Dont know if I can go

[crabbie1]

I think im jinxed at the moment. As most probably know David who was my boyfriend for 4 years whom I bought dvc with Ended his life on the 27th July. It has been a real shock and big upset for me. It has made me very ill with my nerves. My ex hubby has kindly offered to come as my moms not well BUT I dont know if I can go to a place I had such happy times with a man I adored.
I dont suppose VA would change my dates either. I just think its too soon but on the other hand my DD has been through so much as well.

 

[RDP]

Take DD and go. Get some sunshine, re live the happy times and spoil DD and yourself rotten.

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[joolz1910]

It doesn't matter where you are - you are going to be surrounded by memories. Perhaps you could ask your DD if she would like to go? Getting away from everything might help you both.

 

[KayTom]

I am so sorry, you poor thing.

I think it would be best for you and your daughter to go. A change of scenery, something to look forward to and be excited about. Some mother daughter bonding would be great for both of you.

As a PP said, memories will be everywhere. I know it's early but try and remember the good times. It could be healing for you both.

How old is your daughter? If she is very young and you are feeling like you don't want to be alone, i could understand wanting to bring your ex or a good friend to keep you company in the evenings xx

 

[T1gger]

I am so sorry - and what a hard decision this must be for you

I agree with the previous posters about speaking to your DD, and also about using the time there (if you go) to revisit the happy memories you have and maybe a time for you & DD to speak and remember.

That said though if it is too soon for you to do that then don't beat yourself up, it will come in time. Grief is a very personal journey and there are no rights and wrongs - just do in your heart what feels right to you. And if Disney isn't right at the moment maybe you & DD could take some time away somewhere else to be together for a bit. And if you decide it is right for you then go, and remember and laugh and cry.

Whatever you do, take care of yourself x

 

[flortlebap]

I think im jinxed at the moment. As most probably know David who was my boyfriend for 4 years whom I bought dvc with Ended his life on the 27th July. It has been a real shock and big upset for me. It has made me very ill with my nerves. My ex hubby has kindly offered to come as my moms not well BUT I dont know if I can go to a place I had such happy times with a man I adored.
I dont suppose VA would change my dates either. I just think its too soon but on the other hand my DD has been through so much as well.

If you can provide a death certificate, they ought to change the dates.

It's not easy taking a trip like that in the circumstances. I did it 6 weeks after losing someone very close, and I was a nervous wreck. If you're sure, then go - but my advice, with the benefit of hindsight, is put it off until you're ready. Only you can know when's best.

I am very sorry for your loss.

 

[Vixster]

I'm sorry to hear your sad news when are you planning to go to Disney? I would go to have a relaxing time and your daughter needs it to when my husbands dad passed away thing were very hard at first and at 6 weeks after we went away to caravan that we had booked and it helped so much with being around the kids all day

 

[crabbie1]

After much deliberation we have decided to cancel our September trip. I had a long discussion with VA today whom I had booked the flights with and they have agreed to let us change the dates as long as we go before June 30th 2013. As long as I provide the death certificate they will also give a full refund.
I was very happy with the service as was expected to be told we would loose the money but this was not the case. I have till the 18th to choose more dates and obviously just pay the difference in price if dearer.
I have been given a case number fax number and extension of the lady I spoke to. As I do not have the death certificate yet due to the nature of Davids death I may have to plump for the rearrangement. Will prob look at April or early may next year.
I am just so glad we have not lost £1650.
Something has gone right for once(well hopefully)
Thankyou for all your support in over this very difficult time.

 

[joolz1910]

Glad to hear it has been sorted.

 

[T1gger]

So glad to hear that VA have been really good about cancelling/changing dates x

 

[VailaTigger]

Nothing to add really - other than sending you LOTS of love and hugs at this very difficult time.

 

[amacspad]

Me too, so so sorry

Debs x