Does she have a crush on me?

[Jennasis]

I'm usually pretty good at figuring out when I'm being hit on, but this is a little different. I don't think I've ever been hit on by another woman before. There is a woman who I know...haven't really known her long enough or well enough to call her a friend but we are friendly. She has joined up with a group that I am a part of AFTER meeting me. She constantly gushes to me about how awesome I am (don't get me wrong...I AM awesome ) and often looks for excuses to throw an arm around me or to give me quick "thanks-hug". Anytime we are talking to a group of people, she plants herself next to me. She is married and has children. But nearly right from the moment I met her she has been a cloying, clinging fixture. I tried to play it off that maybe she doesn't have many adult female friends and is happy to have some "girl" time.

But she also does something else which I find very very odd and telling...I think she fishes for signs from me . Almost EVERYTIME she's around me, she she finds a way to work into the conversation a bizarre (and always inappropriate) crack about homosexuality :. She then immediately looks at me quick (gauging my reaction) and then ALWAYS immediately apologizes for "(nervous laugh) i'm just kidding..."

So is this lady just really friendly, a crazy person, or a total closet case trying to see if I'm taking the bait??? I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOooooooooo not taking the bait. I am not a lesbian or bisexual. I'm happily married. I get the same vibe from her that I get when a guy is hitting on me.

 

[NJDad18]

If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck...it's a duck

 

[SwedishMeatball]

Well that's a lot more subtle than what I got. The Kindergarten teacher started telling me while we had playground duty that she was having dreams about us showering together. The first time I laughed, but the next time she touched my arm and giggled and I became very confused. A year later she left her husband and moved in with another woman. I wouldn't be surprised if she is dropping hints and looking for a reaction, so just be sure to send the exact message that you want her to get.

 

[Kim&Chris]

Sounds like a girl-crush to me.

 

[Jennasis]

Oh dear. I was hoping I was over-reacting. DH thinks it's kind of funny. But every chance I get to, I mention DH and how wonderful he is and all the awesome things we do together. I don't know how else to get the point acros without hurting her feelings: "Listen chick...I so don't swing that way! Back off!"????????

 

[Cantw8]

yep, she wants ya baaaaaad

 

[Duckfan-in-Chicago]

It's hard for me to judge what's going on from a few words on a screen. Perhaps you can provide a video of your interaction on you tube or something so we can better gauge what's going on?

 

[gypsydoodlebug]

If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck...it's a duck

She sure SOUNDS like she's a quackin' ..

 

[Jennasis]

Oh you would SO like that wouldn't you. Perhaps I could sell tickets to the next group meeting we have and you can watch and see?

 

[rie'smom]

One of my friends is a lesbian. Her SO died. A few months later,she calls me and tells me that she has a new lover. The new woman was engaged and due to get married in about 5 weeks. That didn't happen. Sometimes, it takes the right woman,or man,for someone to realize what their sexual orientation is.
Jenn, it's hard to be in your position but eventually,she'll move on. The woman is quacking loud and clear.

 

[lovemygoofy]

Why not just tell her you aren't interested? Oddly enough during deployments I see alot of women switch teams and I've told many that I'm not interested. Just be honest, I'm sure it would be refreshing than trying to dance around it.

 

[Jennasis]

It just seems so awkward. I wish she'd just ask me if I was interested or even just ask me out so I could just politely decline and explain my I have no intention of switching teams. I will have to mention something to our group leader though I think, because she will likely be attending an event with us this summer that will require a whole weekend away and I do not want to share a room with her (and I KNOW the group leader is already planning it).

 

[DISUNC]

Jennasis has a girrrrrrrrrrrlfriend!
Jennasis has a girrrrrrrrrrrrlfriend!

She you
She wants to Marry you!


Couldn't resist that!

 

[SwedishMeatball]

Jennasis has a girrrrrrrrrrrlfriend!
Jennasis has a girrrrrrrrrrrrlfriend!

She you
She wants to Marry you!


Couldn't resist that!

You're evil.

 

[Christine]

I think what's odd about this (and also in Tina's case) is that is seems to be perfectly "acceptable" to cheat on your spouse as long as it's a same-sex thing.

 

[lovemygoofy]

I think what's odd about this (and also in Tina's case) is that is seems to be perfectly "acceptable" to cheat on your spouse as long as it's a same-sex thing.

lol have to pull my name in huh. Let's clarify that I'm not switching teams during the deployments I know in the case here, the wives don't consider it cheating and supposedly it's an "arrangement" between the couple. Matt and I also have an arrangement, our zippers stay zipped.

 

[Duckfan-in-Chicago]

Jennasis has a girrrrrrrrrrrlfriend!
Jennasis has a girrrrrrrrrrrrlfriend!

She you
She wants to Marry you!

Allegedly. You have to use the correct smilies or say allegedly or you can get sued. It's legal stuff.

 

[coles1mom]

The way I dealt with it is the same way I handle a man coming on to me. The sex of the person makes no difference when you gotta tell them sorry I don't cheat cause I love my spouse too much.
Judi

 

[Christine]

lol have to pull my name in huh. Let's clarify that I'm not switching teams during the deployments I know in the case here, the wives don't consider it cheating and supposedly it's an "arrangement" between the couple. Matt and I also have an arrangement, our zippers stay zipped.

Yeah, I *knew* you weren't switching teams. I guess it just struck me in that the OP's post, this woman who is hitting on her is apparently married as is the OP but that seems to not be a big deal.

And then YOU tell me that some of the women whose husbands are deployed are interested in "switching teams" during the deployment.


I just think that cheating is cheating but didn't realize that there were these shades of gray!

 

[Cantw8]

Jennasis has a girrrrrrrrrrrlfriend!
Jennasis has a girrrrrrrrrrrrlfriend!

She you
She wants to Marry you!


Couldn't resist that!

Oh that's mature