Does anyone else ONLY find their SO attractive? No celebs?

[ReggieB]

When I first started dating my (now) DH he used to insist he found nobody else attractive, which I found a little implausible. I mean I appreciate perhaps no one he knew maybe, but no celebrities are you kidding me? Subsequently he has confessed that yes he does, and he has a revolving list of his "girls" Katie (Holmes) has just been unceremoniously dumped from it, for the whole TomKat thing. Kiera (Knightly) is doing very well, as is new comer Evangeline (Lily from Lost) However he will always have a place in his heart for his Kate (Winslet)

It doesn't bother me in the slightest, as I really can't see them turning up at our door anytime soon. Plus I have my own list!!! Tops at the moment is Clive Owen....and I have every faith he will turn up at my door (as long as Kate Winslet is in tow, DH has no problem with that!!)

 

[iggbees]

my boyfriend has deemed two hockey players (bruins guys, because that's his favorite team ) my "fake boyfriends" and i like to give him "fake girlfriends". i don't think i'd ever expect him to say that he doesn't find some girl attractive and likewise for me because that would just be lying.

 

[graygables]

Believe it or not, there are men out there (or actually right down the hall from me at the moment) who do NOT ogle other women and make a conscious choice not to disrespect the woman they are married to. My DH is *very* sensitive about these things, he even got up and left Marrakesh when the belly dancer came out (I was getting ready to pay the bill and he waited for me outside).

He believes that it is disrespectful to me to look at another woman like that and I believe it's disrespectful to him to look at a man. We both agree that certain individuals are nice-looking, but never EVER would any type of romantic inclination or desire play into it. And, no, he isn't lying to me nor am I naive (my ex was a "looker").

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Aren't you the poster who started a thread several days ago about being a jealous girlfriend? If so, he's probably trying not to set you off.

 

[Emme]

This is too funny, my husband is rather shy, and rarely will make eye contact with another woman .... I am the jealous type and he is very aware of that but hey he's human and I am sure he looks...BUT the funny part is that we will go to a beach and a beautiful woman will walk by in a string bikini and I'll say "Honey, look, look at her is she thinner than me, is her hair nicer than mine...?" He'll look up and I'll be like "What are you looking at, stop looking at her, your staring" and slug his arm . He's like "You told me to look!!" Poor guy, I love to tease him...

 

[grinningghost]

Well of course I find other men attractive, and DH finds other women attractive. We wouldn't be human otherwise.

In fact, DH has a "problem" with news women. Specifically, one of the local news reporters, Ellen Maxwell on WIVB (look up WIVB.com - you can see her) and Alexandra Steele on Weather Channel. I never hear the end of it with those two.

 

[NCDisneyMom]

DH and I both find members of the opposite sex attractive. In fact, I'll point out pretty girls to him, and he'll point out hot guys for me to look at. We're married, but we're not dead!

We even have an agreement...if any of our celebrity crushes ever knock on our door, we have permission to go with them. We are kidding, of course. Like any celebrity is going to come knocking on our door.

 

[grinningghost]

We even have an agreement...if any of our celebrity crushes ever knock on our door, we have permission to go with them. We are kidding, of course. Like any celebrity is going to come knocking on our door.

Hold on, I'll finish reading this in a minute...

I think Keith Urban is at the door...

 

[lovmy2girls]

I love him too! Did you see him in High Crimes? Love that hot military look!

Yes I saw high crimes too, Loved it till the very end when he turned out to be the bad guy ! Very hot, love the military look too. Did you see him in Angel eyes with J Lo ? Hot Frequency with Dennis Quaid ,
Sad thing is I made ressies for WDW to see him, he is doing the CLP and they changed the dates ! So mad, but I can't change the dates.

 

[Mickey76]

My fiancee kind of got her fantasy man. She thinks I look like Justin Timberlake and she could not stop telling me when we first started dating. Thankfully, she also liked my charm and intellect and I was happy that I wasn't insecure about looking like the guy she really wanted.

I know my fiancee looks at other guys from time to time. We are both secure with each other....unless Justin knocks on our door or if my new fantasy girly, KELLY MONACO, realizes I am the best dance partner she will ever have.

 

[Jeafl]

I think that thinking someone is attractive and wanting to be with them are two different things. I can appreciate beauty in both sexes actually, but I have no desire to BE WITH anyone but my husband.

It just seems odd that someone would truly believe there is no beauty in anyone other than their spouse

 

[coolmom99]

Believe it or not, there are men out there (or actually right down the hall from me at the moment) who do NOT ogle other women and make a conscious choice not to disrespect the woman they are married to. My DH is *very* sensitive about these things, he even got up and left Marrakesh when the belly dancer came out (I was getting ready to pay the bill and he waited for me outside).

He believes that it is disrespectful to me to look at another woman like that and I believe it's disrespectful to him to look at a man. We both agree that certain individuals are nice-looking, but never EVER would any type of romantic inclination or desire play into it. And, no, he isn't lying to me nor am I naive (my ex was a "looker").

Finding someone attractive is not "ogling" them nor is it disrespectful, it's normal. It sounds like your DH walks on eggshells around you. Most likely you are both very jealous types. I think you're both lying to each other.

 

[christinadei]

I think men other than DH are attractive, but it is sort of weird that I really don't notice whether men are good looking or not. When out, I just don't pay attention, because I'm not interested. There are some celebs that I think are hot, but I'm forced to look at them I know that there are celebs that DH thinks are attractive, and that's fine. I think it's only natural.

 

[Jynohn]

My husband is very much aware of my thing for Tom Brady and isn't bothered by it at all. He actually even teases me from time to time about it, after a not-so-great-game he'll say, "Did you keep your boyfriend out late last night?"

In return, I pretend along with him that he actually watches Charmed for the story lines

I think if it were real life, every day people we were talking about, I would have a twinge of jealousy but wouldn't make too big a deal about it. He has never given me a reason to doubt him, and I didn't expect him to put on blinders when we married. If he went around staring and ogling though that would definitely hurt my feelings. Thankfully he has more respect then to do that (in front of me at least!)

 

[dis ms.]

If my DH told me he wasn't attracted to anyone but me, it wouldn't give me any comfort. In fact, I would be suspicious as to why he felt it necessary to feed me such BS! Of course he's attracted to other women. I'm attracted to other men. It's only natural. Anyone that says they aren't is lying, IMHO.

There is a difference between attraction and ogling. My DH respects me enough not to do the latter. If a barely dressed woman walks by, I'm the one turning my head to look...and then I tell DH to look, too (so we can talk about her ).

To the OP, judging from some of the previous threads you've started about your relationship, I suspect your BF is just trying to avoid any jealous accusations. You have to suspect that he is attracted to other people. I mean, you admitted that YOU are, so why wouldn't he be?

 

[luvmydogs]

Yeah, what dis ms. said.

My goodness, there's nothing wrong with finding other people physically attractive--it's human nature, and as long as it's not acted upon, what's the harm? I find beauty in people of both genders, and my dh has a free pass if Pamela Anderson ever gives him a chance.

I can't imagine walking through a museum and being told I couldn't look at a Michaelangelo because it may upset my husband, Mr. Monet.

 

[RickinNYC]

It's completely natural and normal to find others attractive for cryin' out loud. There is not one modicum of disrespect involved. To think otherwise rings loudly of "kidding oneself." Now, to do the mouth open, tongue flapping, drooling, muttering, "hubba hubba" thing is a completely different story.

There are beautiful men and women all over the world. Acknowledging that fact isn't a bad thing. If you act on it though... well.... that's kinda bad.

Joe and I check people out all the time and we comment to the other. She's beautiful, he's handsome, aren't they a good looking couple, etc... Big deal.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Believe it or not, there are men out there (or actually right down the hall from me at the moment) who do NOT ogle other women and make a conscious choice not to disrespect the woman they are married to. My DH is *very* sensitive about these things, he even got up and left Marrakesh when the belly dancer came out (I was getting ready to pay the bill and he waited for me outside).

He believes that it is disrespectful to me to look at another woman like that and I believe it's disrespectful to him to look at a man. We both agree that certain individuals are nice-looking, but never EVER would any type of romantic inclination or desire play into it. And, no, he isn't lying to me nor am I naive (my ex was a "looker").

Why would he leave because of the belly dancer? There is nothing wrong with her dancing, it is family friendly, it's just a style of dancing, unless the one looking makes more out of it.

How is fidning another person attractive disrespectful??? DH and I have lots of conversations about who we find attractive. It doesn't bother either one of us, but then we both have healthy self esteems.

 

[CheshireVal]

Believe it or not, there are men out there (or actually right down the hall from me at the moment) who do NOT ogle other women and make a conscious choice not to disrespect the woman they are married to. My DH is *very* sensitive about these things, he even got up and left Marrakesh when the belly dancer came out (I was getting ready to pay the bill and he waited for me outside).

Did you actually *want* him to get up and leave when the bellydancer came into the room?

I'm sorry, I'm finding the thought-process behind that really hard to understand. Does your husband go to football games where there are cheerleaders? Does he walk away when the princess characters are out at WDW? Is he not allowed to be in any room with an attractive woman? Only ugly women allowed?

 

[WDWDennis]

I'm happily married and I still look!! Heck, I even make comments to my wife when I see a hot chick!! She doesnt even care anymore. She is secure in herself, as am I, so its all fun to us. I even point guys to her once in awhile, it doesnt bother me.

We pretty much talk to each other just as best friends do! It doesnt matter what the subject is.