Don't Hug Me...

[pfishgirl]

I may just burst into tears and drown us both

Needeless to say I have been under some stress lately and for 2 days now, I'm crying at the drop of a hat.. Last night, I cried because I forgot to add 2 dishes to the dishwasher before I locked and started it..

1st. DS's friend has been living with us since Black Friday when his Mom & Step Father tossed him out..

2nd. DH has been snoring up a storm, in my ear ALL night long so I'm not getting any restful sleep for the past 2 weeks.. He FINALLY agreed to wear a nose strip in hopes that it will help me get some sleep tonight..

3rd. My good friend, confided in me that she wants a divorce before things get too out of hand. Her hubby is drinking alot, not explaining why, cheating on her *again*, verbally abusing her and she is down to her wits end..

4th. My BFF of 12 years is having a really really hard time for Christmas. Her Grandmother passed away recently and no one is in the modd for a celebration

5th. This economy REALLY stinks and I'm loosing my Christmas Spirit fast.. I decorated the tree and the house and still nothing..

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

S'okay. I can swim.

 

[Spinning]

I wish I could help that is a lot to deal with....but I must say you probably have more spirit than most...taking in your son's friend is a very amazing and kind thing to do. You will be making an impact on his life!

Also your friend must feel very comfortable with you and regards you very close to confide in you....
and for the snore...try this....make him use a nose strip. then you get some vick's save and rub a ton on your feet put socks on.......sounds odd...I know but my friend tried it because she had a cold and someone said this would help the cough...it did a little but she said as soon as she got into bed he stopped snoring....so then I tried it...yup same thing! No clue if I was just so desperate I believed it really worked......

Hope you get some rest and find some Christmas spirit!

 

[John Smith1]

Things to smile about...

1. You were a refuge for your son's friend.

2. If snoring is the worse you can say about your DH, consider yourself blessed!

3. You're a shoulder for your friend.

4. You have another shoulder for your BFF.

5. Money and things should not define the season. Love should.

Sounds to me like you're a blessing for lots of other people. I'd pat myself on the back!!

And since I don't mind swimming a bit... here...

 

[Graeme]

Things to smile about...

1. You were a refuge for your son's friend.

2. If snoring is the worse you can say about your DH, consider yourself blessed!

3. You're a shoulder for your friend.

4. You have another shoulder for your BFF.

5. Money and things should not define the season. Love should.

Sounds to me like you're a blessing for lots of other people. I'd pat myself on the back!!

And since I don't mind swimming a bit... here...

All what he said!!

 

[pfishgirl]

Seeeee I knew I'd cry.. Teary Eyes as I type..
But, Thank You, all of your kinds words are highly appreciated..

 

[karynnix]

Cry away...I'll wait.


Problem #1- You are being a great person for taking this boy in. You are there to make sure that he is okay when apparently no one else cares. Don't discount what you are doing...not many people would do that.

Problem #2- Earplugs...that's the only way I get ANY sleep at night.

Problem#3- What a good friend you are that she would come to you! Offer her as much support as you can, but realize that you have your own life and problems...she needs to take the reins and take care of herself. You can't do that for her.

Problem#4- It sounds like you and your friend need a day off together. I know that's easier said than done, though. You'll find Christmas soon.

Not all Christmases are happy and joyful. I had one Christmas when my DH was in the Middle East that I did NO decorating. Take a year off if you need to! It's okay! Christmas will forgive you!

 

[Handbag Lady]

My husband snores a lot too.


I wear earplugs and the ringing in my ears have subsided. It was a problem at first, because I can't hear the alarm. I made my DH wake me since he refuses to go to the doctor about his snoring.


Seriously, this could be why everything else is all wacky. No sleep, and I mean no steady peacefull sleep for days on end WILL do that to you.

We're all swimmers, here.

 

[pfishgirl]

and for the snore...try this....make him use a nose strip. then you get some vick's save and rub a ton on your feet put socks on.......sounds odd...I know but my friend tried it because she had a cold and someone said this would help the cough...it did a little but she said as soon as she got into bed he stopped snoring....so then I tried it...yup same thing! No clue if I was just so desperate I believed it really worked...

I bought him Breathe Right strips yesterday but last night he was too tired and forgot to stick one on..

Vicks? on MY feet? even though he is the one that snores? it sounds a little odd, but at this point, I will try anything..

 

[pfishgirl]

I did think about ear plugs, when the cotton balls didn't help.. But as you said, I was afraid I wouldn't hear the alarm or an emergency if something should happen

 

[Handbag Lady]

I bought him Breathe Right strips yesterday but last night he was too tired and forgot to stick one on..

Vicks? on MY feet? even though he is the one that snores? it sounds a little odd, but at this point, I will try anything..

This is now the third time I've heard this. And yes, they all say to put it on the feet of the non-snorer. I'm still skeptical, you go first.

If anything, it might cheer you up some?

 

[Handbag Lady]

I did think about ear plugs, when the cotton balls didn't help.. But as you said, I was afraid I wouldn't hear the alarm or an emergency if something should happen

You're going to think I'm crazy....I started using ONE earplug in the ear that faces DH the most during our sleep. When that ear stopped ringing so much, I knew I was on to something.

 

[doxdogy]

Believe it or not you do have the Christmas spirit in you. Your opened your home to a young man in need of help. For the first time (probably his entire life) the young man he is living with a real family. Two adults that want NOTHING from him. But are willing to give him to what he needs right now. So you see, when you took this young man into your home, you were LIVING the Christmas spirit.

 

[pfishgirl]

This is now the third time I've heard this. And yes, they all say to put it on the feet of the non-snorer. I'm still skeptical, you go first.

If anything, it might cheer you up some?

I will do it tonight and let you know Hey! At least my feet will get a good night's rest.. A minty spa treatment, let's hope they don't snore

 

[karynnix]

My husband snores a lot too.


I wear earplugs and the ringing in my ears have subsided. It was a problem at first, because I can't hear the alarm. I made my DH wake me since he refuses to go to the doctor about his snoring.

That's what I'm screaming...if he is going to snore all night, HE is the one that has to turn off the alarm and wake me up in the morning. Seriously, though, if he is snoring, he shouldn't be in a very deep sleep, so he should be able to wake up in an emergency. I don't put my earplugs in to fall asleep, but if I am woken up in the middle of the night, I'll pop them in. Then I usually take them out if I wake up before the alarm goes off. Any little bit of sleep is better than nothing!!

 

[pfishgirl]

You're going to think I'm crazy....I started using ONE earplug in the ear that faces DH the most during our sleep. When that ear stopped ringing so much, I knew I was on to something.

Yes, it seems like as soon as I get comfortable, he rolls over and snores away on top of my ear I will try the 1 plug, the vicks feet and stick a strip on his nose when he's sleeping if he doesn't try one tonight..

 

[Handbag Lady]

I will do it tonight and let you know Hey! At least my feet will get a good night's rest.. A minty spa treatment, let's hope they don't snore

And bless you for taking in that boy. You'll be rewarded five times over, although I'm sure that's not why you did it. Has he had nice Christmases before?

 

[jax677]

My husband is an avid snorer too. What was worse was when our beagle, poor baby is gone now, would sleep under the bed and snore. Husband would snore, then doggie would snore. Grrrrrr!!!!! I have a friend who's husband snored and drove her nuts, then he had a heart attack, survived and she said it is now music to her ears. I think thats sweet but I just can't imagine it not bothering me.
Our rule is I go to bed first and then he does. But, and this is a big but, by 3 or 4 am his snoring wakes me up. I just get up and go on the couch. He is going to the doc next month for a check up and he is going to ask about his snoring.

What you are doing for your friends is amazing. They are struggling and you are there to pick them up. They couldn't have a better friend. As for the xmas spirit, I too am having trouble finding it. So no advice there. Take care.

 

[karynnix]

Yes, it seems like as soon as I get comfortable, he rolls over and snores away on top of my ear I will try the 1 plug, the vicks feet and stick a strip on his nose when he's sleeping if he doesn't try one tonight..

Well, if you are going to be wearing all of that, you may as well add a couple of Santa hats and string up some lights in the bedroom! That should help with the Christmas spirit!

 

[LotsOfQuestions]

Things to smile about...

1. You were a refuge for your son's friend.

2. If snoring is the worse you can say about your DH, consider yourself blessed!

3. You're a shoulder for your friend.

4. You have another shoulder for your BFF.

5. Money and things should not define the season. Love should.

Sounds to me like you're a blessing for lots of other people. I'd pat myself on the back!!

And since I don't mind swimming a bit... here...

what he said

You sound amazing to be such comfort to so many people. What a Christmas present you have given to them.

Now you need to take care of yourself. Treat yourself to some pampering - perhaps take your BFF for a massage.

(and perhaps a home pregnancy test?)