It sounds to me that some IT people need some Disney training.
IT person with extensive Disney training here.
And WOW, I'm shocked at the bashing of our field in this thread.
Sure, I've known IT people who didn't have the best people skills. Out of my daughter's 4 doctors, only one of them has any people skills. I work with lots of people in many professions and I'd say they are batting about 10% in having realy solid customer service and communication skills.
And just like any field, we get a lot of garbage thrown at us every day.
I understand that people are vague when discussing their computer problems because they aren't fluent in geek-talk and are often afraid of ridicule for using the wrong terminology (yes, people do that) or not understanding what they are being told. It's the root of the IT-person/end user breakdown. BUT, some mask this discomfort with rudeness or anger or just plain disrespectful behavior.
Not all, of course, but some.
I ran an IT help desk with the primary focus on customer service for many years. The crazy stories the team would share with each other were sometimes amusing, sometimes distressing. I have been screamed at because a woman came into work to find all of her computers AND her server down but when asked if the electricity in her building was on (this was during a city-wide power outage during an ice storm), she became angry and hung up on me (yes, her power was out).
I had one end user that insisted that I send someone to her office immediately because her PC had a virus and she had very important work to do for her boss and she threw a total fit until I agreed (we're a help desk - onsite work was not our thing). My guy got there to find her PC off and she told him that she was afraid to touch it to turn it on. Why, he asked? Well, because she heard about the Anthrax mail scare and she wasn't about to touch it until someone made sure Anthrax hadn't been emailed to her. Funny, yes, but she was very rude to my tech and there were many others who had to wait becuase he had to go onsite to address the problem. If she had been willing to explain to problem, we could have easily addressed it over the phone.
There are lots of great IT people out there who LOVE to help people. Many of us were drawn to the field so we COULD feel like we were helping. If you encounter a bad one (or two), please don't classify us all that way.