Family doesn't want to go to Disney

[torinsmom]

I am trying to convince my sister's family and my parents to go to Disney with us in October. My mom and dad were in the boat, but my sister nixed it, saying it is hard with the whole family together, too long a trip, blah,blah,blah! So now I am so disappointed. My parents don't want to go unless its all three grandchildren, and of course, now my dad is saying we should wait and maybe next year, my sis will want us all to go. Well, my son is almosty 12, and before too long he will be grown. I guess I will be looking for someone else to share an offsite house with us in the fall.

And how in the world can someone(my BIL) comment that "Disney just doesn't appeal to me." Its all about the kids here, HELLO! His kids are 7 and 10, and were very young 3 and 1, the only time they went.

Marsha

 

[i heart tinkerbell]

Its all about the kids here, HELLO! His kids are 7 and 10, and were very young 3 and 1, the only time they went.

Marsha

I agree that Disney does seem like it is aimed toward kids.

But if a 14 year old girl can say that it is aimed toward everyone, and that all the people who have "reluctantly" went has had an amazing time, that's what Walt really wanted. So your brother-in-law or (DBIL) has absolute NO excuse.

Some people just aren't opened to disney, me, a converted DISER speaking!
I really wish that my parents would be more like you and be excited about disney EVERY year. You are probably an amazing mom!

Lots of love!


Love,

Chrissy

 

[jonestavern]

For this November trip we started out having to get a GV, now it appears to be down to just the 3 of us!

It's also about making memories isn't it?
DS17 will be off to college & I wanted so much to have a grand gathering. After so much fence sitting on both sides of the family we just said, "Well we need to book within the week, call if you're interested". The silence is deafening!

This time when they are grousing about not having been able to go to WDW with us, we'll know that it's bs.

Perhaps you're BIL turned off because it is a lot of work with young ones. Maybe they couldn't enjoy any adult moments? Research & let him know how many opportunities there are for babysitting & kiddie activites @ WDW.
Can you tell your parents & BIL how important it is to you to create a marvelous family memory for your DS?

Jean

 

[eeyoregon]

DO IT WITH OR WITHOUT YOUR FAMILY!!! I understand exactly what you mean about your 12 year old. My oldest is 13 and is alreay "pulling away" in his quest to define himself and grow up. You can't get those memories or precious times back.

I'm a single Mom and probably have more "responsible" things to be spending my money on, but to me it's more important to make those memories and spend that precious time with my rapidly growing sons. Originally our goal was to make it to WDW every 2 to 3 years...but because we love it SOOOOO much and have such a magical family experience each time, we are down to visiting once a year and are even taking our 1st Disney cruise next week!

Leave the sticks in the mud at home and do what you need to do and make your own special memories!!

 

[torinsmom]

I'm a single mom too and believe me being a teacher, money is tight! But we had the most amazing time when we went in March and I want to add to that in October. Although it is all about the kids, I am one who gets joy out of seeing my son excited and having the time of his life.

I just can't imagine NOT wanting to go to Disney! Especially when they can afford it much more than I can. And if the whole family went, they could easily do some "adult" things while we watched the kids.

So, all my family knows we are going and when and if they choose to sit around and plan a trip to a Paramount park, WHATEVER!

Marsha

 

[clonetothebone]

DO IT WITH OR WITHOUT YOUR FAMILY!!! I understand exactly what you mean about your 12 year old. My oldest is 13 and is alreay "pulling away" in his quest to define himself and grow up. You can't get those memories or precious times back.

I'm a single Mom and probably have more "responsible" things to be spending my money on, but to me it's more important to make those memories and spend that precious time with my rapidly growing sons. Originally our goal was to make it to WDW every 2 to 3 years...but because we love it SOOOOO much and have such a magical family experience each time, we are down to visiting once a year and are even taking our 1st Disney cruise next week!

Leave the sticks in the mud at home and do what you need to do and make your own special memories!!

AMEN!

 

[MickeyT]

Sometimes with Disney it's the old "If I have to explain then you won't understand". Our family pretty much can't understand our desire to keep going back. Their loss / our gain. We just do it.

 

[HappyLawyer]

being a single mom is tough, and i remember when i was a teacher poor poor poor but, here's the thing, we do disney every other year, me, dd and my mom, if my mom did not want to go the year the trip is planned, then i go without her, it is nice to have someone there to support you, give you a break etc, but if not, work it out on your own, i am happy this year my sister and her kids are going, my uncle and his wife from tx are going and m lil sis and her husband are going also, we are meetig in fl and all of them are already saying they will not do it again and it has not happened yet, now if you are worried about being there alone, can i suggest the meet board on the forumn, you will find singles going you can ask when they are going and make some new friends, trust me, it is most certain someone on here will be there the same time as you, will your sister let you take her child, then your parents will go because all the grandchildren are there, i think it is sad they will not go without all the grandchildren, you have no control over your sister, just give them a gentle reminder that your kids, theri grandkids are going and want them there.

 

[torinsmom]

I'm not scared of going alone. Actually, in March, I chose to go alone with my son to have that experience with him. And my BIL would never let "his" kids go without him, not even with their own mother. She told me that herself! I think thats just ridiculous! I just want their kids to have this experience and my son would love to have them there with him.

I will keep on planning. I am thinking of asking some friends to share the pool house I had found for us. Other than that, we on'y have gas/food/souvenirs to save for, since I have 6 days left on our tickets.

Marsha

 

[DisFlan]

I agree with the suggestion to just go with your own family and enjoy your trip. Life is too short to waste time at WDW with people who don't really want to be there!

If your Sis and BIL don't want to go, then they don't want to go. Offer to go with your parents anyway - if they go, fine. If not, have a good trip without them. Don't try to play "vacation police" with your family. It almost never turns out well.


DisFlan

 

[Cruz91]

About 1/2 way through our first trip in March we had already decided to go back - and SOON. When we got home, we showed the in-laws our video. Now we have two trips tentatively planned! In Nov - DW's family will go with us (SIL and kids, MIL & FIL) to celebrate our 9th wedding anniversary and FIL's 60th B-Day. The deal we made is that we'll spend the money we'd ordinarily spend on Christmas gifts for each other on the trip. Try that!

 

[hezreck]

I've been to Disney with just my DH and DD, and also on an all family trip with parents and my brother's family. I can honestly say, I will NEVER do a whole family trip again. We had a much better time on our own, and trying to please everyone never works out. When I'm on vacation, I HATE having to wait for other people to get ready and get to the parks, or having to eat dinner all together. It's such a pain. I say forget the family and go and have a GREAT time with your DH and kids.

 

[Nancyg56]

I agree with the suggestion to just go with your own family and enjoy your trip. Life is too short to waste time at WDW with people who don't really want to be there!

If your Sis and BIL don't want to go, then they don't want to go. Offer to go with your parents anyway - if they go, fine. If not, have a good trip without them. Don't try to play "vacation police" with your family. It almost never turns out well.


DisFlan

If they really don't want to join you, it will be better if they stay home. There is nothing worse than sharing a vacation with people who resent teh monry or time or the place.

I know how you feel about having everyone join you, as we are talking to my oldest son about joining us this year. We would love it if the whole family was together, but in the end, it will be his decision, (I did pull out the big guns and my DH asked him to join us,so maybe I cheated).