eHarmony

[Dolce27]

I tried eharmony and hated it. I began to seriously wonder about me with the matches they sent me that supposedly were a match to my personality per the test that I took.

I also hated the number of guys that refused to put a photo up… the ones that did put their photos up were so weird that I was too scared to contact any who didn’t – I figured that they were much worse.

I liked Match.com much better but I wasn't that sucessful with that one either. I don't think that I'm cut out for online dating.

 

[Kurby]

i was on webpersonals then it changed to LavaLife and it's where i met my husband.

i was on for about 4 years on and off - met a bunch of people - mostly good dates but no sparks flying around until i was about to give up and accepted that i prob wasn't going to meet anyone online then dh sent me a message. we exchanged real email addresses a week later and met a couple of weeks after that and haven't been apart since.

i knew about 3 weeks after we met that we were going to be together.

what i liked about that site is that you write your own profile - what you're looking for in a person what you like to do - the more honest the better but you don't want to put too much in either.

you search for people in your city and message back and forth until you find a connection - i don't know what you paid for match but this one you only pay if you start the email conversation. if i remember right - you buy "credits" and use something like 2 for an email and 5 for a 30 minute chat. chat is good if you want to message a bunch of people at the same time to see what happens and then exchange real emails before the end of the 30 minutes but email is good if you are more choosy. but be ready to waste credits no matter what you choose because not everyone is going to respond.

good luck.

 

[daisylove]

I have to chime in and say that a friend of my DH and I joined e-harmony and met and married a great girl. They want to do one of those commercials now. lol

 

[paintnolish]

match.com! See ticker below!

 

[romymichelle21]

No, I, um, left that part out. Do you think that's false advertising?

Well... depends... wouldn't you like to know if one of your matches only had a year to live? You gotta come clean, I think, but when is up to you. Preferably before the wedding. Or your funeral. Which is coming up pretty soon, right?

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

Update: I opened my e-mail this morning and had 10 new matches, 3 of them were actually local. So.... I hope eHarmony will forgive me for trashing them prematurely.

They must have seen that you had an extra ticket for Bristol.

How were your matches? Anyone worth mentioning?

 

[mirthmaiden]

Well... depends... wouldn't you like to know if one of your matches only had a year to live? You gotta come clean, I think, but when is up to you. Preferably before the wedding. Or your funeral. Which is coming up pretty soon, right?

Yeah. Now I'm wondering whether to wear white or black....

They must have seen that you had an extra ticket for Bristol.

No doubt that would be attractive to just about anybody.

How were your matches? Anyone worth mentioning?

I have no comment at this time. Names are being withheld to protect the innocent, and not-so-innocent.

 

[disneydudette1]

I have to chime in. I joined eHarmony and have met some wonderful men...all across the country and locally. Yes, you have to weed out some of them and they will weed you out. I found that those I communicated with via email prior to meeting were more compatable because I got to know their personality a bit first. Anyway, a year ago I met one of their matches who lived 3000 mile away. We're perfect together and I will be moving out there within a couple of months. A wonderful man! We're older...52 & 63, I don't feel the need to get married at this stage in my life (His daughter thinks that at our age it's just companionship that's important ).
Don't give up, nothing happens overnight and at least you aren't out there on display like the other sites. I tried Match and I thought it was like a meat market...heard from a lot of men that were too weird, or only interested in one thing. And that was within the first week. I hid myself after 3 weeks out there! Some have had luck with it though. Maybe it's better if you're younger.

 

[MomNeedsVacay]

Interesting... I just paid an obscene amount of money to join eHarmony. I filled out questionaires until my fingers were numb. When I was all finished, they couldn't find a single match for me in all of North America or Europe. I didn't try Africa or Asia, or Greenland, but I think I may need to expand my horizons.
It's a nice little racket they have going on there.

They told my SIL that they couldn't find anyone for her and she lives in NYC. BTW- My sister in law is very successful and very cute and petite.

 

[mirthmaiden]

They told my SIL that they couldn't find anyone for her and she lives in NYC. BTW- My sister in law is very successful and very cute and petite.

Well, at first I figured it's because I'm so special, and unique, and one-in-a-million. Hah! (and delusional....)

 

[MomNeedsVacay]

Well, at first I figured it's because I'm so special, and unique, and one-in-a-million. Hah! (and delusional....)

She ended up doing something called "Its just Lunch" or something like that and has met a few nice guys...except for the stinker who let her pay for the whole LUNCH!!!!

 

[Mickeyistheman]

I think Eharmony is crap. It is a waste of money and I was very upset because several of the matches were married and or had girlfriends.

I spent over $300 for a year and was really upset about it after all the questions that I had to go through. I mean I am 5'11 tall, they kept sending me men that were 5'5 and 5'6 and also we had nothing in common at all.

I think the process is dumb and it takes too long.

Match.com is alright, but I am curious about the Chemistry.com

I am not your typical female either and I think that might have been why I disliked Eharmony so much.

OT a little bit, several posters on here have said that they but a broader search not just their state where they live. Did you find that to be better in finding someone? I might need to do that as well.

Just an FYI I live in Norther NJ

 

[mirthmaiden]

OT a little bit, several posters on here have said that they but a broader search not just their state where they live. Did you find that to be better in finding someone? I might need to do that as well.

Yes, actually one of the matches I got today lives in Anchorage, AK. He seems great, but dang.... I don't do well with ice and snow

 

[iggbees]

I keep trying to convince DH that we should each go to eHarmony and create "personality profiles" and then see if they will think we are compatible.

It would be reeeealllly funny if they tell us "sorry there are no matches in your area".

He won't do it though. Spoilsport.

i've tried to do the same thing with my boyfriend. men are so not fun.

a friend of mine met her current boyfriend on match.com i think. they've been together for a year now and are talking about moving in together this summer.

 

[amyy]

My boyfriend and I met through match.com. It was his picture of the castle that first hooked me I kept my profile hidden most of the time as I didn't like all the emails from people who wouldn't take no for an answer. I first emailed with someone else quite a bit, met once, had a nice day and that was it.

Oh, I did do eharmony for a day or two. I heard from a guy who was seeing a friend of mine! No kidding. She had met him on there too. We live in a small area so it was easy for me to figure out.

Good luck

 

[Kurby]

Oh, I did do eharmony for a day or two. I heard from a guy who was seeing a friend of mine! No kidding. She had met him on there too. We live in a small area so it was easy for me to figure out.

Good luck

oh my god - i totally forgotten about this guy i dated.

we had been dating for a couple of weeks when my g/f told me about a party down at the beach. well here i thought it was just a couple of girls going so i didn't even think about inviting this guy.

turns out my g/f did.

she too had been dating him for about the same amount of time as i had - and yup we both met him on the same

 

[DISUNC]

go for the younger ones they are easier to train

You mean...Break Down and rebuild!

 

[shellbelle11]

I was on eharmony about 4 years ago. I wasn't thrilled with the matches I was getting, many of them didn't seem to be that close to me, I just all around wasn't a fan. I also found it to be overpriced.
I decided to give Match a try, it took a little bit more weeding but it was successful- DF and I are getting married on Dec 27! I liked feeling like I was more in control of my matches, the price was better. I find though that for as many success stories (me!) there are that many people saying it doesn't work. I was on Match for about 6 months before I met DF.

eharmony I found to be too frustrating!