Extended Family does not approve

[Dean]

It's been my experience that those that "don't get it" and are willing to say so in such a way to make you feel bad, are willing to bug you in other ways as well. They're just not happy people and want to make everyone else miserable around them. To me, it's a good way to turn the tables on them.

There are many people that don't plan on routine trips to Disney that won't put you down about it. There are also many DVC members that are overly sensitive in this area as well.

 

[diznyfanatic]

I wouldn't say that we were given a hard time by our families, but they definitely didn't get it and questioned the purchase. I didn't get upset at all, answered their questions politely, and told them I would love to see them all enjoy it if possible, but that no matter what, we were going through with the deal because it is what we wanted. They've been very supportive ever since.

I think it was the whole timeshare hurdle for them and not so much a Disney thing. We're a 4th generation Disney family so they definitely understood what that meant to us. They just didn't think it made sense to spend a bunch of money upfront for something that is a prepaid vacation plan rather than actually owning something forever.

Once they realized that while I appreciated their opinion and that we were going to do it anyway, they've been very supportive.

Thank goodness, because I can't wait to show it off and see the look on their faces, as I really do think they will be impressed, just as we were!

 

[TEK224]

I got a few comments from family and friends about my purchase - nothing too harsh, though. I'm taking my mom and 2 sisters for F & W. Neither of my sisters are big Disney fans (Mom has been down with me before).

Of course my one sister's only experience at WDW was in June with mega-crowds.

We're going to do other things instead of all park time (resort hopping, DtD, chillin by the pool, etc). I hope to show my sis's that there is more to WDW than the parks and rides.

Terri

 

[Boston5602]

so yesterday ( tuesday ) I go back to work having been off last week and this being memorial day weekend Tuesday is first time to see co workers. I took the week off to do things around the house . You know mulch the front yard open the pool and things like that . I get to work and EVERYONE is asking me how Disney was they " didn't get " that I stayed home this time !

 

[ro80]

Ha! It's amazing how many people have things in common! We just bought at SSR and haven't told anyone in our family except for our 2 kids (17 & 20) The way I look at it, I have done the Disney "thing" with my kids 4 times since they were small with the last one just 3 weeks ago. I can go when I want to go just to relax or if I want to go the the parks I can do that too whether they want to join us or not. We did it for them. To me, it's an investment for my kids and some day for their kids too. I will be able to enjoy it for a very long time. You make the right decision for you and that's all that matters. It's funny how all families are alike - there's always the ones who have something to say!!!

 

[disworldnum1]

My Dw and I get that same speech all the time.But most of the time it's from relatives who have never been there or who were did it 20 years ago once and hated it.I don't justify my vacation to anyone and I personnally just tell them if they don't have good comments then they can just keep it to themselves.This is usually from people who have vacationed in the same place for the last 10 yeras or so too and think going to the beach is different,and they are right Disney is the place to be for everything from the waterparks to dinning to great parks but most of all GREAT Family memeories that you cant pay for anywhere else.

 

[fkj2]

Those trips to WDW and the flexibility of DVC have made some incredible memories for me. I'd never consider DVC to be a "waste." Somewhat like the Mastercard commercial: those memories are priceless. And I anticipate making more memories in the future, just not with people who share my gene pool.

As far as extended family is concerned, Loving Brother never liked WDW so it's not a problem not EVER inviting him OR his children, who are now adults, to stay in deluxe accommodations without expense to them.

 

[jblb1020]

I am so glad that I am not alone! My parents did not think DVC was a good idea. So since they did not "approve" my husband and I decided to keep "the best kept secret" to ourselves! I love Disney and as you can see from below we ususally go every year. How is DVC not a good idea? My children are 3 and 5 and we plan on returning to Disney every year. I don't care what everyone else thinks, I know that DVC was one of the best purchases I ever made!

 

[MajorDaisy]

My sister thinks I need help w/ my disney addiction, even though she goes to Vegas every year. My mom keeps telling me about the free airline tickets for kids from Alaska to Disney World (she means Land, but says "same difference" when I correct her), oh, & she lives in Alaska not me. My brother keeps telling me his kids don't need to come with us to disney world because they go to six flags all the time. I love them all, but I think they are a hopeless case.

My in-laws, however jumped at the chance to come w/ us this past Jan. (they live accross the street & think they never get to see us). We all had fun, but I realized they did not see it the same way I did. DH, the kids & I are just beaming when we get on the plane to go. We are annoyingly happy the whole time we are there. This trip was a good chance for me to let go of the idea & mission to make sure my family came & experienced the happiness I feel when I am there.

Meanwhile my sister is still trying to locate a self help group for my problem....

 

[bpmorley]

You are not alone. My parents don't like tha we bought into DVC, but it's our money not theirs.

 

[utahkennedys]

My very practical Dad thought we were crazy to buy a timeshare, since he thinks any timeshare is crazy...UNTIL...he went with us to OKW in a 2BR villa and absolutely fell in love with the place! As a kid we always stayed at the Poly. He is a golf nut, and loved playing the courses (they picked him up and dropped him off in a free cab, and one time brought him back in the golf cart right to our villa!). He also loved being on the golf course and sitting on the huge patio in the mornings. I think he ate his words, and when I told him what our "cost" was for this 2BR he just couldn't believe it for an on-site Disney hotel.

I don't care what others think, we LOVE WDW and always will!

 

[brasey]

I had a split in the feelings between the inlaws and my parents . My in-laws thought it was great that we could go with the kids and do all the things a family should be doing. They get what it means for all of us and were genuinely happy for us. My parents and sister on the other hand had a somewhat blank look about themselves when we told them and asked two questions, how much and how long and that was the end of it. This coming from a sister who takes her kids to Maine to walk Llamas for a vacation. Now thats exciting I have to say that most of our friends do get it and were happy for us and if situations were better or different would also probably join. Like most people here say, Hey its our money, time and family and we will do as we please.

 

[wanna-b-Tink]

My very practical Dad thought we were crazy to buy a timeshare, since he thinks any timeshare is crazy...UNTIL...he went with us to OKW in a 2BR villa and absolutely fell in love with the place! As a kid we always stayed at the Poly.

I don't care what others think, we LOVE WDW and always will!

Same here, except we always stayed at the Contemporary growing up (in the 70s and 80s).

My in-laws don't say anything either way about the purchase - they never took family vacations, so they could care less.

My family loves it. Well, mom worries that we spend too much money on it, but she says if we are enjoying time with the family, and we can afford it, its ok. The really great thing this year is that I just booked a place for mom and dad at HHI for a week to celebrate their 40th anniversary. Mom was so worried about it costing us so much, but I assured her that I had "points to burn this year" (which I don't but she doesn't need to know that).

 

[momsgoofy]

My sister thinks I need help w/ my disney addiction, even though she goes to Vegas every year. My mom keeps telling me about the free airline tickets for kids from Alaska to Disney World (she means Land, but says "same difference" when I correct her), oh, & she lives in Alaska not me. My brother keeps telling me his kids don't need to come with us to disney world because they go to six flags all the time. I love them all, but I think they are a hopeless case.

My in-laws, however jumped at the chance to come w/ us this past Jan. (they live accross the street & think they never get to see us). We all had fun, but I realized they did not see it the same way I did. DH, the kids & I are just beaming when we get on the plane to go. We are annoyingly happy the whole time we are there. This trip was a good chance for me to let go of the idea & mission to make sure my family came & experienced the happiness I feel when I am there.

Meanwhile my sister is still trying to locate a self help group for my problem....

MajorDaisy...please tell your sister that she need not continue looking for you...you've already found it here at the DIS DVC boards.

I can't tell ya how many times I've heard negative words about our DVC and we've only been members for a year and half. Well, those same folks grumbled about our repeat trips to WDW before that so what do they know anyway?

When we first became members, I told a lot of folks since I was so thrilled, but it took about 6 months of the looks...sad faces, shaking heads, tsk-tsks from their mouths, that I just shut up about it! Even when they ask now, I don't talk about it anymore simply because they don't get it. I do, however, have great conversations with my fellow Disney freaks here at the DIS and friends I've made through Disney trips. Okay, I do have one sister and niece who absolutely get WDW, but I've not convinced them yet of the wonders of the DVC...hope to when the 3 of us take our trip in July...first time I'm sharing my points outside the immeadiate family.

 

[cobbler]

We haven't told anyone in our family and nor do we plan on it.

My family would have a hard time getting over the "timeshare" thing. And some others just have accepted the fact that we go every year. I think they have given up on the "But there are so many other places to go" spiel.

My hubby's family would be leeches at best- not all but I can pinpoint exactly who would be. Never can get them to go, always an excuse. But if they found out we had it, it would be "so when are you going to treat us to WDW?" or "well you aren't using it right now, can we?" and whatever else blood sucking comment they can think of.

 

[brasey]

I can just feel the love you have for the blood sucking leetches you have for in-laws.

 

[JimMIA]

Lol, we have gotten similar reactions. My sis mentions that we spent that kind of money on DVC. Yet they bought a boat and a camper last year, but that is different!?? How is that? Well Disney you have to buy park tickects and food......

Well sis, the boat takes gas, marina charges you to keep your boat there, and you eat on the boat or Marina too. They same applies to the camper. Last time I checked with them it costs $50 to $100 just in gas everytime they leave the marina!

But they can't understand that in reality the cost of Disney is not much different then thier trips out on the boat and camper.

That's a similar situation to several good friends of mine. When they questioned, I said simply, "This is our boat." They got it then.

Some people play golf, some people hunt, some people travel, some people fish and boat. We Disney.

 

[rinkwide]

My sister thinks I need help w/ my disney addiction, even though she goes to Vegas every year...

Tell her this; "At least when I put my money in the machine and pull the handle I get a squashed souvenir penny back".

 

[Doug Wolfe]

Some people are what I call "professional complainers." They are happiest when they are miserable.

I have neighbors who are very nice. But we stay away from them. Why? Because they complain about EVERYTHING!

I think this is sort of what your extended family does. Lake George is beautiful, but boy they better be in that dump with half of New York & no air conditioning or they're not having a good time.

If you can bear it, I would take them to Disney and force them to suffer through happiness, smiles, laughter and good times. That'll teach them.

 

[Dean]

We haven't told anyone in our family and nor do we plan on it.

My family would have a hard time getting over the "timeshare" thing. And some others just have accepted the fact that we go every year. I think they have given up on the "But there are so many other places to go" spiel.

My hubby's family would be leeches at best- not all but I can pinpoint exactly who would be. Never can get them to go, always an excuse. But if they found out we had it, it would be "so when are you going to treat us to WDW?" or "well you aren't using it right now, can we?" and whatever else blood sucking comment they can think of.

IMO, these type of people are far worse than those that want to put you down because it's "DISNEY". They will welch, invite themselves along and even complain if you don't buy their tickets and meals.