Duggar Disturbing photo?

[hulagirl87]

So I just read that they had a memorial for the baby that Michelle Duggar miscarried and they had a pamphlet or a picture printed up with a picture of the baby's feet and a quote about how even the smallest feet can make an imprint. I saw the picture but I won't post it here because I don't want to offend anyone. Anyone else think this is disturbing? for some reason it just made me go I understand having a memorial, but the picture was a little too much in my opinion. I'm sure others will differ.

 

[mhsjax]

So I just read that they had a memorial for the baby that Michelle Duggar miscarried and they had a pamphlet or a picture printed up with a picture of the baby's feet and a quote about how even the smallest feet can make an imprint. I saw the picture but I won't post it here because I don't want to offend anyone. Anyone else think this is disturbing? for some reason it just made me go I understand having a memorial, but the picture was a little too much in my opinion. I'm sure others will differ.

I think everyone grieves differently and it is wrong to tell a person how to do it. Also, maybe they did it to remind people that this was a child, some don't think so until a certain month, and that it should be treated as such and not a "clump of cells" waiting to become a child.

 

[luvmy3]

I don't find it disturbing at all.

 

[dngnb8]

I have a picture of my grandson Thomas who died 12/19/2007 invitro at 8 months.

 

[happygirl]

not a big deal at all

 

[tinatark]

So I just read that they had a memorial for the baby that Michelle Duggar miscarried and they had a pamphlet or a picture printed up with a picture of the baby's feet and a quote about how even the smallest feet can make an imprint. I saw the picture but I won't post it here because I don't want to offend anyone. Anyone else think this is disturbing? for some reason it just made me go I understand having a memorial, but the picture was a little too much in my opinion. I'm sure others will differ.

I saw the picture and wasn't offended. It was very tasteful and I think a great tribute to her.

Maybe the photo was a statement ... At 20 weeks, it's a baby - with the pics to prove it. They truly believe in sanctity of life. I understand they held a memorial for their first baby they lost, and that one was a much earlier miscarriage.

 

[Goofyluver]

I differ.

I refrain from making any judgments about how others grieve or mourn. Not my business if it's not my family.

There was a thread not too long ago about a family printing their deceased infant's picture in the obituary held in their newspaper.

If people cherish life as much as they say they do, then we must respect death and individual styles of mourning/grieving as well.

 

[PeterPan09]

I've heard about that kind of thing before, and I really think if you haven't faced the situation yourself it's impossible to say what you would do. IMHO, if it brings the parents comfort during an impossibly tragic moment, then who am I to judge?

 

[Keli]

I'll have to google the pic but I know a couple whose baby died in vitro and they took pics (not just of her feet) and put them in an album that they displayed at the memorial service (and posted on Facebook) and those pics did bother me. But I still felt like whatever made this easier for them to bear was what they should do, I just avoided looking at the pics as much as possible.

 

[Wall-E1]

What I find disturbing are sites like TMZ getting a hold of the pictures and posting them on their website. TMZ then adds that they reached out to the family for a comment, but have not had a response. Does TMZ really think that a family grieving the loss of a baby wants to be bothered by a celebrity rag website sensationalizing their recent tragedy?

 

[gator75]

I guess i understandthem having a mermorial my sister did the same thing , but the picture part i find uncalled for , but then again i usually find alot of things they do uncalled for and disturbing so don't go by me.

 

[sparklynails23]

I've never seen the feet of a fetus at 20 weeks before. It's kind of amazing. They are perfect, just tiny. It makes me reconsider when that clump of cells becomes a baby, because I don't really think it's at conception.

 

[RitaE]

I truly despise nearly everything there is to despise about the Duggers but I have no judgement on how they want to hold a memorial service.

As for TMZ getting the pictures and posting them, I see your point and it is sad if Dugger's didn't release the picture that the vultures know no boundaries.

But when you make your fortune commercializing and exploiting your children and your family uterus - there are predictably bad outcomes. It's unfortunate but when you deliberately set off an avalanche right above your head there is a decent chance you'll end up buried.

 

[roxysmum123]

A friend had a photo of her stillborn baby as her Facebook photo for the better part of a year. Did it "bother" me? A little, but that was due to my own discomfort with death not because I felt it was inappropriate. Everyone grieves in their own way, and if having a photo to remind you that though this child is not with you it was still a person deserving of your love and grief then so be it.

 

[luvmy3]

What I find disturbing are sites like TMZ getting a hold of the pictures and posting them on their website. TMZ then adds that they reached out to the family for a comment, but have not had a response. Does TMZ really think that a family grieving the loss of a baby wants to be bothered by a celebrity rag website sensationalizing their recent tragedy?

The Duggar's created that themselves by putting their life on a reality TV show for money. What TMZ is doing is no different than what the Duggars have done themselves for the past few years, except of course they won't get a paycheck from TMZ.

 

[MrsDuck]

I've heard about that kind of thing before, and I really think if you haven't faced the situation yourself it's impossible to say what you would do. IMHO, if it brings the parents comfort during an impossibly tragic moment, then who am I to judge?

This this this.

 

[stevenpensacola]

...this was a child, some don't think so until a certain month, and that it should be treated as such and not a "clump of cells" waiting to become a child.

Well said. I could not agree more.

 

[cornflake]

What I find disturbing are sites like TMZ getting a hold of the pictures and posting them on their website. TMZ then adds that they reached out to the family for a comment, but have not had a response. Does TMZ really think that a family grieving the loss of a baby wants to be bothered by a celebrity rag website sensationalizing their recent tragedy?

They've released statements to, I believe, People, to the general media, so... yeah, I don't get the sense being bothered by a celebrity rag is the problem, maybe just by one that's not paying them.

I find the name they picked disturbing. That's also true for some of the kids walking around though.

 

[Disney Doll]

I sympathize with them on the loss of their child. I have not seen the picture in question, but I don't really think that tiny baby feet could be that distressing. The people who protest abortion at a nearby women's clinic display pictures far worse than that.

As far as their privacy, or TMZ's actions...while I would like to think that at some point someone would show some common decency and lets these folks grieve, I also agree with the PP who stated that the Duggars have set themselves up for a lack of privacy by allowing the filming of their family. You either want to be a "celebrity" or you don't. With celebrity comes a certain loss of privacy, for both the good things and the bad things.

 

[herdtoDisney]

I thought the pictures were tastefully done. And what a pretty name, I like it.