Facebook Privacy question

[Belle0101]

I have my settings as "Friends Only" on everything but I'm wondering in a particular instance how private that really is.

Scenario -

I am friends with "Jane". Can "Sue", who I am not a friend with but "Jane" is, see anything on my Wall or posts to "Jane" from me?

I'm thinking the answer is -

"Sue" can't see my anything on my Wall, ever.

"Sue" can see my posts to "Jane's" Wall though.

Is that making sense?

It's a safety issue for me. I just found out that this person has friended quite a few friends of my friends. It may be a coincidence but considering the issue of safety, I can't be too careful.

So I guess it actually goes like this -

I am friends with "Ann"

Who is friends with "Barb"

Who is friends the "Carol"

I need to keep "Carol" from knowing about me.

(BTW - it's actually a guy I dated years ago that was abusive physically, financially and emotionally. He also stalked me for awhile. He's not exactly playing with a full deck.)

Thanks!

 

[Shutterbug]

Are you talking about something like this?

http://smarterware.org/5818/what-private-facebook-information-your-friends-can-publish

 

[bicker]

That link provides a very good summary of what you need to do to make "Friends only" really mean "Friends only".

 

[Belle0101]

Are you talking about something like this?

http://smarterware.org/5818/what-private-facebook-information-your-friends-can-publish

That link provides a very good summary of what you need to do to make "Friends only" really mean "Friends only".

Thank-you both very much!

That is pretty much the sort of thing I was talking about. I thought I was pretty up on the Privacy Settings but I didn't know about the settings the article references. I'm going now to "fix" all of that.

Thanks again, good information!!!

 

[Shutterbug]

OP, using the names in your example.

Lets say you post a photo or status to your profile.

Jane is friends with you so she can "like" your status or comment on it.

Now since Jane and Sue are friends, It WILL show up on Sue's newsfeed that Jane liked or commented on your status or photo.

Now (I think) if you want to keep that from happening you do the following...

Go into your privacy settings, then go into "Apps and Websites" (its on the very bottom)

Then find: "Info accessible through your friends" and then go into edit settings.

Uncheck anything you don't want to be shared through your friends facebook.


When I first started facebook I couldnt understand why I was getting things in my newsfeed about (person A) liking a photo that (person B) posted(including showing the photo) when I was not friends with (Person B)

There is a guy on my friends list that is constantly "liking" every new pic a girl "that he is friends with" posts to her profile. Some of them are quite sexy looking photos.
Now if I click on her name, her profile says its set to friends only as is her photos. Though because of the settings on that one page, I see those photos in my newsfeed cause of my friend "liking" them.

 

[crazelion]

Are you talking about something like this?

http://smarterware.org/5818/what-private-facebook-information-your-friends-can-publish

Thank You Thank You Thank You I start a facebook page get free stuff and I was not sure keep things private.

 

[pandora174]

 

[Fairytale Princess]

If you block him, he won't be able to see that you even have a profile, might not be a bad thing to do. (You won't be able to see his profile either if you do this)

 

[DebbieB]

Also be careful about apps your friends may send you, like causes, hugs, etc. If you click it and then click "allow" or "permit" that opens up your information to the owners of that app. You can delete them using the privacy settings and going into apps, games, websites.

 

[IDoDis]

That link provides a very good summary of what you need to do to make "Friends only" really mean "Friends only".

The directions in that link no longer work because the article is from last April and facebook constantly changes the privacy settings panel every couple of months! If you try to follow the directions in the article, it no longer works.

I've been irked with this same issue and posted about it here a few months ago looking for a solution. Apparently there isn't one, unless something has changed recently.

If anyone knows where the "what friends share about me" link is in the privacy settings, please post how to get to that link. I've searched and scoured the web to find a solution to this breach of privacy and so far have come up empty.

OP, using the names in your example.

Lets say you post a photo or status to your profile.

Jane is friends with you so she can "like" your status or comment on it.

Now since Jane and Sue are friends, It WILL show up on Sue's newsfeed that Jane liked or commented on your status or photo.

Now (I think) if you want to keep that from happening you do the following...

Go into your privacy settings, then go into "Apps and Websites" (its on the very bottom)

Then find: "Info accessible through your friends" and then go into edit settings.

Uncheck anything you don't want to be shared through your friends facebook.

This didn't work for me. When I go to my privacy settings, I do not see a link that says "Apps and Websites" What am I missing???

 

[bicker]

Pull down Account Menu; select Privacy Settings.

On the Choose Your Privacy Settings page, click the "Edit Settings" hotspot under "Apps and Websites".

On the "Apps, Games and Websites" page, click the "Edit Settings" button to the right of "Info accessible through your friends".

 

[ClarabelleCowFan]

I would go in and block that particular person. I did that with a couple of people that I don't want to know that I exist on Facebook. Even though we have mutual friends in common, they can't see a thing about me even if our mutual friend comments on it or likes it since they are blocked.

 

[IDoDis]

Pull down Account Menu; select Privacy Settings.

On the Choose Your Privacy Settings page, click the "Edit Settings" hotspot under "Apps and Websites".

On the "Apps, Games and Websites" page, click the "Edit Settings" button to the right of "Info accessible through your friends".

In that section, the only things I have checked are "Bio" "Birthday" "Hometown" "Current City" and "Education and Work." But, I know that there are things I respond to from other friends' posts that different friends can see who aren't friends with the people I responded to. It's really annoying!!! So it's not this privacy setting that controls that because I don't have anything else checked, but said friend can still see my posts.

 

[bicker]

Are you sure that they're your posts? When you reply to someone else's posts, those aren't your posts - they're replies to someone else's posts, and therefore the visibility is controlled by the person who posted the post. Figure otherwise it would be impossible to follow the trail of the replies, if some people could only see some of the replies.

If on the other hand they are your posts, then report the bug to Facebook. I don't have that problem, and so neither should you.

 

[IDoDis]

Are you sure that they're your posts? When you reply to someone else's posts, those aren't your posts - they're replies to someone else's posts, and therefore the visibility is controlled by the person who posted the post. Figure otherwise it would be impossible to follow the trail of the replies, if some people could only see some of the replies.

If on the other hand they are your posts, then report the bug to Facebook. I don't have that problem, and so neither should you.

It's the same scenario that the OP referenced.

Friend A posts a picture
I leave a comment about the picture or "like" the picture
Friend B who is not friends with Friend A gets this in her newsfeed because she is friends with me.

I have a friend who tells me all the time that she sees things I comment on to friends of mine who are not friends of hers.

 

[bicker]

Friend A's security settings should control who can and cannot see the picture. If not, report it as a bug to Facebook and get them to fix it.

 

[IDoDis]

Friend A's security settings should control who can and cannot see the picture. If not, report it as a bug to Facebook and get them to fix it.

So there is no solution to the OP's (or my) problem because it's all tied to our friends settings. If they have settings not set to "friends only" they can see a lot more than we may want them to see. It is not considered a "bug" to facebook.

It is a breach of privacy though. I always have to think twice before I respond to a post because I never know who might see it, even though they are not friends with the person I'm responding to. It's a well-known irritating problem that facebook refuses to do anything about. These posts show up in the "top news" newsfeed which often has some different posts you can see vs just the "most recent" newsfeed.

ETA: I just clicked over to the "top news" newsfeed and I can see a post that my DD commented on from a picture a friend of hers posted, but I am not friends with this friend of hers. I can still see her friend's status update and what my DD posted because I'm friends with my DD

 

[bicker]

So there is no solution to the OP's (or my) problem because it's all tied to our friends settings.

Their photo; their rules.

It is a breach of privacy though.

No, not at all.

I always have to think twice before I respond to a post because I never know who might see it, even though they are not friends with the person I'm responding to.

Always a good idea, but there is nothing wrong with the situation. It shouldn't work any other way.

It's a well-known irritating problem that facebook refuses to do anything about.

They better not, for reasons such as the one I mentioned earlier. I think you're barking up the wrong tree.

ETA: I just clicked over to the "top news" newsfeed and I can see a post that my DD commented on from a picture a friend of hers posted, but I am not friends with this friend of hers.

What is her security settings though?

 

[Shutterbug]

ETA: I just clicked over to the "top news" newsfeed and I can see a post that my DD commented on from a picture a friend of hers posted, but I am not friends with this friend of hers. I can still see her friend's status update and what my DD posted because I'm friends with my DD

What is her security settings though?

Exactly, the friend of friend needs to go into that page security page and uncheck items.

 

[IDoDis]

What is her security settings though?

My DD's security settings are the same as mine -- everything is set to "friends only." Now DD's friend obviously has her settings at either "friends of friends" or "everyone" which is why I can see DD's comment to her friend on the newsfeed.