felt she had to add her back again!

 

[Tinks1984]

If you are feeling a bit awkward about deleting her, you could just hide all of her posts. That way, you wouldn't have to read about her potty training!

I've done this with people on mine and it's just as good as deleting, without the questioning off anyone later on

 

[Muscateer]

Thanks all just the words of encouragement I needed

My husband keeps telling me to delete her and told me she has always been a mouthy so and so (his words weren't so nice).

I had thought about hiding her posts, if I did that does she still see my posts?

 

[Tinks1984]

Ah yes, she'll still see your posts and will be able to comment on them too...

Delete is the only option

 

[Danauk]

You could always block her from seeing your posts. Before you hit post click on the lock in the bottom right hand corner, then go to customise and there you can type the names of anyone you don't want to see that post.

 

[gemmybear83]

You could customize the settings so you can't see her posts and she can't see your facebook updates - I have this set up for a few people who update their facebook all day long and its really annoying.

 

[mandymouse]

Thanks all just the words of encouragement I needed

My husband keeps telling me to delete her and told me she has always been a mouthy so and so (his words weren't so nice).

I had thought about hiding her posts, if I did that does she still see my posts?

I'm another one who says delete her, especially if your hubby is happy for you to do it too

 

[jockey]

I too would delete her

 

[Ware Bears]

I'd delete her too!!

You could customize the settings so you can't see her posts and she can't see your facebook updates - I have this set up for a few people who update their facebook all day long and its really annoying.

I must do this ~ I don't go on FB very often and this is one of the main reasons why.

 

[Pegasus928]

I say delete.
I have a cull of my 'friends' every now and then - normally when I get anywhere near 100 because I know for a fact I do not have 100 friends
When deciding who stays and who goes it comes down to those I have contact with, and most importantly, a laugh with. If all I ever see is depressing status updates, argumentative comments or no interaction whatsoever - they're gone.
Facebook is supposed to be fun. I don't want to keep reading about peoples health problems or how many times their dog farted last night. And don't get me started on these people that post as their staus 'Aaaarrrggghhh' Talk about needy.

 

[buzz for boys]

I say delete.
I have a cull of my 'friends' every now and then - normally when I get anywhere near 100 because I know for a fact I do not have 100 friends
When deciding who stays and who goes it comes down to those I have contact with, and most importantly, a laugh with. If all I ever see is depressing status updates, argumentative comments or no interaction whatsoever - they're gone.
Facebook is supposed to be fun. I don't want to keep reading about peoples health problems or how many times their dog farted last night. And don't get me started on these people that post as their staus 'Aaaarrrggghhh' Talk about needy.

Woah thats me gone in your next cull then
You forgot to mention people who post dodgy jokes on their status that nobody gets !!!

To OP I deleted all my dh family off my facebook as they never get in touch with us so I didnt want them to be able to see what was happening in our lives. Noone has ever mentioned it to me or him!! Hit the delete button x

 

[wideeyes]

I tend to just hid there profile so I can't see what they post. I have refused to add a family member who I don't like, more because I don't want them knowing about my life and seeing my pictures. I have also got my mum to hide any pictures she posts of me or my DD from her.

 

[Tinks1984]

I say delete.
I have a cull of my 'friends' every now and then - normally when I get anywhere near 100 because I know for a fact I do not have 100 friends
When deciding who stays and who goes it comes down to those I have contact with, and most importantly, a laugh with. If all I ever see is depressing status updates, argumentative comments or no interaction whatsoever - they're gone.
Facebook is supposed to be fun. I don't want to keep reading about peoples health problems or how many times their dog farted last night. And don't get me started on these people that post as their staus 'Aaaarrrggghhh' Talk about needy.

Oops...that's me gone on the next cull then All I've done for the last 4 days is complain of this sore chest I have Sorry Kenny!

I promise that normal status updates shall resume very soon...then you'll be bored of hearing all about F1