Facebook Etiquette

[Saphire]

I am new to Facebook and someone I know 'friended' me that I prefer not to be friends with. How often do you turn down requests, and do people usually get their feelings hurt when requests are ignored? Ugh I don't know if I am going to like this...

 

[kinntj]

I just ignore those I don't wish to be friends with. It's better than friending someone and then unfriending them along the way. With pictures of my kids and other information I put on my facebook page, I just don't let anyone in. I'm a quality, not quantity person.

I've had 1 person ignore me and I'm o.k with it. I thought we were friends, but apparently she would rather not know what's going on in my life. That's o.k., that's life. I have enough friends to keep track of.

I'm sure there will be some people who are more sensitive to rejection, but that's what you face when you try to friend someone on Facebook. They will grow a thick skin eventually.

 

[Disney.Ears]

I turn down requests every so often, & the people never really find out I think.
I don't know what I would say if someone asked me about ignoring their request though :/

 

[hlane]

I'll probably get flamed for this but I recently received a friend request from a very toxic person I work with. I didn't want to make things uncomfortable at work between us so I added her then went under my privacy settings and blocked her from seeing pretty much everything of mine, friends, wall, pix, etc. and the best part is, she has no clue. Problem solved


BTW, I couldnt just ignore it because she kept hounding me, when was I going to accept her add...

 

[CathrynRose]

I've friend'ed people in the middle of the night, so I can be nosey and look through their pictures, and then I unfriend them.

I have no Facebook etiquette.

 

[emer95]

Hlane- ohh...sneaky! I like that idea!

I have friended people that I wish I hadn't. That might be a better option than unfriending them.
I have made myself totally unsearchable, so I can only do the friending.

 

[Kathi OD]

I've friend'ed people in the middle of the night, so I can be nosey and look through their pictures, and then I unfriend them.

I have no Facebook etiquette.

Too funny!!

 

[Gabes_mommy]

I've only not friended one person - an ex boyfriend. He tried to add me 3 times too until I finally blocked him.

One of my closest friends from high school ignored my request. I was shocked - we never had a "falling out" - we just fell out of touch. It really did hurt my feelings especially since she is "friends" with a bunch of people from HS that she never even associated with.

I saw her at the movies last week for the first time since high school and DH and I both ignored her and she ignored us - it was awkward. If it wasn't for FB I would have greeted her excitedly, but I guess she made it clear she wasn't interested in being friends and I took the hint.

OK, so that was a long answer....

 

[RadioNate]

I'll probably get flamed for this but I recently received a friend request from a very toxic person I work with. I didn't want to make things uncomfortable at work between us so I added her then went under my privacy settings and blocked her from seeing pretty much everything of mine, friends, wall, pix, etc. and the best part is, she has no clue. Problem solved


BTW, I couldnt just ignore it because she kept hounding me, when was I going to accept her add...

I do this solution but most I just ignore. 1/2 the time I forget I friended people so I don't notice if they ignore me, lol.

I have one sitting in my inbox that has been there for months. I have no intention of adding him.

I'm not normally offended by people ignoring me. I'm careful about who I friend so being ignored doesn't happen too much.

I only have 2 that were a bit offending. One is my DH's cousin. He is friends with everyone in the family so I have no clue why he didn't accept me. His girlfriend friended me so I think the whole thing is weird rather than truly offensive. The other is a girl I was good friends with in HS. Instead of just ignoring me, she wrote a huge rant about HS and all the people she knew there causing her lifelong damage, etc etc. I think I was more offended that 15 years later she called me and our group toxic human beings than the fact she didn't want to be my FB friend.

 

[DisneyBlonde]

I haven't found it necessary to ignore a Friend invite...you can block certain Friends from seeing your pictures, wall, etc. I don't think it's a big deal. Then again I don't post my every thought like some of my Friends do, lol.

 

[PaddingtonBear]

I just ignored a request from a former co-worker that I didn't really like. I have no problem with doing it... I genuinely just would prefer to only have 'real' friends on FB. My rule of thumb is "If I wouldn't have invited you to my wedding I don't want to friend you on FB".

 

[GeorgiaPeach8]

I teach school so I regularly ignore requests. I don't friend anyone under 18. I've been tempted before to make exceptions for kids I really like or have been close to but I stay firm. I friend them after graduation.

On the topic of Fb protocol...I'd be very careful friending "work friends." A few of my Fb teacher friends have friended a fellow teacher. None of us are wild about this person but several people didn't want to hurt her feelings. To make a long story short, she has turned into "big brother." She printed out one of my co-worker's walls and showed it to our principal. She did this under the guise of giving the new principal the heads up that students might be reading our posts. But like I said, many of us don't friend students.

I think part of joining Fb is a silent committment to keep others information private. It is bad Fb protocol to print out walls you have access to even if they write something they might be slightly questionable.

 

[dismom2]

I'll probably get flamed for this but I recently received a friend request from a very toxic person I work with. I didn't want to make things uncomfortable at work between us so I added her then went under my privacy settings and blocked her from seeing pretty much everything of mine, friends, wall, pix, etc. and the best part is, she has no clue. Problem solved

BTW, I couldnt just ignore it because she kept hounding me, when was I going to accept her add...

But won't somebody notice if they can't see your wall? I think if you do that, they can only see your posts, but won't they notice if they can't see anyone else's posts on there, too? Same with not seeing your friends...won't they notice if your friends are not listed on your page? With pictures, they might think you don't have any posted (unless someone tells the person they can see pictures on your page).

If I didn't want someone on FB I wouldn't want them to see even my posts. Don't they also see the replies (to your posts) from your friends? Then they can see who some of your friends are that way, too, right?

I had to just delete some people, and ignore some requests, then block them, because I do believe people can easily figure out if you've blocked them from seeing certain things. And what if they check out your page from someone else's FB account (for example: if they are at a friend or relatives house who can access your page).

You can also hide certain people's posts, but can't they go to your page and see that their posts are not visible on your page?

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

I don't know the protocol but I won't add someone that I don't know or like. I got one awhile ago and had no idea who it was. I could barely make out the picture. Anyway, it turned out to be one of the checkers at the grocery store we go to. Why would she want to be my friend? I don't even do the shopping. DH does the majority of it. The account is in my name and not his. It was definitely weird.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

I've only ignored one person. My crazy ex-boyfriend. Who years after my marriage to DH was still writing me emails saying I should dump him and go off and have carefree sexual relations with ex. Yeah, I really can't have any contact with this wacko.

 

[ginna74]

I was on twitter and myspace for a milisecond and wasn't impressed and a friend kept saying go on facebook and I always thought it was just like the other 2 so I avoided it. Well... I was wrong! I got myself a facebook and WOW I have found everyone I ever knew on it! Good and BAD lol. It was wierd going on it because I saw people that searched for me. As for etiquette thank gosh I haven't had to ignore anyone

 

[ginna74]

I've friend'ed people in the middle of the night, so I can be nosey and look through their pictures, and then I unfriend them.

I have no Facebook etiquette.

 

[onelilspark]

I have people divided into groups and each group has it's own security. I have basically "real friends." Those are the people who can see everything. Then I have my "ex's" who are on a limited profile so I can see what they're up to, but they can't see mine I have a "work" group" so only pictures I post they can see.

Oh, and I don't accept any friend requests that I don't know the person IRL. And there are people who I don't like and I'm not friends with. So I don't friend them. I ignore it. I honestly didn't want to accept the work requests, because I wanted to keep my private & work life separate, but realized that would look bad if I didn't. So to me, it's better to just keep it limited. IMO, if you don't communicate with that person anyway, go ahead and ignore it. ...And use the groups to your benefit!

 

[PrincessKsMom]

Hope OP doesn't mind me asking a question of others on her thread... once you friend someone, how do you block your others friends from seeing what first friend posts? I friended someone from high school (female) who has taken to posting the raunchiest things. I don't want others I'm friends with to see the stuff she posts. I posts are, in general, on her particular page. Does that mean that others I'm friends with can't see it, or can they? HELP!

 

[ozarkmom]

I've friend'ed people in the middle of the night, so I can be nosey and look through their pictures, and then I unfriend them.

I have no Facebook etiquette.

Ha Ha ha I like your thinking.