email from step mom in law to be

[PaulaSB12]

This email has gone viral in the UK from a step mom in law to be

It is high time someone explained to you about good manners. Yours are obvious by their absence and I feel sorry for you.

Unfortunately for Freddie, he has fallen in love with you and Freddie being Freddie, I gather it is not easy to reason with him or yet encourage him to consider how he might be able to help you.

It may just be possible to get through to you though. I do hope so.

Your behaviour on your visit to Devon during April was staggering in its uncouthness and lack of grace.

Unfortunately, this was not the first example of bad manners I have experienced from you.

If you want to be accepted by the wider Bourne family I suggest you take some guidance from experts with utmost haste.

There are plenty of finishing schools around. You would be an ideal candidate for the Ladette to Lady television series.

Please, for your own good, for Freddie's sake and for your future involvement with the Bourne family, do something as soon as possible.

Here are a few examples of your lack of manners:

When you are a guest in another's house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat - unless you are positively allergic to something.

You do not remark that you do not have enough food.

You do not start before everyone else.

You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host.

When a guest in another's house, you do not lie in bed until late morning in households that rise early - you fall in line with house norms.

You should never ever insult the family you are about to join at any time and most definitely not in public. I gather you passed this off as a joke but the reaction in the pub was one of shock, not laughter.

I have no idea whether you wrote to thank [your future sister-in-law] for the weekend but you should have hand-written a card to her.

You should have hand-written a card to me. You have never written to thank me when you have stayed at Houndspool.

[Your future sister-in-law] has quite the most exquisite manners of anyone I have ever come across. You would do well to follow her example.

You regularly draw attention to yourself. Perhaps you should ask yourself why.

It is tragic that you have diabetes. However, you aren't the only young person in the world who is a diabetic.

I know quite a few young people who have this condition, one of whom is getting married in June. I have never heard her discuss her condition.

She quietly gets on with it. She doesn't like being diabetic. Who would? You do not need to regale everyone with the details of your condition or use it as an excuse to draw attention to yourself. It is vulgar.

As a diabetic of long standing you must be acutely aware of the need to prepare yourself for extraordinary eventualities, the walk to Mothecombe beach being an example.

You are experienced enough to have prepared yourself appropriately.

No-one gets married in a castle unless they own it. It is brash, celebrity style behaviour.

I understand your parents are unable to contribute very much towards the cost of your wedding. (There is nothing wrong with that except that convention is such that one might presume they would have saved over the years for their daughters' marriages.)

If this is the case, it would be most ladylike and gracious to lower your sights and have a modest wedding as befits both your incomes.

One could be accused of thinking that Heidi Withers must be patting herself on the back for having caught a most eligible young man. I pity Freddie.

http://www.106jack.com/news/quirkies/bourne-ultimatum-mum-in-laws-manners-guide-16021513/

Personally it says a lot about the senders attitude rather than the receivers.

 

[Minnie824]

I'd tell her to shove her note. Seriously, thats crazy.

 

[rwdavis2]

In general, I admire the sender. Although some of the points were a bit much, why should the sender suffer quietly? The older I get the less patience I have with the type of behavior criticized in the email, even from my own kids. Sometime being subtle does not work.

 

[miralys]

That strikes me as highly passive-agressive. We all make mistakes, and it could be this woman does need some refining. But for pity's sake, do it in person. If I got a letter like this from anybody, I would be having words with them in person. In fact, my in-laws are from a different culture, and we had to have sit-down chats often in the beginning. Had I gotten a long-winded note about my perceived transgressions, I would have been offended. Some things should be spoken, not written.

 

[ThreeBeans]

The email is so over the top, impolite and obnoxious, I'm going to guess something like this happened.


The meal was probably a very carb heavy dish (pasta maybe?), with perhaps a small serving of vegetables on the side. The young woman probably left the pasta and took a second helping of vegetables because, ya know, she was hungry.

Then the step-mum bullied her into tears for not eating the pasta dish she slaved over.

Not wanting to cause trouble, the young woman ate the pasta, and subsequently experienced elevated blood sugar and the accompanying exhaustion, weakness, and nausea associated with high BGLs that forced her to lie in bed late the next morning.

When she was finally harassed out of bed, they made her go on a long forced march, when she had just taken an unusual amount of insulin to counteract the pasta dinner.

After a half an hour, she experienced a hypoglycemic reaction, felt ill, and passed out, drawing an 'undue' amount of attention to herself.




Anyone else think I'm more likely right than not?

 

[ThreeBeans]

http://swns.com/the-bourne-supremacy-mother-in-law-branded-miss-fancy-pants-301243.html


Here's an update. This is delightfully trashy

 

[It'sWDW4me]

I'm guessing that step-mom in-law to be's maiden name was Tremaine?

 

[RachaelA]

How do you get on someone for being diabetic and talking about it? I'm sure there was a reason why she brought it!

 

[lovesmurfs]

What made me LOL is that the SMIL2B called MUCH more attention to herself than the DIL2B!

Unreal.

 

[goofy!]

That strikes me as highly passive-agressive. We all make mistakes, and it could be this woman does need some refining. But for pity's sake, do it in person. If I got a letter like this from anybody, I would be having words with them in person. In fact, my in-laws are from a different culture, and we had to have sit-down chats often in the beginning. Had I gotten a long-winded note about my perceived transgressions, I would have been offended. Some things should be spoken, not written.

For more reasons than it is just the right thing to do.

You might just find your future daughter-in-law posting your vitriolic e-mail and having it go viral, allowing the millions of people to read what you have written.

I think future DIL got the last laugh.

And calling attention to yourself? I think Carolyn Bourne, crazy step-mother, went above and beyond in that area.

Now, if only Disney could fashion a new, modern evil-stepmother with Carolyn "Miss Fancy Pants" Bourne as the role model.

 

[DaParkers]

Most points are good points. I don't agree with all, but in general, I don't mind the letter. It is much easier to get all your feelings out through writing than by speaking. Also, the receiver is more likely to read the whole letter whereas they may interrupt, ignore, or walk away from a conversation. I think that society (in general) is so rude and selfish that the things that this woman speaks of seem extreme. They're really just common sense. But, I will reiterate, I DO NOT agree with all points.

 

[Goofyluver]

http://swns.com/the-bourne-supremacy-mother-in-law-branded-miss-fancy-pants-301243.html


Here's an update. This is delightfully trashy

From the article:

Carolyn Bourne, speaking from her home in Dawlish, Devon, said: ”I have nothing to say”.

Now she has nothing to say?



Hopefully Freddie will unplant Mummy from his hind-end, as she apparently feels she should be there permanently, before he married poor Heidi. And I hope they live somewhere far, far away from Mummy.

 

[tomthebarncat]

I actually agree with the letter, and from it's contents it would appear that future DIL, made herself a pain in the bum, and clearly the family doesn't like her. I also think that they clearly have money and feel that FDIL, has hit the jackpot, I was surprised that this was a british woman as my experience with UK'ers is that they are very formal and polite!

 

[thymed]

Sounds like the MIL2b is might be taking lessons from the Real Housewives of NY city Countess LuAnn!!! Where do people get off thinking that they are so much better than others that they can be nasty and dismissive.

She may have so issues with the DIL2B but she certainly didn't handle this very well at all. She does have a long fall from her rather high horse.

 

[rie'smom]

While the future DIL may not have the best manners, Carolyn should realize that if she set a good example, the girl might follow it. By sending the email, she has pretty much assured this won't happen.
In this day and age, I always tell my kids never to send anything in a text or email that they don't want shared.

 

[Sadie22]

As a diabetic who had a recent dinner guest (relative) shout at me that diabetics do not need to eat on any sort of schedule and other uninformed statements, I find the part about the girl's diabetes especially appalling. Family members need to be informed about each others' conditions so they can render appropriate aid when needed. It's a good thing that the DIL2B will likely never be alone with the SMIL2B, as the SMIL2B does not seem interested in learning about hypoglycemia or what to do to assist a victim.

 

[Jeafl]

I think it is interesting that Freddie hasn't shared his point of view. If my mother in law sent something like that to me, I would hope my husband would defend me.

 

[Mama Who]

I think these people deserve each other. The original email was almost as tasteless as dragging a family sqaubble into the media.

These people are Klassy.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I think it is interesting that Freddie hasn't shared his point of view. If my mother in law sent something like that to me, I would hope my husband would defend me.

Amen.....
Only thing that matters here is the husband's (Freddie's) way of handling the situation.

If he is still smothered in his 'Mum's' toxic coatstrings....
Which I would be very surprised if this is not the case.
Heidi just entered her own personal hell.

There are no inlaw problems...
Only marriage problems.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Here are a few examples of your lack of manners:

When you are a guest in another's house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat - unless you are positively allergic to something.

You do not remark that you do not have enough food.

You do not start before everyone else.

You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host.

These comments being fired at somebody who is known to have diabetes and blood sugar issues is no less than evil and frightening!!!!