Facebook vent....

[Hermosa11]

Facebook can be a good thing.....connecting with long lost co-workers, family, friends, etc.

Facebook can be a cruddy thing.... new way of dis'ing someone: BLOCK them!!!!

my sister and I do not talk to one another. For about 20 yrs now. I decided to look up her son! (I knew his full name, I do not know sister's new last name from latest ex). wow! look at my 29yr nephew! I last remembered him around 9yr! wow. well, I see my sister there! (as his friend) So I make the move and write her a note: simply: "Hi , this is your sister. Hope you are doing good" she just simply blocked me. oh well.

My daughter (24yr) will post so much crap on her FB ! her arguments with husband when they were arguing!! only to get validation from her friends, ya know.. geesh!!!!! and now about family drama".. she just had to say how upset she is about family drama and she is always in the middle...of course
her friends felt all sorry for her....they dont even know the story!!!
I just want to scream!!!!
I just wish she would grow up....and post simple things. talk about what her 3yr daughter has done that was cute!!!!!---I live a few states away and would love to hear things dgd has done!!!

thanks....for allowing me to vent....

 

[CharityLynn]

I kind of know what you mean, my sister has issues in her marriage and every day it would be "We got ina fight today blah blah" then the next day it would be " Oh I love my husband he is great and we'll make it through this" and so on and so on. But when someone commented on one fo her tirades that her daughter and she deserve better than what they were getting she deleted the comment and got rid of the friend. My thought is don't post something you don't want people commenting on.

 

[FireDancer]

I would never post about family drama on my Facebook page.

 

[C.Ann]

Wishful thinking, but I'm hoping that Facebook turns out to be a "flash in the pan" and will either die down or disappear entirely.. Every day I get emails from people requesting me as their "friend" on Facebook - even though everyone knows I have zero interest in being involved with it..

The worst though was when someone I knew from back in my teens was able to track me down through another persons Facebook page and was able to obtain my email address and private phone number from that person.. Grrr..

So many people just don't think before they give out personal information about others.. If I wanted to be in contact with everyone and anyone, I would be on Facebook!!

I know some people really do enjoy it - but they also have to remember that not "everyone" does..

 

[WheresTheLove]

I understand your vent.

I rarely use Facebook, but I understand that it can be used in very good ways, but it can also be misused as a way to create unnecessary drama and to bring everyone else into your personal life. In my experience, a lot of people I know are just looking for attention and people to agree with them / think they're cool. I find that kind of thing SO annoying.

I wish you luck with what you mentioned is going on with your relationship with your sister, etc., and hope that things turn out well for you.

 

[Claudia1]

Yet another way to avoid personal interaction.

I understand fully how many (if not most) people use it in a healthy manner but some use it in a passive aggressive manner or to have mini-relationships.

I am all for texting, IMing, chatting, and especially DISsing but it has changed the way humans communicate.

I agree with the OP. Go for the cute stuff, not the drama with the whole world.

 

[iwrbnd]

I won't put anything on fb that I wouldn't put on a billboard!!

 

[Silent1CB]

I've connected with lots of old high school friends. Today, one of them is posting everything 30 minutes making all kind of rude comments to or about what I take is her ex-DH's current wife, and how the other lady has listed my HS friends kids as her kids on FB. And how her kids KNOW who their mother is and its not ex-DH's current wife.

LOL, hope you followed that because it took me a while to figure out what she was ranting about.

Really, its private stuff. And NONE of us really want to be reading that crap.

I was almost ready to hide her from my wall so I didn't need to see her posts.

 

[Boxley]

But then again this Disboard can be no different from Facebook. How many times have people posted about personal matters and recieved validation? Are you also looking for people to agree with you as well, OP?

 

[iwrbnd]

But then again this Disboard can be no different from Facebook. How many times have people posted about personal matters and recieved validation? Are you also looking for people to agree with you as well, OP?

This disboards are safer to me because nobody knows who you are!

 

[Kim&Chris]

But then again this Disboard can be no different from Facebook. How many times have people posted about personal matters and recieved validation? Are you also looking for people to agree with you as well, OP?

I got the impression that OP was simply looking to vent, blow off some steam, frustration etc. I don't think she was necessarily looking for people to agree or disagree with her.

 

[Boxley]

I got the impression that OP was simply looking to vent, blow off some steam, frustration etc. I don't think she was necessarily looking for people to agree or disagree with her.

Then let's be fair to the OP's daughter. She could be finding a place to vent as well and Facebook may be that outlet.

 

[Kim&Chris]

Then let's be fair to the OP's daughter. She could be finding a place to vent as well and Facebook may be that outlet.

Except that on FB you're not anonymous, and when you make references that involve others, people know exactly who you're talking about. Here, people can hide behind silly names and say whatever, and you'd never know who they are talking about. On FB, nothing's really a secret (in terms of who you're whining about).

 

[Kim&Chris]

I would never post about family drama on my Facebook page.

Amen to that. You'd only be asking for a huge, steaming bowl of trouble.

 

[AshleyW]

Except that on FB you're not anonymous, and when you make references that involve others, people know exactly who you're talking about. Here, people can hide behind silly names and say whatever, and you'd never know who they are talking about. On FB, nothing's really a secret (in terms of who you're whining about).

Right, but the DIS isn't exactly a picture perfect world of anonymity. I know the OP is in Sacramento, I see a picture of her, and I bet if I dig through her posts I could find her name and what she does for a living. In all reality, there could be someone on the DIS who knows the OP's daughter, which makes it no different than a Facebook issue.

I don't really have an opinion either way- just pointing out that the DIS isn't really that much "safer" than Facebook. If people feel the need to put all their business out in public, that's fine with me. They just have to be the ones to live with the possible consequences.

 

[Boxley]

Except that on FB you're not anonymous, and when you make references that involve others, people know exactly who you're talking about. Here, people can hide behind silly names and say whatever, and you'd never know who they are talking about. On FB, nothing's really a secret (in terms of who you're whining about).

The Op's daughter has no problem letting them know who she is but then again Facebook is still her outlet and she still recieves the validation that some posters give when they post their troubles. Just because one person does not hide behind their name and the other person does, doesn't mean that the source of validation is no less important. Sure the Op's daughter is not wise in using the internet as an outlet but then again she is no different then others. She talks about her fights with her husband and people know who she is, but then again her profile is probably only shown amongst friends.

 

[SamRoc]

I know im in the minority here, but i really still like myspace so much better! I tried facebook, but when my mother in law request me as a friend i just had to leave!! Another deciding moment for me to leave facebook was my 2 neightbors were sitting on the couch at their home one night when i was there (it was 2 sisters) and they were facebooking eachother!!
I really like myspace as my dds friends have thier music pages on there, and i can listed to my favorite bands as well as learn about new and up and coming bands.

 

[Becky2005]

I would never post about family drama on my Facebook page.

My FB status are really boring in general but I do keep connected with people I want to catch up on, etc...

Most of my status involve "DD got the part in the play, DS did not", "I am not feeling so well today", "I'm feeling much better & it's sports day at DS school" & stuff like that or frustration with companies like when we ordered 2 bridesmaid dresses, 1 showed up -- the other one was "coming in another box", should be here in a day or 2 which turned to 3 weeks -- with me going how much you want to bet they forgot to order the 2nd dress and were doing some quick covering their rears in those 3 weeks.

Nothing real earth shattering there.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Maybe you should tell her that directly & not on the DIS.

Aren't you doing on this thread the same thing she is doing on FB?

 

[FireDancer]

I won't put anything on fb that I wouldn't put on a billboard!!

This is something I always tell people. There is nothing private on the Internet and once it is out there it is out there forever. Even a fully private profile isn't actually private because it sits on a public server. Breaches happen, mistakes happen, and policy changes happen that make private things public.

If you wouldn't want your mom, boss, perspective boss, or future children to see it don't post it anywhere.

This disboards are safer to me because nobody knows who you are!

Except that on FB you're not anonymous, and when you make references that involve others, people know exactly who you're talking about. Here, people can hide behind silly names and say whatever, and you'd never know who they are talking about. On FB, nothing's really a secret (in terms of who you're whining about).

And that is a whole different set of problems. I never hide behind a screen name, which is why I make sure I have a link to my real life persona in my signature. There are forums I go to where you must provide your real identity to join, and that is shared as part of your information.

I hate when people hide behind anonymity. I am not afraid to have controversial points of view on things but I never hide who I am when I have those views.