Don't feel bad...my DS was almost 4 1/2 before he would poop on the toilet! I kept repeating the mantra "he won't go to kindergarten in diapers" over and over! He was trained by 3 1/2 for pee, but refused to do the other on the toilet. We had to use charts and stickers just to get him to sit on the toilet WITH a pullup on for 5 minutes a day. Then we has to progress to cutting small holes in the pullup, until finally the hole was large enough for everything to go into the toilet.

What a process! Not to mention, being a boy with an immature bladder, he wasn't dry at night. I was so afraid to go back to pullups after FINALLY getting rid of them, that I put plastic sheets on his mattress and washed bedding every day for 3 years!! (well we had an extra set to put on, but it has to be washed) DS was traumatized by kidney surgery and all the tests leading up to it when he was 3, so I know this had a lot to do with it. I know that DS is not the norm, but I like reassuring parents that it will happen,

Don't worry, DH and I tell EVERYONE that asks us for parenting advice that we'll got A++'s for sleeping kiddos, but FAILED potty training big time!
Funny story about training, we tried to take DS's pullup away because he would go get one when he needed to "go". So, I hid them trying to get him to use the toilet. Well, our house was for sale and was shown that day....I went upstairs when I got home from work and found a large pile of ......on DS's floor.

I just kept hoping they thought we had a large dog!
Kim