Doesn't ANYONE feel a $$$/guilt crunch???

[KimRaye]

Besides me. I keep chugging along with planning but, the guilt and $$ issues just bother me. I haven't paid for anything except MVMCP tic for 12/3 and, I keep 'shopping' for airfare, passes, etc. And, the convention itself! All of it, yet to be paid for. I'm not saying I won't be there (Dec99!) but, I need some help on getting over the financial and personal guilt I'm having. My kids will be almost 15 and almost 5 when I go/return. I know DS will be fine whatever he decides upon (on where to stay while I'm gone-he can stay home or, go with his Dad) and, DD will be fine at my parents while I'm gone & DH works but, I WORRY about having fun so far from home and, being out of touch.

Any thoughts?

 

[Fantasia Sam]

Kim - I certainly feel a little of the $$ guilt - I'm selling a property at the moment as I have moved in with my boyfriend and I know I'm gonna make a profit on the property but I also know I should really be investing that money as I don't have my own assets any longer but then I figured that I'd had a rough ride recently (divorce etc) so thought I deserved it. I don't have kids so I don't have that sort of guilt but can understand how you must feel but it sounds as if the arrangements are pretty sorted and everyone seems happy enough about them. Also you know you're not going to be totally out of touch you can call them every day.

My other half thinks it's going to be a lot of hard work, this DISCon thing, and even though he loves WDW he doesn't think there is anything to envy...so I've decided not to try and disuade him on this except to keep asking him to come but he doesn't want to use his holiday allowance.. that's the only thing keeping him away.

At the end of the day, Kim, you wouldn't be true to your DH or kids unless you felt a little twang of guilt and I think that "Mum" deserves a little fun on her own

 

[kejoda]

Kim you worry to much dear.

I was actually thinking about the boys yesterday and how hard it will be away from them. Right now my plan is to get them a gift bag for when I'm leaving so they can be entertained the day i leave. Kevin loves treasure hunts so I will do it that way. And of course the postcards in the mail and maybe a packege sent from DW. I know that there is nothing that can replace you but you can prepare a surpise every day for Kelly to look forward to.

Its the money issues that will be my downfall.

 

[bashful64]

I know how you feel Kim. I am travelling solo for the first time. I am not sure how I will do without seeing the kids (2, 6 and 8) for 10 days. I am so used to having them around me 24/7 (especially the little one). I can just imagine what my phone bill is going to be like that month! As for he money I feel kind of guilty that I am spending so much money on somethig that is just for me and have second thoughts quite a bit. Luckily my DH is very supportive and that helps. I just have to keep thinking that I deserve a vacation!

 

[tammyh-oregon]

Well, since I don't have kids I don't have any quilt there. However, we have 4 dogs 2 of them will be or are going on 14 years old. We are going to Hawaii in October and then 3 weeks in Nov/Dec for DISCON and they are going to my Mom's (bless her)
I am so scared that something will happen while we are gone but I have to be brave and hope for the best.

As for the money ???. We are staying at the Hilton with free breakfast, snacks, etc every day then the swan for discon and a great rate at the Poly Conceirge for free breakfast, snacks etc. Earning gift certs online to pay for dinners out, earning webcertificates online to pay for MVMCP tickets and CP, Change in the jar and we will be shaving corners every where else and selling on ebay to make spending money. We share our meals and eat the appetizers for entrees to cut corners. But the crunch is there.

However, I have been unable to work for the last year due to disabilities and have finally been given my 100% disabled rating. (Yeah) we need a vacation and why not WDW and DISCON with a bunch of friends.

And please don't flame me for this. I think parents need vacations away from their kids and spouses need vacations away from their spouses every once in a while just to keep their sanity so go for it.

 

[Pixie Power!]

I think the guilt thing got to me alot this week as you may already know from my posts. Im very lucky that my DH is very supportive of me attending, he doesnt fully understand the dis thing but he accepts that it makes me happy and that can only be a good thing. The $$ side of things or should i say the ££ side of things worries me a little as there are so many other ways my discon funds could be spent. But as my DH said, ive had a really rough 2 years and deserve a little 'Emma' time.

Today he has even offered to pay for my room as it looks like Robin won't be able to attend, but that story is for another day.

I dont have children so there isnt a problem there, i will just miss Matt. Ive only ever been to WDW with him and it will be strange to walk up main st without him but hey, this is Emma time, I can have lots of Emma & Matty moments over the years to come.

So people dont feel guilty for ejoying yourself, life is for living



Emma

 

[Pumbaa_]

Anytime I feel a twinge, I take two aspirin and surf the DIS until it goes away

I feel very fortunate. My DH does not truly understand my obsession, but is fine with me going. Luckily I work and have a good job. We are also DINKs and that makes it easier.

Just remember, this is a special event, you will have a great time, and make new friends for life. It IS worth it, and when you go home, tired, exhausted, and filled to the brim with good feelings, you will be happy you went!