DS best friend moving away. help!

[disneymouse]

my DS6 has a best friend that lives next door. they have been friends since we moved in the neighborhood 3 years ago. now they have sold the house and are moving tomorrow to GA. we have meant the new neighbors and their kids are on the young side the oldest being 4.
i'm dreading when they actually move tomorrow..has anyone else been thru the 'best friend ever moving away' thing with their child yet?

 

[Evil Queen]

my DS6 has a best friend that lives next door. they have been friends since we moved in the neighborhood 3 years ago. now they have sold the house and are moving tomorrow to GA. we have meant the new neighbors and their kids are on the young side the oldest being 4.
i'm dreading when they actually move tomorrow..has anyone else been thru the 'best friend ever moving away' thing with their child yet?

Some what. We don't have many kids in our neighborhood, but last summer, DS10 met two new friends that moved onto our street, both his age, grade, likes and dislikes. I was thrilled. This spring, they both moved within a week of each other. He was bummed. I was glad one family moved, but neither family moved too far.

One friend (the one who's family I like) only moved about 15 minutes away, and he's here nearly every weekend. So yes, I understand about it on a weekday basis, but not weekends.

If they play well together the 4 year old and your DS may get along for short periods, maybe longer as they get older. My DS plays with a few of the younger kids on the street, but only now and then.

 

[CJRN]

Yes, this happened to us. My son's friend lived a few houses away, and we were neighbors for a bit over 3 yrs. I actually met the mom first, and we became like each other's "2nd mom" to our kids. It was nice to know if I wan't around, or she wasn't, that the kids had a house to go to after school. Our boys also went to preschool together for 2 yrs (we car pooled), and also were in a playgroup once a week too.

We were crushed when they moved from CT to Florida. We even flew down for a visit the first summer after they moved. Yes, it was tough, but as my son started school, he made new friends. It's now been 6yrs, and I still miss them, but my son has moved on.

Hugs, and best of luck!

(we're actually contemplating moving our family out of the only place we have ever lived CT, and relocate to South Carolina, harder now because our kids are now 11 & 14yrs).

 

[daisyduck123]

Yes, we've been thru it. DD11's best friend moved out of state about 2 years ago. We still see them 2 or 3 times a year. She cried at first, but she's young....she got over it.

BTW...I cried too. The best friend's mother, was one of my best friends too.

 

[disneymouse]

thanks for the replies. but i even hate goodbyes so i can imagine what it's like for a 6 year old. i guess this all part of growing up.

 

[PixiePop]

Yes, it happend to my son last year, he was 5. It was a hard time, she did come back and visit once. It is hard knowing that your child is going to be upset about something that you really can't control. Good luck.

 

[AmazingGrace]

We're always on the flip side of that. Josh is always the best friend that moves away. It's really hard whether you're moving or the friend is.

 

[mylilnikita]

DD's best friend moved to Hawaii-oh yea going next year to visit-they have known each other essentially half of their lives. The last day was awful! They were at a hotel and we spent time with them, then it was time to leave, DD cried hysterically and I had to carry her out. We keep in touch and plan to go out there next year. She has other friends, but DD and Maxx were joined at the hip it seemed like. Maxx's younger sister who is now 3 has to call if she wants her RiRi, what she called DD or she gets into cryng fits.

 

[golfgal]

We are the friends that are moving away. We have been here for 8 years and the kids have been friends with the friends they will be leave about that long. It is really hard. Some people we will see again and others we won't. I said good-bye to teachers/staff at school today and that was hard on me. I am sure there will be tears on the way home from school tomorrow (their last day). We aren't moving for 3 weeks, but summer is busy and we won't be around much. Our kids are older and with IM available they will be able to chat with their old friends but it will never be the same.

 

[disneymouse]

wow..i know it's going to be hard. we plan to visit and also use the computer to keep in contact but it's not the same as living next door. plus we have the whole summer ahead of us so i have to be creative with him with things and activites to do so he won't dwell on the fact that his friend is gone.