Does anyone take separate vacations from their spouse?

[jimmalru80]

I really have no desire to go anywhere on vacation without my wife.

 

[lulugirl]

Dh can't always get off of work, so sometimes I just pack up DD (4.5 yrs) and go! Tomorrow we leave for NY where we will spend three weeks visiting friends and family.
"Big" trips like WDW or Hawaii are reserved for when DH can go, I wouldn't take a trip like that w/ out him.

 

[SC Minnie]

He has taken trips back 'home' for a long weekend without me to see family and to golf outing with college friends. I am taking DD to FL this weekend without him and going to WDW in November with 2 other ladies. I have been wanting to take a long weekend 'me' trip to maybe Memphis but can't get everything together. DH has more vacation time than I do this year and is trying to get with his brother to take a trip- just the 2 of them.

We vacation a lot together but with work and home I need a break every once in a while.

 

[BigOnDis]

I have taken several "business" trips (WDW, Vegas) that were like mini vactions without my wife, but I have never gone on vacation without my wife. For that matter my wife and I have never gone anywhere more that overnight without our kids. We just enjoy spending time together so much. My wife is my best friend, so I would rather spend time with her and our kids than anyone else.

 

[katerkat]

He's going on a desert vacation for six weeks without me, soon. Oh, wait, that's business, I guess.

We travel apart, a lot. He just doesn't get the time off that I do, when he's even in the US. He'll be gone for Thanksgiving, so I'm going on a Disney cruise with my parents and sister. He'll be gone for Christmas, so I'm going to Jersey without him. He probably can't go to my sister's graduation or my other sister's wedding, so I'm going without him and making a vacation of it. He probably can't go to my friend's trip to DL for her mom's 50th bday, so we're going without him.

When he is around, though, we try to plan a last minute vacation for the two of us.

 

[Simba's Mom]

We vacation apart regularly, each taking a vacation apart once a year, and we also vacation together once or twice a year. DH takes a golf vacation for a week-golf, sleep, golf, sleep-not my idea of fun. I go to WDW around the Christmas holiday for a week solo every year. Then we go to HH together for a week, and go together to WDW in May where he golfs every day. So I'm "semi-solo" then too. However, every afternoon and evening we spend doing "Disney" things. Works great for us-22 years and looks like many more to go!

 

[PatriciaH]

No, DH is my best friend. I would miss him and seeing new things with him too much!

 

[flaps]

Have never taken a vacation without my spouse, but my spouse has taken a weekend or two in the past without me with my blessing, and will likely do so again sometime in the future.

 

[macraven]

my husband and i take all of our vacations separately, it's what keeps our marriage strong and lasting.

we were together for our honeymoon and our 25th anniversary this spring on a fabulous trip together. other than that, never.

i adore florida and he is into backpacking and woods. i am so lucky he sends me off to disney and universal every year and never complains. he gets to go west and loves it.

i just assumed most married couples took separate vacations.

 

[Dancind]

Well, we used to take all our vacations together, now we take most of them separately. DH became a scuba fanatic a couple of years ago, so I'm the equivalent of a golf widow, I guess. I'm not interested in scuba diving, just don't think I'm in good enough shape for it and might get claustrophobic. But our daughter is certified now too. So this summer, I took her for a week in Vegas for a dance convention (bores him silly), he will go on a live-aboard for four days off Catalina (too deep for daughter), and then DD and I will spend a week in WDW together before school starts.

The last time we went to WDW for two weeks, he took the car several days to go diving (DD wasn't certified yet). We cruised last Christmas, they went diving at three ports. So I know what will happen when we take another family vacation to FL, I will have lots of solo days. We plan to move to FL in about five years when DD is ready for college, I doubt I will see much of my DH when this happens. My best bet for company is to plan a cruise (where they can only leave on port days), or just take DD on vacation with me. She doesn't go diving without Dad, she's only 13. I can get by without my husband, but I would miss my daughter!

 

[snoopy]

My DH and I sometimes vacation separately. I don't feel the least bit bad about it -- after all, he's a grown adult, he can take care of himself. And he has certainly always encouraged my independence and separate interests, as I have his.

One thing that I do mind is taking a vacation without my kids, unless they are with their Dad. So no going away just the two of us, not until they are much older.

 

[Beauty]

I never have, but I would. I have a trip planned in September that I would love to go on ALONE........my DH is very overprotective though. Makes me want to pull my hair out even though I love him to pieces.

This is a GIRL TRIP........a G-I-R-L trip and just because I would have to drive about 10 hours doesn't mean he has to worry....LOL! I'm 32 years old, and have a very reliable 2003 Tahoe with only 22,000 miles plus a cell phone I would be FINE!!!!

 

[leahannpen]

We do both! The best of both worlds. He usually goes to Canada fishing for a week every year, and I try to go to WDW with the girls for about 4, 5 or 6 nights every year...which is ALWAYS a blast. (Yes, we all have kids now too, from age 3 to 9!). Usually, about every other year or two or so, we take the kids and hubbies, but now that the kids are older, we can start taking them even without the hubbies, which we may do too. Our plans are subject to change.

But, my girl friends and I then will take some smaller trips with each other on the years we may not do Disney. And most of us take smaller trips with the hubbies too.

We are all flexable and all do both. It works for all of us!

 

[tammy]

Absolutely!!! My husband has no desire to travel, so I leave him at home. Vacationing is not a priority for him. He didn't grow up travelling and I did.

Although he is considering coming to WDW for a few days while we are there.

 

[Planogirl]

I've taken plenty of trips without DH both with and without DS. DH doesn't care much about traveling, doesn't like Disney and is often tied up at work anyhow. Besides, his idea of a vacation is usually sitting around the house not getting dressed and eating Spam or deer meat for dinner.

DS usually goes with me because he loves to travel almost as much as I do. The only exception is a rare weekend out somewhere with a friend.

However, DH is going with us this year to WDW and Universal. He won't go to the WDW parks with us but has no trouble finding something to do that he enjoys.

 

[J.Cooper]

Not us. We are each others best friend, no kids and love to travel together. Couldn't enjoy ourselves if we weren't together. Just wouldn't be the same. Only time we travel apart is due to work. Other than that, we are stuck like glue

 

[LScot]

Well, I don't know. Dh is my best friend & it is still OK for us so I guess you can't judge by that.

I think it is great when two married people have enough trust and enough independence to travel w/o each other. That isn't saying that married folks who do don't have trust and independence.

Dh and I would never vacation without DD though. We enjoy our time with her on trips. But many, many couples love traveling w/o kids. I think either is great.

Don't let others sway what you choose to do. As long as your spouse is OK with the trip or you with one of his, Go! Have a blast! Coming home is GREAT!

 

[mbw12]

Absolutely! My husband does his "male bonding trip" with his friends once a year. they go away for a 4 day weekend to a different football stadium each year to watch an NFL football game and sightsee in that city. I get a long weekend away with my girl frieneds to a differnet SPA once a year!!! (Personally, I totally think that I win the best trip contest between he and I....LOL!)

We alslo take one long weekend with just the two of us together with no kids. and of course, two week long vacations during the year as a family! We work very hard throughout the year....our vacations and time away are very important to us!!!

by the way....sorry for all the typos....I can spell....I just can't type!!!!!

Bobbi

 

[JerseyJanice]

During our marriage, I've gone away several times without my husband, but never without my son.

Summer is DH's busy time at work; it's tough for him to take off. However, his parents used to own a vacation home in the Poconos. I went there many times with my son and niece or his parents while he was at home working.

Likewise, my family rents places at the shore in the summer months and invites us down. My husband would never begrudge DS and me the opportunity to join them and enjoy our summer even though he can't. In fact, guess where I'm headed next month?

Personally, though, I do not feel right about taking too much of the family's resources (read: our money) to go to WDW or anywhere on a plane without him. I mean, driving up to the country or down the shore is one thing, but I wouldn't take a big trip unless he came with me and DS.

That said, I don't think it's wrong for other couples/families to do it. I think everyone has to live their lives the way that works out best for them.

For me, I'm not going away longer than a weekend without my baby, and I'm not flying anywhere without my hubby. But I don't think every woman should feel this way.

 

[newholiday]

DS & I usually take our summer vacas w/out DH
DHs idea of a day off is sitting in the cellar playing PS2
Our yearly WDW/FL fall vaca is our family vaca